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  1. Johnfromgawler
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    28 November 2017
    Hi everyone. Just signed up so I can have a place to chat about my depression and anxiety. Feel I am losing the battle.
    1 person found this helpful
  2. White Rose
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    28 November 2017 in reply to Johnfromgawler

    Hello John

    Welcome to the forum. It's great that you have joined up. What would you like to talk about? Depression and anxiety are old friends for many of us here. Jump in and tell us how you are going.

    Mary

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  3. Way in
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    20 January 2018 in reply to Johnfromgawler
    I have 'no one cares no one cares no one cares' repeating on a loop in my head.
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  4. Ggrand
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    20 January 2018 in reply to Way in

    Hello Way in,

    I am sorry your struggling, and feel the way you are.

    Welcome to the forums, This is safe place full of people who really genuinely care, I'm one of those people,

    Do you want to talk about how you're feeling. Only if you want to.

    Kindness only

    Grandy.

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  5. Jacquiems
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    20 January 2018 in reply to Way in
    I'm here too, I care. I'm sitting here typing because I feel I can't ring my friends and family.
    No one seems to understand. I can't turn my mind off, I cant stop the fear (of everything) so you're not alone.

    Is there anything you'd like to talk over? for me it seems to be fear of fear and scared that I'll never be better on and envy of other people who don't suffer with mental health problems.
    Don't suffer alone hey
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  6. Ggrand
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    20 January 2018 in reply to Jacquiems

    Hello Jacquiem,

    Welcome to Beyond Blue Forums,

    I am sorry you are struggling with fear and being afraid,

    I can understand how your feeling, I have also and still do struggle with fear, its not a good feeling to get.

    Maybe if you could make an appointment and speak to your GP about how your feeling, he/ she can get you help , meds, therapy . Just wondering if you have tried this at all.

    I hear you about not being able to turn your mind off, I find what works for me when I'm ready to sleep is to do some meditation (guided). then I put gentle soft music on and concerntrate entirely on the music, listening and singleing out the different instruments, this is living in the moment,

    Thtough the day distraction works by giving your mind a break from your thoughts of fear, something that you could try are internet games ie: jigsaws, colouringin, the idea is to fully concerntrate on the task your doing. I was told a few months ago that our brain can think only one thought at a time, the more we try distraction the easier it gets.

    We can get better, but we need to want to get better and be pro active towards our mental health.

    There are lots of threads on bb with success stories, and many threads that has great suggestions about helping our selves, your welcome tom take a look through the threads, and feel free to join in the conversation if you want to.

    Talk here any time you want to. I'm not here always but I usually pop in a few times a day,

    Caring thoughts

    Grandy.

  7. White Rose
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    20 January 2018 in reply to Way in

    Dear Way in and Jacquiems

    Hello and welcome to Beyond Blue. It's good to meet you.

    It's sad when our friends and family have little knowledge about depression and anxiety. When we are feeling lonely and unloved we need people around to talk to or simply to be with. Can you look at the drop down list under The Facts at the top of the page. BB has lots of information you can read and download to your computer. Some of the information cannot be downloaded and you will need to ask BB to send it out to you.

    I think getting some of this information may be useful to you and useful to your family and friends There is at least one publication for family and friends. Ask for several copies and give them to your friends and family. No charge for sending you these items.

    Feeling that no one cares is a hard place to be. It's probably not true but is so hard to talk about your difficulties to someone who looks all together. They may have feelings just like you and like you would welcome the opportunity to chat. You would be surprised at how many people put on a mask in public to hide behind. It's probable that you also put on a mask because you feel you want someone to talk to but get a nervous about telling your friends.

    So chat about whatever troubles you. We don't bite.

    Way in, I often tell people about how they are feeling because I know how it feels and it's such a relief to know someone else feels this way. I have depression and it comes and goes. Probably more stressful when in a crowd of others. People are so nice when you start to struggle and they all show some empathy and understand where the information. We do remember being there.

    Jacquiems, I think you would be amazed at the number of people who have mental health problems and do what everyone else does, wear a mask in public. It is tiring to do this and uses the energy better used in getting well.

