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Topic: Forums etiquette: give support to receive support

  1. blondguy
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    16 November 2018 in reply to DipsyDora

    Hi DipsyDora

    Thankyou heaps for your complimentary post that you find the forums 'comforting' It always a bonus when we receive feedback like yours Dora...Nice1

    You are a caring person to have answered some posts already and its very much appreciated too

    This is a management thread that doesnt get a lot of posts as its more of an informative thread....That aside you are more than welcome to post where ever you wish

    Great to have you as part of the forum family Dora. Im Paul and its good to meet you :-)

    my kind thoughts

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  2. Caz56
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    25 November 2018 in reply to jaynedoe
    Hi I need to talk to parents who are going through stress withtheir child
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    25 November 2018 in reply to Caz56

    Hello Caz56 and Welcome too!

    You are very welcome to post your thread topic under this subject if you wish...you will have more replies being a title that is relevant to what you are going through. Its a copy and paste link yet it will redirect you to our family issues support page that will be a huge help. Its easy....just have a look and if you get stuck please call out :-)

    www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/relationship-and-family-issues

    My kind thoughts

    Paul

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    25 November 2018 in reply to DipsyDora

    Hi DipsyDora and Caz, it's great to have you both on the site, you deserve our attention whenever you are able.

    Geoff.

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  5. StevoP
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    22 December 2018 in reply to Chris B
    Yeah I agree you need to try and acknowledge other people as well. I'm not good at acknowledging others' suffering and pain mentally, but I do try and be a good person and acknowledge, think that they need to hear people aka myself in the case Im talking about say nice things to them. Even if it was just tonight wishing this girl a good Christmas and a good New Years celebration, as well as a good New Year it all counts and I have tried to show an interest in how things are going recently. With mixed emotions myself admittedly and I'm not sure she appreciates it but its the thought and doing it that counts again
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    22 December 2018 in reply to StevoP

    Hi StevoP

    Good on you for posting your thoughts as they are just as valid as mine or anyone else's!

    By wishing someone a Happy Christmas and New Years you have showed some serious TLC towards others..Your heart is kind and thankyou for being a part of the forums too :-)

    I hope you and your family have a great Christmas and New Years too

    my kind thoughts and thankyou again for posting with us :-)

    Paul

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  7. Msimok
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    10 May 2019 in reply to Chris B
    Brilliant post I'm only new although i am seeking help support information I would certainly like to give where I can.
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  8. quirkywords
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    10 May 2019 in reply to Msimok

    Msimok

    Welcome to forum. This is the place to get support and information and also to be able to help others.

    You can post on other threads or start your own.

    Welcome again

    Quirky

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  9. Msimok
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    10 May 2019 in reply to quirkywords
    Thank you for the warm welcome quirky
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  10. Tay100
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    3 March 2020

    Hi there,

    I totally agree with everything said here! Also, if you are responding and reaching out to people, then taking time for self-care be to be really helpful too, and actually will improve the quality of the posts as well! Does anyone know of a self-care thread here? Especially for those who provide support on here?

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  11. blondguy
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    3 March 2020 in reply to Tay100

    Hello Tay100

    Welcome to the forums and thankyou for posting too!

    Most of the 'self-care' thread topics are listed under these copy & paste links below..There are many threads for people that provide support on the forums...The bulk of them are listed in 'staying well'

    www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well

    also

    www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/do-you-like-yourself-your-thoughts-are-welcome

    any questions are always welcome Tay100

    my kind thoughts

    Paul

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  12. Tay100
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    4 March 2020 in reply to blondguy
    Ah, thanks so much, I'll check them out!
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    6 March 2020 in reply to Tay100

    Hi Tay100

    no worries and thankyou for being a part of the Beyond Blue forums too!

    Have a great weekend

    Paul

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  14. Tay100
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    7 March 2020 in reply to blondguy
    Cheers! The Do you Like Yourself thread has been great so far :)
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  15. ecomama
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    5 May 2020 in reply to oh her

    Hi oh her!

    I feel that way too! But I sure do love those kitty cats - toooooo cute.

    I have been doing SO MUCH online study on mental health and besides it making me go a bit crazy (joke), I realised a couple of things for the first time - yeah takes me a while...like decades.

