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  1. Moonstruck
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    5 December 2020 in reply to Croix
    Dear Croix...the magic may still be there...just hidden by a gossamer web just now..I got a glimpse of it last night when a total stranger told me how much pleasure my efforts had given her..she has no idea how much her simple words meant....
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    8 December 2020 in reply to Croix

    Hey there Mr Croixy man and your many friends ☺

    I'm glad you felt touched about the thoughts and care you have.

    This may sound a tad morbid but is true. We never forget loved ones or liked which I thinks a part of love if they pass on, just as thank goodness we continue liking loving & respecting people that are here with us.

    So how are you doing there good man? I very much hope you're getting on top of this lung bizzo. It's hard yakka having lung trouble and very tiring. Hope you're getting as much rest as po.

    I know your dear wife would be looking out for you

    Grandy and I did a wip around and got you some spare Icebergs ❄ and another pair of earmuffs 🎧 set at maximum sound so you don't miss out on our band practices. I know...I know...we're good like that.

    Oh forgot... I got a 🎁 for you...it's that pair of shaded glasses that you were needing for my dazzling Macleans smile 😁 ... 🕶....ta da

    Often thoughts with deep care and respect. Get well please Mr 🐧

    Still 🕊 peace

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  3. Croix
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    9 December 2020 in reply to demonblaster

    Dear DB and all you other lovely folks~

    You know, i was just starting to get the hang of long-white-cloud-eze and you suddenly turn into a Chicago gangster. A whole new language to try to fathom out, you really are hard on walruses.

    As for remembering those past and present, you are right, and gain immense please from those I know who are still in the land of the living, but am fortunate in being able too look back on the antics of the first Mrs Croix with genuine pleasure, and even on occasions reflect on how she would have advised me about something I'd planned or was worrying about.

    I'm also blessed that the Mrs Croix who joined me was able to accept she was following in footsteps, but that in a surprisingly short time came to realize I saw here completely and there were no footsteps to follow or try to emulate, in other words she became genuinely secure.

    This is no small thing and many would still have a little patch of worry, happily not so here. I do have only one golden rule, if asked something about her predecessor I have an attack of the selective memories and do not answer but emulate your gangster friends when being cross examined in the witness box and say "I forget" and plead the 5th:)

    As you say, a bit of a morbid subject, I'm not going anywhere and will be trying to avoid your and Grandy's attempts at music for years to come. Have the pair of you considered mime as a substitute -a pair of Marcel Marceas, or even Morris Mimers, would be just fine.

    I can see how being able to harness you BP mood shits to have the energy and creativity without going overboard, together with no downs, would be a great thing, sadly I'm not sure anyone has ever manged that. Still many famous have achieved wonderful and things, from Frank Sinatra to the gentlman missing an ear, Vincent van Gogh,

    Come to think of it Frank would probably understand your Chicago tongue straight away.

    How's the back, is it a truce at the moment?

    Croix

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  4. Moonstruck
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    10 December 2020 in reply to Croix

    Croix....are you really not well...quite ill?..Sorry I didn't realise. Get better then because I need you to bounce things off..no one else understands the real me..in case you're interested...I was sensational.

    Don't you love that word? And another person told me that...I don't usually use that word about myself. I am exhausted and ache all over..but I was sensational. I think I found a bit of "her" there...just in time..I had nearly given up. Xxxxx

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  5. Croix
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    10 December 2020 in reply to Moonstruck

    Dear Moon~

    Doing something hard you have a passion for and being praised for it are the things you need. Although I'm sure there wilt be ups and downs the knowledge you are still there inside will buoy you up.

    I'm very pleased for you.

    I will be well soon enough

    Croix

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    12 December 2020 in reply to Croix

    Dear Croix

    I hope you're mending well!

    Having you on the forums has meant the world to me. You do "get" people and that's a gift not often seen.

    But this gift was probably hard fought for and won, I'm cognizant of this.

    I also follow in the footsteps of a lost Mrs Bear (I'll call BF Mr Bear because he's like a cuddly bear). She also was a beautiful wife and mother. Mr Bear adored her and she him.
    We spoke and cried alot about her at the beginning of the relationship. He had mountains of grief to process and hadn't been able to.

    I don't think we ever truly "get over" losing someone.
    We just learn how to go on.

    Being able to share or feelings with someone we trust is really valuable.

