Thanks for your post. It sounds like your boy has tried really hard to figure things out, and perhaps he's still feel a bit unsure or bit overwhelmed by what he is going through. It seems that you have a good relationship with him, and that he asks for help, its wonderful to have that trust for each other.
Yes GP referral for a mental health care plan for him to access counselling or clinicical psych for support?
I also wonder if the professional who diagnosed him with ADHD and Aspergers , would they have any recommendations or understanding what he's going through and recommend appropriate services ?
Additional thought, with a diagnosis of adhd and aspergers, he might be eligible for NDIS funding within may help cover the financial costs for accessing counselling support and other areas of intervention . Just wondering if he's already linked in ?
I'm not sure if this is helpful.
Feel free to drop back in anytime for comment or update. I hope your son will find a way through this and able to link into the support he needs .