    SO if we all need good relationships to live healthier lives, how do we do this when we feel like we have nothing to offer ie feel like crap (are we allowed to say crap?)?
    Insert answer here.... please.
    My 2c is start somewhere.... here even.

    Somewhere I read that we need more than just positive thinking ie action. I've been "positive thinking" myself into oblivion it feels for decades. I am sure it has helped a lot but it certainly didn't automatically lead to ACTION which is what I recently saw as a recommendation.

    SO ughhh "action" blerggh (I am allowed to say this?)… what DO we do if we don't feel like doing exercise. Insert answer here... please.
    My 2c is blow the "exercise" word off. I'm replacing it with doing what I want to do that is FUN. I LOVE putting on loud music and dancing, my dog loves dancing with me and my kids love laughing at me, all good.
    I LOVE gardening and doing it from dawn until dark. My garden loves me back too with yummy fruit and vegies, happy worms and happy pets.
    I LOVE painting and almost don't care what I paint. If it doesn't move it needs paint. If I had friends that visited, I'd paint them in the garden whilst dancing.

    I like to smile. I try to remember to smile if I am frowning. If there is one action to do every waking hour of every day then smiling is my favourite action. I am committing these actions to myself because the world needs a happier me.

    Yours in a happier world Oh her, I am really happy to meet you.

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  16. quirkywords
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    5 May 2020 in reply to ecomama

    Welcome ecomama to the forum,

    like your attitude about making positive thinking to action

    . I'm replacing it(exercise) with doing what I want to do that is FUN.

    That is sensible suggestion.

    I like that yo do what you LOVE doing.

    Your post is full of joy.

    So you can see people don't see this thread a lot. If you want to you can start your own thread. Just a thought.

    Your words made me smile. Thanks and welcome again.

    Quirky

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  17. ecomama
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    8 May 2020 in reply to quirkywords

    Thanks Quirky, it's nice to know you smiled at my post, that makes me smile back. :-)

    Yeah I kind of get my back up when the word exercise is mentioned. I guess I want more than just exercise.

    That might be a good post right there or somewhere lol.

    So please to meet you. I hope you're having a lovely day.

    EM

  18. Confusedmum74
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    9 July 2020 in reply to Chris B
    Hi Chris this is great advice and I’m glad to see some thing like this mentioned I’m new here and look forward to chatting with others and getting to know people and offer whoever support I can big or small. I have always found some times even a virtual hug can help as well.
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  19. quirkywords
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    13 July 2020 in reply to Confusedmum74

    Confusedmum74

    welcome to the forum.
    This forum is a supportive and friendly place,

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  20. Deb 71
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    18 November 2020
    Hi I am posting for the first time and have to admit i find it extremely daunting but i know i need to do something to start helping myself while i wait for my first psychologist appointment in december. I need to deal with alot of issues and my depression and anxiety is robbing me of my happiness and life. I have to start somewhere and i guess for me this is it
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  21. ecomama
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    18 November 2020 in reply to Deb 71

    Welcome Deb71!

    I hope you find the forums a comforting space to come to where people really understand what we're going through.

    If you'd like to look around in and post you are most welcome to do this.

    You can also begin your own thread for people to comment on your specific topics.

    Best wishes
    EM

  22. quirkywords
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    18 November 2020 in reply to Deb 71

    Deb

    I too welcome you to the forum.

    I am glad you have a plan an decided to post.

    as ecomama says you can start your own thread as more people would see it. Or look at threads on depression and anxiety and see if there is one you would like toreplt to or just read and browse.

  23. DUpt
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    27 November 2020 in reply to Grunt

    Hi Chris,

    You are doing well. Keep it up. You have a lot of energy inside you and you need to use that energy. Actually, sharing in this forum is a path to recovery. I am new in this forum but your words touched me.

    You did a great job helping another needy person who was in need of support. I believe that everyone is born with a special ability. You have ability to counsel needy people and show them their strength. This approach helps you to find your strengths too.

    Always keep your self-esteem high and keep giving and seeking support. Also, think about a positive change you can bring in your life, and start exercising for that in the way you like. Later, write down the positive change you bring in your life in this forum. Please remember to explain how you became able to bring that change. This will help everyone in need of support and help yourself the most.

    Regards,

    DUpt

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