Welcome to the Beyond Blue Community. If you were to go to the Anxiety section here , you would find a lot of posts similar to yours!
You wrote that you know what you need to do, but you are feeling very weak right now.
Can you write down the things that you think will be beneficial to you and then try to do those things one at a time. If you think you need to do everything at once, that can make you feel even more overwhelmed.
Is it possible for you to meet some of your wife's friends for example in a small gathering at home or at a restaurant? That way you might not feel so overwhelmed.
Have you managed to find like minded people with hobbies and interests the same as yours? Can you expand on the activities that you enjoy?
Can you try to reduce a little of the alcohol that you consume? I try to encourage my husband to have a glass of water now and then between drinks. It doesn't happen, but at least I try! Ha. Ha. Cutting back the amount you drink would be a good start.
I don't know if you drink every day, maybe you could select one day a week to be alcohol free.
This is a safe place to share how you are feeling as no one is judgemental. Hope you feel free to share more of your story.
Cheers for now from Mrs. Dools