Your husband is so incredibly blessed to have you in his corner. For you to come here in search of making a positive difference speaks volumes when it comes to your nature.
Wondering if you've ever heard of a book called 'The Brain That Changes Itself' by Norman Doidge. It is a fascinating and empowering book regarding neuroplasticity. There are inspiring things about stroke recovery in there.
It must be an incredibly fearful time for your husband. It would make perfect sense for him to perhaps fear another stroke happening and/or fear the inability to fully recover all aspects of who he was before the stroke. Losing our sense of self can definitely be depressing, especially when dealing with a sudden and debilitating loss. Moving through the grieving stage into acceptance (accepting our power to make the difference we need so desperately) can certainly be a gradual process but one that sees us graduate to meet the challenges that face us and succeed through those challenges. Again, your husband is lucky to have you in his corner, as he fights to win back a positive sense of self. I imagine he's going to take a few hits on his way toward success but with you coaching him, you can celebrate the successes together.
Researching the most powerful and successful forms of stroke recovery might be part of your coaching strategy. If you and your husband are excited about positive possibilities worth trying, don't let professionals hold you back. Find a professional that supports your ideas. Significant breakthroughs can sometimes be about breaking through old outdated ways, into new ways that work even better. Maintain faith in yourself and your instincts.
Please take care of yourself during this incredibly challenging time. There are definitely times in life that can leave us asking the question 'While I'm exhausted raising everyone around me, who is actually raising me?' Make sure you've got the best support when it comes to raising your physical, mental and natural or spiritual energy levels. Try to remain as aware as possible (during this stressful time) to find a balance between what raises you and what naturally relaxes you. I know, easier said than done.
You are a powerful person Rospet2020. I imagine there will be times on the journey ahead where you may feel so exhausted that you don't recognise your power. It will always be there, even through the exhaustion, you just may not be feeling it.
Take care and heartfelt blessings to you :)