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Topic: struggling with special needs children

  1. Matchy69
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    Centrelink is just a pain.They have no idea
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    7 February 2022 in reply to Matchy69
    They are the worst.
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    They make it so hard for someone with mental health issues and my daughter is not 18 yet.Their is no compassion for anyone.
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    My daughter has a job interview Thursday at a pet store in the big town.It was from a resume she dropped of before Christmas.
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    8 February 2022 in reply to Matchy69
    Good on her, u must be proud Mark :) hope she gets it. Pets/ animals are amazing and can help mh so much. It would be a great place to work with animals around.
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    8 February 2022 in reply to golden82
    Thanks golden she would love this job if she gets it.The lady was very nice to her before Christmas when she handed her resume to her.
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    8 February 2022 in reply to Matchy69
    Hi Mark your daughter is so resilient going to interviews in fields she loves! Sounds so amazing for a young person, putting urself out there is really important and she has shown she can do it!
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    8 February 2022 in reply to Guest_1643
    Thanks sleepy I hope she can get something soon.It would be so good for her confidence.
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    My daughter sounds positive at the moment looking for work but if she has to many knock backs it will effect her mental health.
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    My daughter seems calm at the moment before the job interview in three hours time.I will get her do some yoga before hand while waiting.
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    10 February 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    I get scared before official stuff, and take it so personally when job interviews aren't successful, how does she stay calm? Yoga sounds helpful and grounding. Hope it went ok

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    The interview went well.They said they would call this afternoon but they never did so she must not have got the job unfortunately.I was really hoping she would get it.Looks like we will have to keep battling away with Centrelink
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    I am just disappointed for her as it sounded really promising for her.
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    10 February 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark,

    That's a shame. I think a lot of people are attracted to that kind of work with animals, so I wonder if they had a lot of applicants to chose from - that makes it so hard.

    I hope your daughter isn't too upset - it's a tough job market out there, so she just has to keep on trying - but it's disappointing for her. Gosh it's tough isn't it these days - when I was a young thing you could just walk straight into a job after you finished school.

    I know you feel disappointed for her too. Something else will come up. I hope TAFE is still going well for her.

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    10 February 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark, I hope something even better comes up.

    I was disappointed when I missed out onna good job, I think sadness is normal...hope she's OK. Nice to hear how she's going and sounds like she's been busy since finishing school and had an open minded approach, trying for different jobs.

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    Hi Hanna my daughter seems ok about it.I seem more upset then she is.I know how hard it can be to find work especially out here in something you want to do and be good at.Not many jobs like this are going and might be ages before another one pops up.Their was another couple of applicants for the position.She has Tafe tomorrow and is looking forward to it.I need to drop her off at 8am.Hopefully when she finishes this course she will have more of a chance to get a job in this field
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    The lady did ring to say my daughter didn't get the job.I am feeling it's a reflection on me as a parent.It is so hard to find work in this field especially out here where it is so limited.And Centrelink is still stuffing her around.How is she suppose to survive on nothing?I think Centrelink needs a big overhaul.
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    12 February 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark,

    It's not your fault, as you've said the job market is tough out there, for a job with animals like that they probably had a lot of very keen applicants, and who knows why they chose the one they do, it could depend on so many things. I think after she's done the TAFE course your daughter might find things easier and the course might help to give her more self confidence too, and support from friends she makes during the course.

    Sorry about Centrelink, they are like this with everyone, I think they are overloaded after the pandemic, and the amount of paperwork they need is ridiculous. Everyone I know who has had to deal with them finds it awful!!!

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    12 February 2022 in reply to Hanna3

    Hi Mark, you got this, despite all those challenges you a day your daughter have got her 3 or 4 interviews....pretty amazing...maybe in the end they hired friends or relatives for the jobs...

    I felt devastated when I didn't get job interviews and would give up looking for ages, because I felt so embarrassed and worthless...I think u guys are doing the right thing keeping trying

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    12 February 2022 in reply to Guest_1643
    Hi sleepy I have never done a job interview ever probably due to my fear of being rejected.I feeling the rejection my daughter is getting.I don't want her to feel the rejection as I know it will effect her mental health if you keep getting rejected.
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    12 February 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark, it's ok, I think getting rejected and being OK with it is a great life skill

    I'm really scared of applying for properties and getting g eejected so I don't apply unless I'm 100 percent certain I'll get it,...I also take rejection really badly

    I think the ability to handle rejection can show self esteem.

    Sometimes we get rejected for jobs even when we are a great candidate.,.

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  22. golden82
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    12 February 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark,

    Sorry to read your daughter missed out on the job. It sounds as though she is handling it okay. I agree with Hanna and Sleepy and there could be so many reasons they picked who they did. It's great to keep trying and to remember the majority do miss out. Eventually she will find something- it is all practice and getting used to interviews too. So it is not really a loss. You sound so caring of your kids. Especially feeling her pain. She is lucky to have a Dad like you. Take it easy on yourself Mark; you are doing a great job with your kids :)

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    13 February 2022 in reply to golden82
    Thanks golden I think it will be awhile before she can find something.Very few jobs come up that she could do.I will get her to try the RSPCA for volunteering again as she's 18 next Saturday.They wanted their volunteers to be 18 y.o.Not much else around.
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    I just feel so disappointed for her as this was just her dream job.She looked on the internet before and their was nothing for her apply for.Earning your own money can make you feel so good about yourself and give you independence.I think I am feeling the pain more then she is as I know their isn't many jobs out there at the moment.
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    13 February 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark,

    The rspca volunteering sounds a good place to start. I looked into it 5 yrs ago and again more recently and where i am they only had cleaning roles and not being with the animals. Still it is a start; but the animal jobs were so popular that they weren't available. I hope where u are your daughter can get a mix and not just the washing etc. Still it is a foot in the door for a young person. You'll have a big weekend coming up then for her 18th. Special birthday that's for sure. To be young again hey?

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    14 February 2022 in reply to golden82
    Hi golden the RSPCA is popular and hard to get into.The cleaning rolls are vital but not the most glamorous and not the ones you automatically think of.A volunteering job like that would help her get into a paid job.
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    14 February 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Mark

    Just catching up on your thread. It is sad and disappointing for you and your daughter not get the job but I agree volunteering in the area she likes will help her get experience and show how keen she is. Often in volunteering you can start with work that is not what you want to do but after a while you can be doing the work you like.

    Your daughter has a wonderful supportive dad and that will help her cope with disappointments.

    Take care

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    14 February 2022 in reply to quirkywords
    Thanks quirky for your kind words and support.It would be so nice to see her to do something she really enjoys.
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    My son didn't really have a good first week of school and had a melt down and hurt himself.The specialist said to increase one of his medications but that has seemed to to not improved anything more the oppiste.Just going to email the specialist and see what she advises us to do.
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    14 February 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Mark, you are such a great Dad! You have to deal with so much on your own. I think you're amazing to manage all this, and I hope you remember to look after yourself as much as you can as well. You are dealing with so much at the moment.

    I honestly admire you.

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