Hi Mum of three,
I know that you’re struggling very much, & it sounds like you have been struggling for some time too. I feel some of it through your writing. You sound overwhelmed and nervous, & understandably so...
I’m very sorry about your father’s recent diagnosis. I feel the timing, which coincided with the birth of your 3rd child, must have elicited some conflicting & difficult emotions...
I think your children clearly mean the world to you, & even in that 1 paragraph, I can tell you really want to be there for them. I think that’s beautiful...
I’m not a doctor, but I think it’s very unlikely that your GP will deem you “unfit” to parent if you present with mental health issues. If anything, I think it would show that you’re someone who wants to take care of yourself by seeing your doctor, so you can be in the best possible headspace for yourself & therefore, your kids.
If it helps, I know there are many other forum members who are parents here. Many of which have seen their GPs about their mental health issues, and generally they are just assessed & possibly given a mental health care plan.
I don’t know the specifics of your situation. But speaking purely as a peer (& not as a health professional), I think it‘s relatively rare for a GP to “report” a parent. I suspect it applies more to circumstances related to abuse, neglect, other extenuating circumstances, etc.
Generally speaking, most parents who struggle with their mental health are perfectly capable of taking care of their kids, & I think doctors recognise & know this. I hope this helps reassure you a little.
Thanks so much for bravely reaching out here. If you’re feeling up to it, it would be lovely to hear how you’re doing. But no rush or pressure of course, just when and if you feel like sharing some more about yourself.
Kind & caring thoughts,