Hi Jan, welcome
Anxiety is a serious illness. When parents have anxiety it can often download to our children.
Anxiety is not easy to eliminate but it can be done. It,like many mental disorders, requires several forms of approach to maximise your chances of recovery.
If you lead the way then you'll benefit your sons with your techniques.
Please Google the following for further information
Beyondblue topic anxiety, how I eliminated it
Again, a warm welcome