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  1. geoff
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    Geoff in hospital trying to use my iPhone and login if and getting to BB is atrocious for me and even whatI type isn't correct so I am going to this phone away when I get out and CHirstopher hope I spelt it correct I a. Going to.be disappointed if I miss the bus in my area as I'm not even sure I will be of here. I. have tried the enlarger the screen but that's useless to me so all up I'm sore and frustrated and missing the site bugger it Geoff
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    8 February 2015 in reply to geoff

    Dear Geoff,

    Hi. Hope you are okay! Just found your post on BB saying you were in hospital. I am thinking of you and wishing you well.

    I totally understand the frustration when you can't get a phone or a computer to do what you want it to do! Hope you can get back to us to let us all know how you are.

    Cheers, love, care and concern from Mrs. Dools

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    8 February 2015 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi Geoff,

    Sorry to hear your in hospital.

    Hope whatever your suffering from you recover from quickly. 

    The site will be missing you too. 

    Grateful.

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    8 February 2015 in reply to Pixie15
    thanks this little phone annoys the hel out of me I have had a hip replacement again and having no fun at all Geoff x
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    9 February 2015 in reply to geoff

    Dear Geoff

    Sounds like you may be in hospital for a little while. Can someone get you a laptop for the duration? Just so that you do not get so frustrated you throw the phone out of the window.

    I hope all is going well with you. Hospitals have their uses. Just think, no more of your own cooking for a while.  If you are like me that's a bonus.

    We need you back here in working order, so calm the rage and concentrate on getting well.

    Mary

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    9 February 2015 in reply to White Rose

    Hi Geoff,

    Hope you are well. Keep that bed pan handy. And dont chat up the nurses. Be good

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    9 February 2015 in reply to geoff

    Hi Geoff,

    All the best with your recovery! Trying to borrow a lap top sounds like a great idea. Hope you can pull that one off!

    Hope you are not in too much pain!

    Cheers for now from Mrs. Dools

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    Hi Geoff

     

    Even though it sounds highly frustrating for you my friend, I am really pleased to hear from you.  Hopefully it’ll get sorted out soon for you – and the big issue here is your welfare and I hope like crazy that they’re dosing you up with adequate pain killers.  I’d imagine the operation aftermath from such a procedure might not be so pleasant.

     

    Do you know how much longer you’ll be in hospital for?

     

    Neil

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    14 February 2015 in reply to Neil_1

    dear All, thanks for your comments, I left hospital on 10/2 as my eldest son is looking after me until sunday 15/2 then my youngest son will take over for a week.

    I've been through this before and know that I will feel better physically it's just getting there, and after 4 operations, if I need to have another one then hopefully you just go to your surgeon and he says walk through that machine and bingo you have a new hip, ha ha that will be the day, but it won't happen in my time.

    A couple of days before I left I met a gentleman aged in his 70's who was also having a hip replacement, but within a few minutes we both clicked together, as he has depression, OCD and social anxiety.

    But firstly he wanted to know the process of the operation and what happens afterwards, plus he wanted to see where the incision was and what it looked like, but was a bit taken back because it was about 30-35 cm long and I bruise easily, so there were bruises everywhere.

    He was a lovely gentleman and rather shocked to find that someone knocking on his room door had everything that he was suffering from and felt a sudden relief that someone could understand exactly how he feels, just out of the blue, so what ever he said I had gone through myself and situations I told him he also has suffered from.

    His GP is getting a bit long in the tooth, so I suggested a couple of ideas, but unfortunately he doesn't have a pc but his sons do, so I asked him if he wants to keep in contact for his sons to email me, plus I gave him my phone number.

    I rang him yesterday to see how the op went and asked him to keep in contact with me, whether this happens is up to him, I really hope so, because he's a lovely little chap, but he feels as though he can't get anyone to understand what he is going through, plus his AD isn't working and can't connect with his psychiatrist, even after 3 or 4 years. Geoff.

     

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    14 February 2015 in reply to geoff

    Hi Geoff

    Glad you are home and on the mend. As for your friend it just goes to show how wide spread this mental illness issue is.

    Recently I attended a bbq at my car club and met a new member. Within about 10 minutes she'd told me she has depression (she doesnt know my MI history). I felt like saying to her "be reserved and dont spread that fact among some ehre because not only are you wasting your time, you'll be thought less off". That of course has been my experience but it is for her to find out. I'll be there to help her if she goes through the experience I went through.

    Like I said....its so wide spread.

    Cheers mate  Tony WK

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    14 February 2015 in reply to geoff

    Hi Geoff,

    All the best with your recovery! It is wonderful you have a couple of sons to help look after you.

    It is wonderful you were able to bond with and help the guy in the hospital. Sometimes we don't know why we go through stuff, but then when you meet another person whom you can help due to your own experiences, it makes it all more worth while...kind of!

