Sorry to be so long replying. It seems that I am either out doing necessary errands or at home doing necessary tasks. Where is 'my' time. However we all have these hectic, no time to think pressures which drag us off course.
It's good you are going to talk to a psychologist. You do need to monitor your own mental health, physical health also. Your friends seems to move two steps forward and one back. Is this how you see it? The biggest problem is how long between steps. And of course how well can you keep mentally healthy. I know about feeling guilty. I have a friend who has had a bad couple of years and was constantly phoning me for reassurance. I have supported her to the best of my ability and at times have felt exhausted by the attention she needs.
Like your friend, my friend cannot see past her own beliefs. She is entitled to believe what she wants but it sure makes support difficult. She has grown up believing her parents views, which I consider brain washing, and is stubborn about changing. I can see how terrifying it would be to completely change her life which I am certain she will never do. The other option is to withdraw from people contact and become a recluse. I find it difficult and have stepped back a little because, like everyone else, I have my own difficulties to manage. It's really difficult to make decisions about supporting someone who does not appear to see how much this effort is costing. If she could move forward a little I would be there more.
Feeling guilty about not getting someone from being very unwell to managing is something we seem to be hard wired to do. We know it's good to help our neighbours (wherever they are), and it makes us feel good when it happens. Stepping back from someone does smack of abandonment and how much this would hurt the other person. Walking that tightrope is a clever trick and we do not always manage.
It is of course easy to say be aware of yourself and your health and hard to manage. So talking to a psych about this can be helpful especially in managing your feelings, guilt, and self confidence. Keep in the back of your mind when there is a problem. If you think any of these posts are useful enough to talk over with your psych, you can print them out and take them with you.
I hope you will let us know how your psych appointment went. But as always, only say what you feel comfortable to say.