Hi Justme and welcome to the forum;
I'm glad you've plucked the courage up to write about your DBT experience. There's a couple of people here who've done it and you might like to talk to. I'll put the word out..
I see you've used specifics in your intro; without knowing you and what you're wanting out of therapy, I don't really know how to comment. I'll give it a shot though..
In my opinion, getting caught up with words is an easy fix; you just change them to match the outcome you want. Make them work for you, not the other way around. Does this make sense? So instead of saying "everyone needs to work harder, get better, be better", you could write;
"I could work harder, get better and be better at whatever I choose to put my mind to"
You'd OWN this statement; it provides choice in a gentle manner. Writing 'could' instead of 'should' or 'need to' takes the pressure off. It doesn't sound as if it's from someone else's voice and, it's not aimed at you being better at 'everything' which is stupid when you think about it. Most of all though, it's not generic. It's yours..
Hey girrrl! Don't sweat the small stuff eh! ;-)
Hope I'm on the right track and haven't confused the topic even more.
What do you think?