Congrats on finishing school! Regardless of what your ATAR was,
you should be so proud of yourself for getting through this year. Year 12 is
seriously so hard, and I can attest to how terrible it is because I also graduated
in 2020 :D
I think that your fears and concerns are completely valid. Throughout
year 12, I’ve really struggled with worrying about what my parents think of
me and being afraid that they won’t be proud of me or think that I’m “good
enough”. My parents aren’t super strict about studying and also aren’t super
concerned with ATAR scores, but I was still super afraid of disappointing them.
There are a few ways of thinking which helped me deal with this which I shall
At the end of the day, it’s YOUR score. Other people’s
opinions about your results don’t really matter. A lot of people like to make academic
comparisons even though it’s such an unhealthy thing to do.
The main thing that matters is if YOU are happy with your
score. If you aren’t, that really sucks, but it’s not the end of the world. As
weird as it seems to say when you have all this pressure and stress on you, it’s
just year 12. It’s okay if things don’t go as planned because it seems like they
rarely do. You’ll get through it.
Just try to remember that your academic success doesn’t define
you as a person, nor does it determine if you’re a good person or if you’re a “worthy”
person. It’s just one small aspect of who you are. I think that you probably
did the best that you could with what you had at the time and you really can’t
do more than that.
Tests and exams only really measure how good you are at
doing tests and exams – I genuinely believe they don’t measure how smart you
are. Your result lets you get into the course you want and that’s it. There are
usually alternate ways of getting in even if you can’t with just your score.
I heard something recently which I thought was kind of funny and something I hadn’t thought of. It was “your parents can only yell
at you for so long”. Everyone messes up, it doesn’t make you a bad person. Your
parents aren’t perfect either and hopefully they’ll be understanding. If they
aren’t, it doesn’t necessarily mean you did something wrong.
I hope this helped. You made it!! Good job!