dear Shiftingsand, hi and thanks for joining us, as your experience and knowledge would be well appreciated.
To Cherpieus, my sister would go into see my Mum 5 times a week at the nursing home she was in, and when my dear Mum passed away it was hard for her to know what to do, so she took up painting, and worked 1 day a week.
Your father has done a terrific and caring job by being at the nursing home for all those hours, and perhaps he can still visit the home and help out.
However when your dad does have the time when your mum passes away, he has to try and find a hobby or a group like 'Men's Shed' to try and get involved in, because he can't just stay at home doing nothing, although there will be a time where he wants to grieve, and that's only natural, but he may need a little push after awhile, because he may say 'I will soon'.
If he has an old friend then the two of them may decide to go fishing, play golf or go away, but he needs to get involved into something that he enjoys and wants to do. Geoff.