I recently met a man on Facebook I bonded with through our shared struggles with mental health. Our relationship quickly blossomed. The conversation was flowing so freely that we were on Messenger for hours every day, we have so much in common and I thought I'd found my 'person'. I have trouble dating irl because I suffer from depression and anxiety, as does he. He lives in America and I am in Australia, and we discussed meeting in the future if all continues to go well.
Three days ago, he shut me out because I asked him a question about his living situation and he got upset. He has told me that he avoids confrontation, and that also, when he begins to develop feelings for a woman, he will sabotage the relationship as a defence mechanism because he doesn't feel that he is good enough to love. I thought I was willing to try to be with someone who has mental health issues , because I struggle with 'normal' people, as they cannot understand what i go through.
I'm confused about how to recognise mental health issues, avoiding strategies etc, compared to Narcissism; and also, if it is possible to be in a relationship with a Narcissist without being destroyed completely. I have never met anyone like this man, and I'm not ready to let go - but I'm not sure, also, if my own isolation, depression and low sense of self-worth have lead me to a point where I simply have no standards.