Hi Rasha,

Welcome to the Beyond Blue forums and thank you for reaching out. We are really sorry to hear about all the challenges you have gone through. Losing your home country, being a refugee in a different country and then losing a relationship sound very difficult. It's understandable that you are going through a rough time and want someone to talk to. We want you to know that you are in a safe, non-judgemental space and hopefully you can find the support you need from our wonderful community.

Please also know that our Support Service is always here for you, 24/7 if you'd like to talk these feelings through on 1300 22 4636, or also through our webchat (1pm-midnight) at our website here: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport

You can also contact our friends at Lifeline anytime at 13 11 14.

We'd encourage you to create your own new thread so that you can continue opening up about what's been happening for you at the moment and get the best possible, focused support from our amazing community members. On the first page of this thread are instructions on how to create your own thread if that’s helpful.That page also has some tips and visuals to help you navigate the forums.

We are really glad to have you here with us and we hope you will keep reaching out and sharing what you are experiencing, whenever you feel up to it.

Kind regards,

Sophie M
 

Hello all you lovely kind people. It is very uplifting to get encouraging messages. Im not having an easy time.The dystonic pain Im experiencing is bad as it restricts my movements. To make things worse, the hospital took me off my anti depressant meds for no reason and my mood was getting worse. Finally the GP put me back on it at once.Sorry for winging, but I needed to get it off my chest. Im refusing to speak to the palliative care nurse. He spoke to me in a demeaning manner and gave me the impression I was faking my symptoms. The dear movement disorder nurse was so understanding and reassuring. At least she believed me. I wish all you lovely people God,s Blessings. Chunty

Hi chunty,

We’re so sorry to hear you were treated this way and have been going through so much. We’re glad you could share here. As you know, this community is really supportive and will offer comfort and understanding through this difficult time.

There’s no need to apologise. We’re here for you, and we’re glad it gives you some relief to get it off your chest. If you’d like to, we encourage you to keep sharing over on your thread – this way it’s a bit easier for the community to spot your posts. (We mean no harm and know you’re thanking the lovely community for their kind messages here on this thread! It’s just a tip for future posting.)

Please also know that our Support Service is always here for you 24/7 if you'd like to talk this through, on 1300 22 4636.

Kind regards,

Sophie M

I would if i could find the button

Hey people, never thought i would try this thing online, but I’m 16 and currently seeking advice/someone to talk to about my situation, how do I start?… well last year I found out I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression and at only 16, it impacts me and the way I wanna live, my “mates” are always picking on me and always pick on me about personal stuff e.g calling me poor Cause I am, I really wanna leave them but I have no one else at school that likes me and wants to hang, idk what I’m asking for, i guess just some advice or maybe someone to talk to aswell I guess

Hi there Jaydan welcome to bb ☺ good on you reaching out it's a good start for you to be able to talk about problems freely and in a safe enviroment which hopefully will help find some ways of improving your situation.

There's a couple of things to get started that'll make it easier for more support.

If you pop back to the first page here Sophie's put a step by step guide on how to do a thread of your own that'll be easier for people to support you. I'll be happy to chat with you if you put the thread title up here at some stage. Any problems starting a thread give us a yell here.

I suggest you post in a depression/anxiety section which you can find in All posts, but don't worry because if need be your thread can be moved to the best section for your situation.

Another choice which is entirely up to you as you're welcome to post here is " Kids helpline" that support up to 25yrs of age.

Kids helpline 1800551800.

Wishing the best for you Jaydan ☺

Take care and everyone.

