Hello Tony, Quirky.
Adopted son (b)...Contacted me by fb..all good.
We were talking by fb msg. We got into a conversation about names, when I said to him that his "parent". kept the name my FIL gave him. (b) said no they named him after his grandfather by adopted parents. Oh, they have same name..Ok his middle name is the male version of my MIL first name.
(b). has some identical clothing as his elder brother (a). pictures on bf were found of both my sons, both identical clothing, different functions different days, both have tattoos in the same places (I don't like tattoos) but it's their body.
(b) sent by fb msg, a couple of school photos of him. All 3 look identical at that age, they still do today, the only difference is height, there all over 6' and the eyes, a & c has there dads brown eyes. b has my dark blue eyes.
My new granddaughter, going by pictures of me when I was her age (7) it's like looking at me, except I have blonde curly hair, she has blonde wavey hair, she has my coloured eyes, the 2 boys have brown eyes.
A relationship is slowly forming with (b). C is getting there he msgs me regularly now. A hasn't contacted me since he found out about his "new" brother, which is sad, he has 5 of my grandchildren that's missing out on the love I have for them.. I feel my eldest son is being hurtful towards me and selfish towards his children, my grandchildren.
Its ironic , I find my son, new DIL,and 4 grandchildren..I loose my eldest son, DIL and 5 grandchildren. Bittersweet..
I miss my eldest son and grandchildren, I can't give up on him. I have attempted to ring him but he never answers the phone. It's up to him now, I have me that needs my attention in getting well..