    It's good to talk here but I think you would be better served to start your own threads in the depression or anxiety forums. That way you are more visible and more people will chat with you. At the moment you are flying under the radar when you discuss your problems under Johnfromgawler's thread. I think he is simply introducing himself, but it's good to support others. Just start your own threads so we know where you are and can talk about your specific difficulties.

    Mary

  8. geoff
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    20 January 2018 in reply to Johnfromgawler
    hi John, Way in and Jacquiems, well what else can I say that's not been said, but who better to talk to than someone who has been done the same road that you have.

    Sometimes as soon as you start talking then we realise what's going to follow, never the less, it's always best to tell someone, and we are a group of people who have been down that track and maybe still are. Geoff.
  9. Guest_4810
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    20 January 2018 in reply to Johnfromgawler

    Hey John, How are you doing in South Australia?

    No you are not going to lose any battle John because I am going to be with you.

    By the way I am Bob from Townsville.

    Now you stay in touch with this group and me.

    Take care John.

    Much love.

    Bob.

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  10. Guest_83
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    23 June 2018 in reply to Johnfromgawler
    Often can feel like that , hold strong , it does get better . Like the roller coaster , embrace the good days
  11. Brandon81
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    25 June 2018 in reply to Jacquiems
    Hi there jacquiems (and everyone else ) i am new here to i understand what you are going through whilst our situations may differ it seems that we all end up in the same rut however in reading the posts i feel we are somewhat more normal as there are many of us here. On our own we feel emotionally drained and alone but by having people who are going through the same thing it makes iteasier for me to speak and not feel ashamed about its seems that together we can be strong and fight it together and not be alone as we all seem to want to prop up each other to get us out of "the rut"
  12. Micky J
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    30 March 2019

    Hi. I’m new on here. I’m just at a point I feel so helpless. I have a good job and 3 healthy adult children, 19 to 23, whom are my world. I live alone. Divorced 4 years now. I have a social partner but it’s more for company than love. For both of us. But my life story since birth is long and filled with titanic sadness. I’m a good man and a hero to my kids and I have friends etc and I have talents n I’m strong n healthy......

    but everything is just such a mess and I cannot seem to find the good in anything anymore and I’m exhausted and find myself crying to sleep or in tears in the shower. I wish for so many things to change but I cannot change these things and the hard part for me is that a lot of my problems are not caused BY me.... a lot are bad memories or my deep feeling I have wasted a big part of my life on others and now I’m left with nothing and they have everything because of me. I feel hurt, used and very much alone.

    I now often have thoughts of just giving up but I can’t bring myself to do that because there are those that depend on me to be strong..... which in itself is a heavy weight.

    I feel numb. 😞

  13. Snoopy88
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    4 June 2019 in reply to Micky J

    Hi micky.

    i just read your post it was a while back. I’m sorry to hear what you have gone through. How are you feeling now? I’m going through a tough time aswell. Have really bad anxiety it’s paralysing. I’m always in constant fear. Would love to chat with you if your free to. Hope your in a better place at the moment. I’m really struggling. Starting a new medication in July I hope it works and my life turns around. Do you have people to talk with? If not I’m here to listen.

  14. Jurani
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    5 June 2019 in reply to Micky J
    Hi, I know that feeling. When you keep giving to other people it can be exhausting. This is a time when you have to sit back and focus on yourself for a change, eg nurturing yourself. It's easy to get lost in all of this when you're continually giving. Please shift the focus onto yourself. It's important. You sound like a decent person. We always need a rest from this. It doesn't matter how long that is, you'll know? It could be days, weeks or even months, there is no time frame. Put yourself first. Only then can you find the strength to help other people. Take care, xx
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  15. ..............
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    30 October 2019

    Hi ,

    I have a lot going on in my live and don’t want to bother my friends because it’s not something the should worry about but anyway last month or so I’ve been so anxious and now I’ve distanced my sec from so many people

  16. Anna-lisa
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    8 April 2021

    Hello everyone, at the moment I’m suffering from anorexia and in a dark place

    and what’s worse is my mum is losing a lot of weight and is very depressed what do I do?