    Thankyou for being here Croix and everyone. You're very much appreciated.

    Love EM

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  7. Croix
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    12 December 2020 in reply to ecomama

    Dear EM~

    Thank you for that, I often follow but do not comment so as to see how people are doing. Unfortunately at the moment my health is not as good as I'd like and my activities tend to reflect this, I've a fair bit less energy for one thing, and if too tired would write more waffle than I usually do, possibly making someone feel misunderstood in the process, so tend to post less.

    Don't worry, things will be on the mend, I am simply getting used to waiting rooms ATM - a useful art to foster:)

    No, we do not 'get over' anyone who has been very close to us, but we do assimilate our greif and in the process it seems less

    I saw it explained once as greif filling your whole being, as represented by a circle on the whiteboard. Then other things come into your life after that and form a skin around that circle. As time goes on that skin gets so thick it is as great or greater in volume than that original circle.

    You now have two circles, the original the same size, but the later events forming much a larger one with the smaller in the center. The greif remains, but is viewed though the perspective of later events.

    I can laugh at picture of my first wife trying to keep cubs (ie young scouts) in order on bonfire night, or cooking deep-fried ice-cream for them, and equally can feel so sad at the hymn in her funeral when I hear it.

    It is a rich mix, and I'd not change it.

    Mr Bear can find another in you who is not like the original Mrs Bear in many ways, though share a good heart. Those differences will help him, as the difference between my second wife has from the one that passed away. They remind me my life is greatly changed accommodating the new.

    You see people too EM

    Croix

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  8. Moonstruck
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    16 December 2020 in reply to Croix

    Dear Croix....I've had the chance to do it again since we last spoke....and the circumstances were almost back to "normal".....fingers crossed it can stay that way and not go backwards! It felt like coming home.....Moon S x

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    16 December 2020 in reply to Moonstruck

    Dear Moon~

    That's pretty good news, not only your feelings when doing the bowling, but the fact that tournaments appear to be increasing in frequency, so a promise of more to come.

    Your talents are not going to fade away, you will always be on average as excellent (I'm sure there is the occasional time you are unhappy with you performance -that's normal.)

    It may be your style of bowling may have to reach into new areas with the passage of time -an excitement to look forward to

    Croix

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    22 December 2020 in reply to Croix

    Dear Moon~

    I'm well aware that this is a difficult time of the year for you and want to ask if you have made any plans to distract yourself and think of more pleasant things?

    Waking up on the day with nothing in front of you to do can be daunting and miserable.

    Maybe a car trip to a site you enjoy or find peaceful, with a picnic hamper perhaps?

    Croix (who prefers Fortnum & Mason's luxury hampers of course:)

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  11. Moonstruck
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    23 December 2020 in reply to Croix

    Dear Croix....I'll be busy enough don't worry. I'll have lunch with a couple of family members who have also lost partners so have no one else ...it'll be very quiet but phone calls from sons will brighten us all up. Also have very active week in my other little "interest" just to round off a ghastly year for us...(hopefully back to normal for my tribe next year in that arena thank God)....so good to be back with folk I love, and who speak my language!!

    I've been tempted to reply to a comment you made last time about sometimes I would inevitably "be disappointed in how I perform" in my bowling.....at the risk of sounding super-conceited can I whisper to you alone, that no, that isn't the case at all!

    It's the one area, the only one in my life...where I just "know" I'll give a good one. It has nothing to do with positive thinking, saying affirmations, it's more than that Croix...I just "know it"...like I know the tide will go out when it comes in, the sun will rise in the morning and go down at night....

    There is never any doubt in my mind at all that I'll be less than great.. never has been. Funny that hey? and this from someone who is scared to drive into a strange or different servo for petrol; or a shopping centre I've never been before and don't know where to park....terrifying ordeals for me!!

    Have a wonderful Christmas Day Croix...I know you will...Mrs Croix loves you.......x

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  12. Croix
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    23 December 2020 in reply to Moonstruck

    Dear Moon~

    I've more than glad you have the day filled with pleasant company, I hope it is perfect.

    As for having that complete and utter faith your performance will never be less than great.

    I've never experienced that and in a way am jealous, to have one constant area of confidence in a life of waves, wonderful~

    Croix

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    23 December 2020 in reply to Croix

    Thankyou for your kind and understanding words, as per usual. So poignant really.

