Welcome to the forums doithough
Thanks Geoff for Ur helpful info, I didn't know if u could go alone over 16, I think I did so at that age.
I felt I should join in because I wanted to open up the conversation a bit around diagnosing depression.
Ur old enough and know urself best, and it sounds like u feel concerned that u need help
Being told that Ur lazy isn't fair or true regarding how ppl experience being unwell or distressed in their life , pol who are very hard working can and do struggle with the symptoms Ur sharing, if they are down or depressed .
In terms of getting help and reaching out for attention, I ask gently if we can relook at that concept.
Even if someone was saying they were depressed for attention, would that not be a sign they needed help? Some ppl don't know how to ask for help , so it co,es out in a dramatic way, not because they are faking it, but because they struggle to express their pain.
For some ppl, it hasn't been safe to ask for help. They may be mocked or talked down to , or stigmatised, for reaching out. I think asking for help is brave and a sign of strength and self care. I think there are ppl who will listen and care, and its good to try and speak to those who will support u. If it's not Ur family, it can be someone else. Do u have a friend or other relative who may have struggled with mh, or who you trust ? Unforutantkey for many of us, our parents aren't supportive, and may even discourage us from getting well. In that case I'd say, reach out, Sure, but reach out with discretion, to those who are sympathetic about mh.