Hi Julie, congrats for finding the strength to leave the relationship. I left my ex just over a year ago, he too was narcissistic, however his was subtle, never direct. He would put me down to his family but he would make a joke of it. Took me a long time to 'wake up'. When I first left, he was extremely supportive, even helped me move. He would come to help me, but joke that I couldn't stand on my own. My first independent strike (if you like) was to move my microwave from where he had placed it. That move took me 7 months, I was worried that he would visit and comment. We are now better friends because I no longer let him control me. I developed a subtle way of ignoring his remarks. Instead of allowing him to belittle me I started thanking him for each suggestion (thanking, but not following). He has no idea that I have grown from a scared mouse to a determined woman who has a mind. We are not divorced, probably never will, however he now accepts I have a right to be who I am instead of being his wife. I'm not looking for a relationship as I am scared to commit. I take my hat off to you for having the courage to try again. We all wear hats (masks) when we're in public. Maybe keep this new relationship casual, see how things work. He's possibly as concerned as you, you're new to him too. Take each day as it comes. If you're not sure, don't commit to something that might not right for you or him.