Hi I am going through tough separation with wife and have 3kids, living separated under one roof. I would like to know where to post to get advice from a someone in similar situation or got through similar. I was unfaithful by getting some inappropriate massages a year and a half ago and suffered severe remorse and depression whilst we to worked on marriage and got councilling. She started having coffee with work colleague for support 1 year ago as I was not being emotionally supportive which I said was ok as she needed that and she said just get yourself better and mentally stronger first then we can work on the rebuild. 6 months later I found evidence they were connecting and had fellings for each other. We had a blowup over that and she said they acknowledged it got to far and they agreed to stop catch-ups and communication.he is also married with 2kids Over last 4 months I caught them texting and at coffee multiple times. I just caught her again catching up with him, she still denies there is anything going on and it’s just coffee. I can’t handle the emotional impact and cannot understand why she will not admit he is in love with her, when he text her”I miss your smile and staring into your beautiful eyes”I don’t know if I should move out, can’t process not being with her and the kids or how it could work. Any advice would be appreciated, thanks Bradd

Hi Bradd welcome to bb you've come to a lovely community of caring people.

You certainly have a lot going on there haven't you. Hard times matey.

By starting your own thread is the best way for you to receive support.

if you go to the first page here Sophie has posted how to start a thread.

Alternatively go to depression section in All posts, tap the blue new thread button on the top R) across from the thread title you choose.

If you like Bradd if you let us know the thread title here I'd be happy to support you.

All the best and to everyone ☺

Hi Chunty hope you are well. Im replying to you cause your post resonates with me i feel exactly the same way you do. I am so glad I've found my way back to god because he has been the only one who truly has been there for me. I also have a special someone in my life I am so grateful for God has given me a second chance at life. He has truly saved me in every possible I will always be with him No one will ever get in the way of my life ever again and there surely not going to ever hurt me again.

Hi Chunty you are absolutely strong enough I know full well what it is like to be in so much pain and suffer and to feel like no one cares but for me personally those people aren't worthy of you find people who are going to love respect and care about you for the special person you are because you special in gods eyes and really as long as you have him your going to be just fine my life has turned around because of my faith. I hope you are well and taking care of yourself please reach out to me if you feel like you want to

Hi community. I have just joined this platform in my capacity as a support worker. During recent catch ups my client and I have been discussing strategies to enable him to access a broader support network, with a longer term aim of improved self-confidence and societal engagement. We have discussed the concept of peer support / mentoring from someone who has experienced & successfully overcome social anxiety. Whilst his current support network is enabling positive change & highly empathetic, none of us have 'been in his shoes'. In exploring and contacting various providers in the space, none appear to provide /recommend this type of specific support. For further context, my client is in his early 30's & lives in Melbourne. I'm open to any ideas or steerage that may help! Thankyou

Dear Blueboy2021~

Many people come to this Support Forum precisely so they can engage with others who have had similar experiences in an anonymous and safe fully moderated environment.

While the Forum is not a one-to-one or a formal mentor relationship it can be of great benefit, not only in terms support but also being told of the experiences of others, how they have fared. Also offering hope when one sees those who have reached a recovery stage.

In turn many who first come here seeking information and peer support end up giving as well as receiving, a most satisfactory arrangement, one I've come to be in myself.

The normal course of events is for a new poster to create their own 'thread' in a suitable section -such as "Anxiety" and introduce themselves with a brief account of their circumstances. (Making a thread is covered in the very first post on page one of this thread)

Others see the new poster's thread and can respond. Please be aware that all posters here are volunteers and responses may not be immediate.

Should you require further information please sing out

Croix

Hi Everyone hope all is well here is a little bit of positivity for you all hope it helps. Here goes Everything you can imagine is real. There are so many beautiful reasons to be happy. Whatever you decide to do make sure it makes you HAPPY. Life should not only be lived it should be celebrated. Life is about the journey ,not the destination. This is my favourite Dont lose hope when the sun goes down ,the stars come out. Dreams are for chasing all you need is courage to catch them. Take one day at a time and you will eventually find your way. Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass its about learning to dance in the rain and dancing is the best there is. I truly hope this resonates with some of you as to how I feel we have all enough of suffering and hard times. Merry Christmas and a Happy Safe Holiday and New Year.

Hi.

Basically my current personal thread is in suicidal and self harm. but i have a whole heap of issues that span all the categories. Example, specific anxiety advice on imposter syndrome in a friendship. I'd like to ask in the anxiety tab thing, but i can't make another personal one and the threads in the suicide spot. what should i do

Hello Dear Phoenix,

If you go to the front page..then press on join discussion, then all threads...look for the anxiety thread and press on that....then you will see a button which says new thread, press on that and your all set to go...