    I Pray you'll recover from the ill health you're experiencing atm, so we can read your beautiful, comforting, supportive words for many years to come!

    Hey Moon, thinking of you also at this time. Hugs.

    Love to you both / all
    EM

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    24 December 2020

    Dear Grandy, DB, Moon, EM and All

    Christmas time, both for those for whom it is a religious festival and for most others is fraught with expense, conflicting arrangements and often conflicting families.

    This year made worse by the current confusing mix of travel restrictions.

    To all of you I wish a time of peace not only from all those hassles but a time without mental or physical symptoms to have to cope with. I hope you are loved and valued as you deserve

    Croix (Who does not think Fortnum & Masons Luxury Hamper series is in the least poignant, but palatable, piquant and peng.)

    🎅

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    24 December 2020 in reply to Croix

    Merry Christmas to you too Croix.

    Thanks for "being there" for so much of this for me at the very least.

    I appreciate your support, wisdom, friendship and wacky intelligent humour also.

    Thankyou for everything. I really appreciate you.

    Love EM

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    25 December 2020 in reply to Croix

    Merry Christmas, Dear Mr Croix...

    Wishing you a very Merry Christmas filled with..love, joy and peace..

    You’re a wonderful person Mr. Croix...

    Thank you so much for your time, care and wise words...you have given me and so many others in these forums.,,

    My love, hugs and respect...Mr. Croix.

    Grandy..

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  17. Croix
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    26 December 2020

    Dear All~

    Thank you all, I'm however I'm afraid you make me up to being something I don't realy deserve. You seem to forget that each of you (yes, you too Moon) help others -a lot. Sometimes just be example, sometimes with advice, sometimes by recounting your past.

    Walruses have their place, but so do you all. You may only talk directly to individuals in their threads, but whenever you do you are helping the vast numbers (and they are vast) who silently read and never post themselves -perhaps because they need go no further than read your words and the array of user problems you deal with

    Croix

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  18. Moonstruck
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    27 December 2020 in reply to Croix

    Hey Croix.....got any of that Fortnum & Mason hamper left to share with me? It's December 27 Croix...yesterday was December 26!!! Oh Joy, oh relief...I am in just the mood to celebrate these past 2 days now and I am telling people how important they are to me...left right and centre!! Why? Because no one is pressuring me to, that's why? Oh the feeling of freedom, the huge weight lifted from my shoulders.......it's over Croix, it's over!!!

    I have Love Actually that I intend to play over and over again now that I can really enjoy it without any pressure.......LOVE that movie.......no one on TV yet so far today has told me yet again how "Christmas is a time for love love love and happy happy families" Thank God they've let it go before the torture begins all over again next year...........yes Croix, let's get into the Fortnum & Masons....which is better, theirs or Harrods?

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    27 December 2020 in reply to Moonstruck

    Dear Moon~

    Ah - the trick is not to be overwhelmed by those that have a general reputation for excellence , and go with those that really do one thing well

    Harrods is a fine store with tradition and flexibility. I beleive it lead the way on children's toys, with the story Winnie the Poo inspired there however F&M are the people for a hamper. You can even order one with a little spirit stove for making tea (Darjeeling, Earl Grey or China - with milk or lemon of course to sip in bone china) and a multiple layer stand for cucumber sandwiches and of course macaroons.

    Beats a pint and chip booties any day.

    Back to Love Actually again:)

    Croix

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  20. Moonstruck
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    27 December 2020 in reply to Croix

    Yes I should have remembered...Fortnum & Mason...the very name is synonomous with "hampers" isn't it. Wonder if London will ever get back to its glory...after their CoVid situation.

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    27 December 2020 in reply to Croix

    PS
    That reminds me, if you ever saw the 1978 TV series "All Creatures Great and Small'" featuring the Vet James Herriot I beleive his Christmas hamper always came from F&M provided by local aristocrat Mrs Pumphrey courtesy Tricki Woo.
    M

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  22. Hanna3
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    28 December 2020 in reply to quirkywords
    Hi quirky - I hope you all don't mind me coming by here... I just wondered what play that quote about the moon comes from - I presume it's Shakespeare? Thank you!
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    28 December 2020 in reply to Moonstruck

    Hello Dear Croix, Moon, Hanna and everyone...🤗..

