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Forums / Young people / First thread- first talk to a professional

Topic: First thread- first talk to a professional

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  1. Tamrby
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    20 February 2021
    hi! I'm new to these forums! not really sure why I'm her but I don't really get to rant a lot unless its to my friends. Anyways, I'm planning on seeing my schools councillor on monday, Kinda really scared though, It's been my first time talking to a professional about my problems in a year or two as I stopped going to the old one as she really broke my trust and I would just feel more anxious after I'm really scared to go back. My friend who has seen her before and she said she's great but I'm really scared to go. I also feel a lot of guilt for going, like I don't deserve to go or I'm doing something bad even though I know I'm struggling and I really don't want to back out but I'm worried I'll get too anxious and not go? Has anyone ever felt like this? And if you have did and how did you overcome it? Because it's seriously eating away at me but I know I need to talk to someone about how I'm feeling. Thanks everyone :)
  2. Tamrby
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    20 February 2021 in reply to Tamrby
    ALSO IM REALLY SORRY FOR THE HORRIBLE GRAMMAR
  3. quirkywords
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    20 February 2021 in reply to Tamrby

    Tamrby

    welco e to the forum.you expressed yourself well in your post Andrew have nothing to apologise for.

    I am glad you are seeing your school counsellor.
    Most people are nervous the first time but your counsellor is trained and experienced to make you feel comfortable. I sometimes write down on a small index card sone points I want to tell the counsellor and I can read from it if my mind goes blank.

    Thanks for making your first post as it takes courage to do so.

    Take care.

    Feel free to post as often as you want to.

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  4. Tamrby
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    20 February 2021 in reply to quirkywords
    thanks so much for replying! I will definitely make notes for what to say when I go! thanks for the idea!
  5. Croix
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    20 February 2021 in reply to Tamrby

    Dear Tamrby~

    I'd like join Quirky in welcoming you here. School councilors are as much a part of the school setup as teachers, they are there to assist you and can do an awful to of good. They are there for everyone, including you.

    It is amazing how many people think their problems are not as bad as the problems of others, so maybe they don't deserve to go. That is just plain wrong. If you have a problem that is affecting your life you simply go. Everyone will be attended to, if not be a councilor then by other means.

    Quirky is quite right about organizing what you want to say first and then using prompts in the consultation. I do something similar if I'm worried about a face to face and forgetting things, or getting muddled or just plain too embarrassed to say everything.

    So I spend a few days writing it all out in point form and give a copy to the councilor so you both have one. It does make it easier.

    Either Quirky's way or mine is good. Depends what sits you.

    Some people are very worried that others will see them go to the councilor and will be embarrassed or expect others to think badly of them.

    I guess the two ways of approaching that is choosing a time when you will not be missed by your fellow students or else letting them see and if the subject is raised say it is none of their business and if necessary they are thoughtless to talk about it -get cross if you have to.

    Your grammar is OK, I could understand exactly what you meant. I hope the councilor is able to help. You know you are welcome to talk about anything you like here if you want anytime, we are a pretty friendly non-judgmental crowd.

    Croix

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    21 February 2021 in reply to Tamrby

    Hello Tamrby, thanks for posting and welcome to the site.

    I don't think it matters what age you are there can always be a feeling of guilt when you need to see a counsellor, especially for the first time, but it doesn't stop there, other sessions the same feeling may still occur.

    Let them understand why you feel this way and let them know if you feel your responsibilities have not achieved what you were hoping for, this in fact is no fault of yours.

    When guilt results from your belief that they should do more or be better at being able to do something, rather
    than a mistake that is causing you distress.

    It's not possible to think that this new counsellor is anything like the previous one, as they may have kids of their own and understand what you are suffering from, can relate to their own kids.

    Take your time, depression can't be cured in a second, it takes support and the help you need.

    Best wishes.

    Geoff.

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  7. Tamrby
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    22 February 2021 in reply to geoff
    thank you for the advice, I had my session today and it went okay, we mainly talked the whole time but it was good to get stuff off my chest
  8. Tamrby
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    22 February 2021 in reply to Croix
    thank you and I feel really welcomed, I've already made a few posts and it feels great just to rant or get some advice!

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