I hope this helps..

Kind thoughts,

Grandy..

oh i know that. But they say not to make more than oone personal thread. soooo..if i make one there will it just be moved again?

Phoenix

I think it is only if your threads are about the same topic, that they maybe combined as one but different topics are ok.

okay thank you

Hi Blueboy how you doing im sorry to hear bout yr client i know full well what it is like to be in pain and suffer to the point where I've wanted to end my life. I believe because of my faith it has saved me I've been at rock bottom many times. I just wanted to say it has taken me a long time to get here but im so happy that I went through my pain and suffering because it has made me so much stronger person today than I ever use to be. I deserve an amazing life I believe that now and its only be through sheer hard work on my personal development growth that my life has turned around. I also believe in mindset coaching it really makes a difference. I truly hope I have helped. Please take care all the best to you and yr client.

Hi team. I'm not computer illiterate but cant find where I can ask a question in this forum. Please help

Dear Damien666~

I guess it depends on the sort of thing you want to ask. If you think we here in the Forum can answer a general question or steer you in the right direction you could ask here. If it does not fit we'll let you know (but probably will answer anyway:)

If it is something personal start your own thread (instructions are at the very start -page 1 - of this thread) and ask there.

If you think it is something for Beyond Blue Forum administration or moderation you can ask here:

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/about-us/contact-us

Is that any help?

Croix

Hi Hannah and all ☺

Hun I'm not really sure where the best place here would be to talk about the war but maybe you could start a thread in Depression.

There might be people wanting to talk about it too and yes it's apalling but I think here being moreso about peoples personal issues is why there's not a general chat thread for this kind of conversation.

The bb cafes more for general light chat so unsure if that'd be a good spot.

To make a new thread on the first page here Sophies explained step by step

Any problems darl let us know here ☺

Hi,

I read the first page of this thread and clicked on the "Please see our detailed post on how the forums are moderated for further information." link. But it went to https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/welcome-and-orientation/welcome-a-post-about-how-our-forums-are-moderated-(please-read-it's-fun-i-promise)

-which doesn't seem to have been updated.

How does the moderation work? Eg who does it?

Hi Amelia,

You could try one of the 'Email Us' buttons on these pages. One at the upper right & one below & to the left.

I hope you get answers.

mmMekitty

Hello all!

Good afternoon!

I am a Practicing Counsellor and trying to be a useful resource to support community as I can.

I am new in this Forum and unknown how it is working for the community.

I appreciate it if anyone advise me.

Thank you.

Dear JanakiP~

Welcome to the Support Forum. You asked how this place works. It is a place where people come to share their personal experiences and draw hope and strenght from each other.

Anyone with an issue relating to mental health or suicidality is welcome to post

The list of sections is here:

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums

It is not normally a place for clinicians (unless thay wish to discuss their own experiences of course). The exception is Coach Craig:

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/treatments-health-professionals-and-therapies/ask-coach-craig---our-resident-mental-health-clinician

For further information I'd suggest you contact Beyond Blue directly:

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/about-us/contact-us

I hope this helps

Croix

P.S. I forgot to say the first thing that came into my head when I read your post:

Your desire to help is very much appreciated

-C

Thanks for the suggestion mmMekitty, I’ve emailed via that email button now, yes. Hopefully I greet a reply.

Hi Amelia02,

Thank you for letting us know about that broken link! We’ve made some updates to it. It should now take you to this page: How are my posts moderated on this forum?

To answer your questions about moderation, we have a team of moderators working 24/7. The team, which includes counsellors and other clinical staff, review everything posted here. We have a software filter that scans what you’ve written against our community rules. This helps us to see when someone could use some more immediate support than the forum community can offer, and also helps us to review what’s going up onto the forums particularly around things that we can’t discuss here, such as medication names, methods of suicide/self-harm, heavy swear words etc.

Kind regards, 

Sophie M

I can't work out what I'm doing wrong. I can't post a new comment but can reply. I have an account so I must be registered.