    Moon, like you I am so pleased that December 25th has past....All the stores and their big up for one day...I am pleased to hear that you don’t feel pressured in having to enjoy your days now...It is a big relief when that day passes isn’t it?..

    The F&M hamper sound so yummy...I enjoy my cuppa teas so much..late husband refused any tea in the house..I’m sure making up for those lost “tea years”...and I do have a very fancy Bone China cup & saucer I bought for myself, on my last birthday....I use them when I need some self care..

    Take care of yourselves...a cup of lemon and honey tea is smoothing and beneficial for our health....

    Hugs and care dear friends...

    Grandy..

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  24. Hanna3
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    28 December 2020 in reply to Ggrand
    Hi Grandy, A special tea cup is a wonderful idea, I have one too - it's a little treat we give ourselves... to enjoy a nice cuppa out of a lovely china cup. I'm glad things here will start reopening soon too, it's been so quiet here and all the neighbours are away on holidays so no people even in my street!
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    28 December 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello Hanna...Croix, Moon..listeners..

    Its good to hear that you also have a beautiful bone China tea cup....Not sure why..but the tea taste so much better in a beautiful cup and saucer...

    Mine has gorgeous red roses with greenery and it has gold edging all around the rim and handle..as well as outlining the red roses...

    Hello Croix, Moon...Do you have a special cup you use that makes your tea/coffee taste better and you feel a little special using it..

    Grandy..

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    28 December 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Dear Haanna3

    I'll let Quirky answer that, sufficient to say most of the the other quotes came from a Midsummer Night's Dream, but that one didn't.

    May I ask what was it that interested you about it?

    Croix

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  27. Hanna3
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    29 December 2020 in reply to Croix

    Hi Croix,

    Thanks for that! I thought the quote was rather lovely and it certainly sounded like Shakespeare. I'm a mad reading/cinema/poetry/music buff, and excuse me dropping by your thread - you just seemed to be having some interesting discussions and some nice literary quotes were noticed by me. I love beautiful English I guess. I'm someone who likes to read poetry books... my mother was a big reader and a love of literature got passed on to us kids I guess. I enjoy meandering discussions... the sort of thing Robert Dessaix writes, if anyone here reads his books...

    I hope it's OK I came by. Cheers!

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    29 December 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Dear Henna3~

    Of course you are welcome here, and I look forward to seeing you as often as you would like.

    As Quirky has not come back it was Othello feeling that Desdemona was behaving in a too familiar manner for a lady, the moon being a symbol of purity, and coming too close to the earth a way of saying all was not in order.

    An unlucky interpretation for both of them.

    Moon and I have been swapping quotes for a while, mainly Oscar Wilde but others creep in

    My own means of drawing boundaries and getting into another world is though book and movies (I have a fair collection) Streaming does not really st me as I like to re-visit several years down the track.

    I'm not familiar wiht Robert Dessaix, thogh I've looked at his bio. What would you suggest as an intro for me? Something short, simple and without tragedy would be good.

    Sad to say when i became ill and eventually returned to reading I could no longer tolerate cruel endings. such as Kanal (1956 Polish film directed by Andrzej Wajda) and prefer Micmacs, a 2009 French comedy film by French director Jean-Pierre Jeunet who directed Amélie

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  29. Moonstruck
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    30 December 2020 in reply to Croix

    "Well shone Moon"

    "Well roared Lion" "Well run Thisbe" "Ill met by moonlight proud Walrus"...(sorry Bill)

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  30. Hanna3
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    1 January 2021 in reply to Croix

    Hi Croix,

    Robert Dessaix lives with his partner in Tasmania and he writes what are almost discussions about all sorts of topics combined with travel.. he used to teach Russian in the USSR, he's quite a Renaissance man and has wonderful discussions about a wide range of topics. His book A Mother's Disgrace was about his search for his birth mother, another quite different but good one is Arabesques, which again is a travelogue with exerpts from discussions he has with various people overseas... he draw the reader into these. Not sure if you read non-fiction? I love reading Dessaix as it's like having a wonderful meandering discussion with him...

    I don't get to see as many foreign movies as I would like as I live in regional Australia - I do like Antonia's Line which is Dutch, and Dancing at Dancing at Lughnasa (Irish), Bread and Tulips and Shoplifters, which is Japanese.

    I hope you're having a good New Year's Day... very wet and cold here. I do like the Shakespeare quotations! Cheers.

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