    You will be very happy to have your computer back as well and not have to rely on your phone for communication with BB!

    All the best to you Geoff, kind regards from Mrs. Dools

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    14 February 2015 in reply to white knight

    Hi White Knight,

    It is a real shame when people treat those with a mental illness like they have leprosy or something even worse.

    I used to attend a Church where the minister would actually preach about depression and say how he did not want to have anything to do with depressed people and that there was no place for depression in a Christian.

    I didn't stay at that Church much longer even though I had made a lot of friends there. Some were very supportive. Not so the minister.

    Hope you are able to assist this lady if she needs the help.

    Cheers, from Mrs. Dools

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    15 February 2015 in reply to geoff

    Hi Geoff,

    Glad you are out of hospital and you have family to support you. I have never heard of someone needing 4 hip operations before. I know people who have had two. Is this unusual?

    It is obvious from your posts that you have a great heart and the story about your hospital relationship is a good reminder that even when we are hurt and struggling ourselves we can still reach out and try to help others.

    Grateful.

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    15 February 2015 in reply to Pixie15

    dear Grateful, I'd better explain why it was 4.

    When I hit a pole I couldn't move and taken to hospital where I had to be opened up to put my hip back in place and placed in traction with a bolt through my tibia and a weight on the other end, so I was stuck in bed for for 6 weeks and couldn't get out.

    Then a couple of days later I was opened up again to clean hip etc out, and the 3rd operation was to put a hip resurface in which is a new technique, but I was never happy with it because it didn't solve the problem as I couldn't run, climb stairs and always fell over, because that leg was far too slow in reacting to the other leg, and finally the 4th was to open me up and replace everything and give me a total hip replacement.

    As well as this I had to have another operation to remove my little toe which was badly injured in the crash and by putting a pin in it to straighten it up never worked, so off it came.

    So that's the four plus another for my toe.

    So it's been a long process. Geoff.

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    15 February 2015 in reply to geoff
    Hi Geoff, Pipsy here.  Hoping you're on the road to recovery.  You are always in my thoughts and prayers.  As I said, I have returned to the church and the support I've received from there has also helped me in my recovery.  Even my minister now understands what I was trying to tell him.  I hope you and I will always remain friends as your friendship is as equally important to me as returning to the church.  Your never ending friendship and support gave me the courage to stand on my own two feet.  I have a neighbor who has just moved in next door.  She's in her 70's and terribly depressed as she's in mourning having lost her partner a year ago.  Like you she is facing an uphill battle as she has to have an operation to remove varicose veins from both legs.  She is terrified of this operation, so if I can pass on to her the friendship and support you gave me, you have gained as well.   I love your courage and your weakness because through weakness we learn humility which is what Christianity is all about.  I feel sorry for L's parents for their unkind actions toward me.  I have totally forgiven them and I pray for them to find peace and love as I have.  I'm hoping and praying L and I can have a full total marriage in the future.  But I accept, whatever will be, will be.  If we can't be together, I have to accept this too.  It is not my failure, nor is it his, maybe we're just not right together, time will tell.   All the best for your future, my wonderful friend.  Love P.xxx        
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    16 February 2015 in reply to pipsy

    dear Pipsy, thanks for your response, because when we try and help someone and hope that they can understand what we are trying to say does means so much to us.

    Now that you have a new neighbour could be a good thing, but once you start to feel that you are getting yourself down from her problems, just take a step backwards and a deep breath and ease off a bit, and I only say this because I don't want you to start to become depressed from her troubles.

    I know that you will be totally sympathetic towards her because it's an enormous loss for her to lose a partner, plus I know that by having varicose veins removed isn't a pleasant operation, but if she needs shopping done try and organise her to do it so that it will be delivered to her at her house/flat.

    I am only on the site in a spasmodic way at the moment, but will get back to it as soon as possible. L Geoff. x

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    16 February 2015 in reply to geoff

    Giiday Geoff,

    You wont recognize my name and I don't post  but you helped me once immensely and I just want to first of all wish you all the very best in your recovery and to congratulate you on your "champion" achievement! Well done mate - you're a champ in my books !!!

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    16 February 2015 in reply to geoff

    Hi Geoff,

     

    I'm glad you're out of hospital now, and that your sons are taking care of you. If either of my parents need me later on, I will make sure I do things for them like your sons do for you. They've always supported me hugely, so it's the least I can do!

