I really value the forums as a place to air our feelings and know that we'll be met with understanding and empathy.
Something that has been bothering me lately is this feeling of "followers" or cliques. I've read others mention similar.
For instance, you can read a post by a "popular" member, and it will get a bunch of "likes" and get responses.
Then someone else will say something truly valuable and valid or even similar to the "popular" person and it will be ignored.
For instance, I have supported a very popular member here for a long time. Maybe I've said something that offends them (I can't think what) but for the last 5 or 6 instances I've written a supportive post, they've completely ignored me. Or i will write a post and then anither "popular" member will write something similar and they get a thousand thumbs up and mine is ignored? I won't post there again, not because I don't care, but because it hurts.
I find it really (really) disheartening.
I understand when we disagree with what someone has said, or genuinely find it unhelpful ... but when it's just because you're not the "popular" one ... it can be hurtful.
I feel that it goes against why we are here.
Are we not here to support each other in our struggle and should we not celebrate each other's efforts to help one another, regardless of "popularity"?
I find it very off-putting and almost a form of bullying. It is definitely something that deters me from posting.