  17. Sophie_M
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    8 April 2021 in reply to Anna-lisa
    Hi Anna-lisa, 

    We are really sorry to hear that you are suffering with anorexia, that must be incredibly difficult. Thank you for showing the courage to reach out for support on the forums - that is a very brave step to take. It also sounds like you are supporting your mum on her own journey towards mental health. We would encrouage both yourself and your mum to reach out to the BeyondBlue phoneline (1300 22 4636) and speak to one of the trained professionals there. 

    Another wonderful resource is the Butterfly Foundation which specialise in supporting people with eating disorders. You could give them a call on 1800 33 4673 or try their webchat service at https://butterfly.org.au/get-support/chat-online/.

    Hopefully there are some good places to start for you. Thank you again for being a part of the community and feel free to drop back in and let us know how you are going when you feel ready.

    Kind regards, 

    Sophie M 
  18. Sueondafarm
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    14 April 2021 in reply to Johnfromgawler

    First we have drought, now the virus. I feel so! So!

    I am an over 50 always been the rock for my family, but I can't keep up any more.

    for instance we are primary producers (hay contracting & cropping) and in business the ato wants you to use online more & more, but i do not understand it, the accountant has no idea what i am talking about, and i feel we are missing out on any help because we are behind. i have some what computer skills, my husband has none. when i asked ato is there anywhere i can go to learn what i need to know there response was keep surfing you will figure it out. My point being is i feel i am like crazy dog chasing my tail, getting now were. this is only one of many issues i am trying so hard to cope with. i do everything in this household, my husband is now on antidepressants as we have had to start liquidating ( for far less than worth ) and he does as much farm work as he can.. but my biggest issue is i cant use the phone anymore, sounds silly really but if a phone rings i cringe like cat to a dog

  19. SD0102
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    14 April 2021 in reply to Sueondafarm
    Hi Sueondafarm, it does seem like it is never ending. I live in a rural community and have a small business with my husband. Areas around us have been touched by the drought, & then fires early last year and then Covid. Lucky for our town we are also a tourist destination so once lock down ended mid last year our town has been very busy & we’ve had done good rain for the farmers. In town though we are still on water restrictions. I am just under 50 and do all of the books for work etc. Although not too bad on the computer, I too at times find it’s very frustrating trying to source information on the internet & via the ATO. This was especially elevated trying to navigate all of the new rules & regulations about running a business during Covid and being compliant. Even now, I feel anxious that we still could be shut down at anytime due to a case of Covid, it’s always lurking in the background. At times I feel it all too much & very overwhelming. I developed really bad anxiety last year and was not coping at all. Even these last few days, I haven’t been able to motivate myself & find myself on the lounge in tears. During this time I have also started going through peri menopause/menopause and this hasn’t helped, only heightened how I’ve been feeling. The joys of being a woman ! My husband as well has no idea on computers and doing the pays, BAS etc so I get where you are coming from there and feeling like you are being burdened with all of the stress. Although I haven’t really helped you, maybe you mightn’t feel so alone. Take care & reach out if you need. SD
  20. Sueondafarm
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    15 April 2021 in reply to SD0102

    SD0102 is nice you took the time to reply

    At this point in time for me I wish I had a close friend, no one to talk to is sending me up the wall,, sometimes feel like doing a shirley valentine (if you have ever watched the movie ) .. finished doing my books today to try and get help, rather a shocker $149,000 in loss, hard bullet to take,, would be nice if ato would offer once in awhile to do business seminars with Q&A time ,, but that would consist of common sense,, i have no confidence in our gov .. don't think would be appropriate to say what i really think

  21. SD0102
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    15 April 2021 in reply to Sueondafarm

    Hi Sueondafarm, I’m happy to listen whenever you need. I was having a couple of down days earlier on in the week, and it’s amazing how much it helped by reaching out on here.

    That sure is a big bullet to swallow. Not that I’m much good with this sort of stuff, but is there any government grants/funding that you are eligible for ?

    We have good friends that were impacted during the drought and I know there was plenty of hoops to jump through to receive help. Silly things like you were able to getting funding or tax incentives to buy a new tractor but no help to get feed. No point in a new tractor if your animals are dying in the paddock ! Or no point in sowing crops when there’s no water !

    Please reach out whenever you need.

    Take care SD

  22. SD0102
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    4 May 2021 in reply to Sueondafarm

    Hi Sueondafarm

    Just checking in, hope you are going ok ?

    regards SD

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