    It's great that you are so committed to this forum. Make sure you take time out if you really need it though :)

    I hope your operation recovery is going well :)

      

    Best wishes,

    SM

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    17 February 2015 in reply to geoff
    Hi Geoff.  Just to let you know how yesterday went.  I spent quite a bit of time with the neighbor.  She is extremely depressed as she is facing these ops, plus losing her partner, as I told you.  Losing her partner means she's going through a variety of moods swings, anger, hurt, bitterness, resentment.  All very normal feelings, which I was quick to tell her.  She desperately wants him back (understandably).  When I said do you want him back, suffering as he did towards the end, she said no, then she said, I have to let him go, don't I?  She did cry, but while I sympathized with her, I also empathized with her.  I managed to steer the conversation toward her improvement with having the op.  Overall, I think I did quite well as she was bright and cheerful when I left.  I did leave her BB phone number and encouraged her to reach out if she needed to.  Whether she does is her choice, but she now has that option.  I encouraged her to reach out in the village and try and get to know some of the people here as I feel she needs that contact.  She's trying to hang on to her kids and they need to feel they can 'let go' a bit if she has contacts here.  She seemed, as I said, a lot happier when I left.  On a slightly sad note.  Another neighbor (she has been in palliative care for 2 months) passed away early yesterday.  She was 91 and ready to go.  It's sad for her family, but happy too as she was suffering and is now at peace.    
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    17 February 2015 in reply to pipsy
    Geoff, me again.  Please excuse my rudeness.  I meant to add, have a nice day.  Cheers and much love,  Pip.  xxx
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    17 February 2015 in reply to Basil123

    dear Basil, I really appreciate you coming back to say hello to me and your words of encouragement mean the the world to me, and I have to say I wish I could remember, but that's not point, because you can remember and that's what this site is for.

    I would love to hear how you are going, and if I have helped you then my purpose being on here has been worthwhile.

    Thanks so very much. Geoff.

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    17 February 2015 in reply to Zeal

    dear SM, I also want to thank you so much again as you're a champion, and all of us help not only each other but everyone else, and the replies to other people you make are spot on.

    I know that there is an age difference between us, but that doesn't mean anything, it's the understanding that our advice help those desperately needing help, and once you have this understanding we all quickly learn, so well done to you and thank you again. L Geoff x

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    17 February 2015 in reply to pipsy

    dear Pipsy, of course I haven't forgotten you.

    You have done well to help your neighbour and we know the pain that she is going through, and you can only be a support for, you can't mentally take on board the sorrow on how she feels, you know and you understand what she is going through, so can I give you an example which helped me through my depression at the end.

    I looked after several elderly people once I had overcome my depression, and these people were depressed for various reasons, but that's another story it's the theory that matters.

    When I went to see these people they were so pleased to see me, I listened to what they were saying, they just wanted to talk, so I took on board what they said, and no matter how upset or depressed they were they felt better, just to be able to have someone to listen to them, but when I left them and came home I learnt to switch off, it was now my time, and if I worried about their problems while I was home then that would cause anxiety and if I couldn't sleep generally then this would just make it worse.

    So you can listen and even talk about your neighbours problems but once you go home you have to turn off and don't worry.

    Your other neighbour who passed away at the age of 91 I'm so sorry to hear and there is never any time to pass away, it's always so hard to cope with.

    Take care. L Geoff. x

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    Hi Geoff.  Hope you're feeling well today. Thank you for your advice re: my neighbor.  I didn't 'take on board' her depression, I listened and empathized, but I 'left' the depression there.  All I did was try to 'open' some doors for her.  I knew that if I took her depression home, I would undo all the work I've done to lift myself up.  I offered to do what I could, when I could, but if I am unable, I will not feel guilty.  Her kids have made the mistake of being at her beck and call 24/7.  Her son works with L and he told L that him and his wife are trying to 'step back'.  I appreciate your concern and it's great for me to have your support and advice in this matter.  L and I are starting to work things out better.  Because of how I treat him, his attitude towards me is changing.  I think he is also realizing how bad his parents treated me.  Nothing is said and I don't think he will ever be able to 'stand' up to them, but he's not breaking his neck to be with them.  Having said that, from March 24th he goes on annual/long service leave till October/November when he officially retires.  They know this and whether they put the 'bite' on him to spend more time with them, it will be interesting to see what transpires.  He is hoping to get part time/ casual work after March.  If this happens, they will have to accept he will see them when he can.  If he doesn't get another job, they may pressure him to go there more often.  Whatever happens, it will be them pressurizing him and I hope he realizes this.  I have said nothing and will continue (God willing) to keep 'mum'.  He has indicated he wants to spend more time with me.  He is still talking about wanting to go away and I have decided to suggest that he ring them before we go so we can spend quality time together.  I will put it in such a way that he will realize (I hope), that if he is talking to them, how can we be spending time together.  He is going to see them next week, so I might go to visit a friend from the church.  I have reconnected with a lot of my friends from the church and I know I am welcome wherever I go.  I realize that sounded smug, but it is true.  Well, my friend, you take care.  When do you start the next part of your treatment, have you started walking yet?  Remember, slow and easy does it.  Cheers and good luck.  Much love P.xxx       
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    19 February 2015 in reply to pipsy

    dear Pipsy, thanks for getting back to me, and remember when you first started posting here I can see an enormous change in you, because your confidence has improved so much, and you now have your mind determined to do what you want, and to be able to do this is a massive bonus for you, well done.

    How is the cream going on your face and have you gone back to the doctor to get their advice whether it's working, I hope so.

    The other issue is I hope that you have 10 more free sessions, and depending on how you feel is it possible to draw these sessions out over the year, however if you are still concerned about yourself then use them up.

    It's good that you have reconnected with your friends at the church, and this is because of your gained confidence which includes your self esteem.

    I'm now walking with one crutch, even though it's slow, it will get better, as my youngest son has to go to work on monday, so I'm on my own.

    Both my sons have been fantastic and spending time with them has been really good, because we all like a joke.

    Look forward in hearing back from you. L Geoff. xx

     

     

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    19 February 2015 in reply to geoff
    Hi Geoff, pleased to hear you're walking on one crutch.  Just remember, patience, onward and upward.  Hope it's not too painful.  How long do you walk?  The cream is having the desired effect.  I went to the G.P this morning and he is most pleased with the progress.  There is a redness in the area and it's slightly swollen, but this is to be expected, so, so far, so good.  I do have one problem, I am finding it hard to sleep.  I go to bed around 10/11p.m feeling really tired - and - wake up.  I eventually get to sleep around 3/4 a.m, waking up about an hour and a half later.  Because of this, I'm starting to feel physically ill.  My G.P is doing a blood test in a couple of weeks to rule out Thryoid problems.  L has said he is prepared to walk with me in the evenings to see if that tires me out enough to sleep, here's hoping.  Before I did that (which won't be mentioned) I used to walk an hour each morning.  Since then, I have lost the incentive to walk so getting back into a routine (which is what the G.P suggested) is the best thing, also the hardest.  If my Thyroid is okay, the G.P said we'll look at what else I can do.  He is reluctant to prescribe sleeping pills and I don't want to go down that road.  Hopefully, we'll sort it.  I have a little anecdote to share with you, I hope it brings a smile to your face.  About 9 years ago, I started experiencing a very embarrassing personal problem, it was a recurring problem.  I eventually decided to seek medical opinion and I saw L's G.P who is in business with mine.  The G.P sent me for blood tests and we discovered I had type 2 diabetes.  This situation has now been resolved, I don't even need medical help.  A couple of years later, I again had to see L's G.P as I had big, itchy, red circles all over my back.  I was informed I had Shingles, evidently I'd had Chicken Pox as a baby.  Since then I've had to see L's G.P once or twice and, each time, I've been 'bowled' over by unexpected not so nice news.  It has become a bit of a standing joke with L and I.  Last Saturday I was feeling sick and thought my left ear might be blocked with wax (that's another story).  I decided to visit the G.P, you guessed it, L's G.P.  As I was leaving, L said, don't come back with your leg in plaster.  I couldn't help laughing.   Everything checked out alright.  Good luck with your walking, keep up the good work.  Pity you're not here, you help me, I help you.  Much love P. xxx     
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    20 February 2015 in reply to pipsy

    dear Pipsy, I'm pleased it's not diabetes, and would like to know about your thyroid test, which has tendency to make you tired, which doesn't fit with how you sleep, but I'm no doctor.

    Oh shingles how painful and itchy that is, as I've had it on my breast around my nipples but god it hurts and was told that I must have been stressed to get it.

    What we have to go through in life it doesn't seem to be fair at all.

    Good luck and looking forward to hearing back from you. L Geoff. xx

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    20 February 2015 in reply to geoff
    Hi Geoff, you're right about the things we have to put up with, the up's and down's.  I think it makes us better people, because we feel more appreciative when we're feeling good.  I think if we never experience 'downs' we can't possibly help others through their 'downs'.  Once you've 'been there, done that', you know what you're talking about.  Can you understand what I've just said?  Bye the way, I'm curious and a little bit flattered.  I see I'm being called a 'distinguished' member on the BB site.  What does that actually mean?  Is that because I no longer write on the 'depression' site?  I love your new photo.  I'm going to see if I can get L to help me put my photo on.  I hope you won't get a fright. lol.  Much love. P.xxx
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    21 February 2015 in reply to pipsy
    dear Pipsy, yes I well and truly understand what you are saying and congratulations on becoming a distinguished member, which I believe someone gets after a certain amount of posts. L Geoff. xx
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    22 February 2015 in reply to geoff

    Hi Geoff,

    Thanks for your kind words. You're right, age doesn't ultimately matter. Thank you for being so considerate and welcoming to me, and to everyone else on this forum :)

     

    Best wishes,

    SM

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