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Topic: Anyone had to spend days alone without anyone to talk to?

  1. Hanna3
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    4 February 2020 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi again Paws,

    I rushed a bit this morning as we got up late and I wanted to give Sam a walk in the park before the day warmed up.....

    Just wanted to say I hope you're OK, you sound a little down... always here if you want to chat or need support, you and Katy have been wonderfully patient with me about Sam... Best wishes, hugs from us here xx

  2. Hanna3
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    4 February 2020 in reply to Missing user

    Hi Tayla, I've been trying to reply to you but I've been having problems with my computer this morning.

    People in small towns sometimes don't like talking to people they don't already know. I've had similar problems in this town. It's not about you, it's just that they grow up knowing everyone, they go to school together, and they are not used to talking to people they don't know.

    Can you trying saying hello as you smile and walk past? Don't worry if they don't respond, that is their problem not yours. Someone might finally say hello back to you if you speak! Just give it a try a few times and don't feel down if they don't give any response, just keep trying.

    I think at the moment you're preoccupied about your psychiatrist, so I would suggest get that problem sorted with her first. Then just try to think of something you can do to mix with people just a little bit where you are. I think you would be great with animals. Maybe talk to your parents about moving somewhere a bit bigger where there are more opportunities for you to meet other people your age?

    I wish I could suggest more, but stay positive OK? Eventually something will change and things will get better. Take care of yourself, hugs from Sam xxx

  3. Katyonthehamsterwheel
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    4 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Hi Hanna (Hi Paws, I'd like to add to what Hanna said and say we'd love to support you if there's anything you ever want to share. But if you don't that's ok too. Hugs either way xx)

    I'm about 2/3 through the book Hanna. I was almost late to the dr because I was engrossed! It's a fascinating and heartbreaking read. I did a Child Protection unit last semester and watched a documentary about the broken system. I wonder how much has improved? It's not an area I want to work in. I knew that before I started the course.

    I'm feeling a bit low at the moment. I got good results at the gp, but I think the low might be residual from the anxiety I was feeling about going to the dr. The weather seems to have decided to match my mood. Kind of overcast, humid, drizzly and depressing. I might abandon the book for now and go see how my pot plants are faring.

    I'll pop by later x

  4. Hanna3
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    4 February 2020 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hi Katy,

    Sorry you're on a bit of a downer, as you say the anxiety about the GP and the weather combined....

    It was lovely to take Sam to the park this morning and not be baking hot, but we are both still tired out from the heat. At almost 4pm I've just had a bit of lunch, now will take Sam to the park again as we've both had a long rest in bed and Sam is still sleeping. I have no idea how we would get through another heatwave like that again, I think we'd both end up very ill. I'm going to have to think what to do about this house - it's going to be a refrigerator in winter, but the heat of summer is worse as I can't get cool. My poor dog is exhausted. Well we both are.

    Yes weren't the foster carers in that book appalling! The ones who didn't feed him, the ones who ghosted him, the molestations etc etc. I don't know if it has improved at all, do you know from your Uni studies whether it has? No wonder he turned from alcohol to drugs - terrible family beginning, then one foster home after another. I came across a boy similar when I worked in a psych unit - a terrible case of neglect and abuse by foster parents. But the book is funny as well and he does write well!

    I hope you pick up soon. I'm too tired to even go to the supermarket and we do need food. Oh well write today off. Tomorrow $60 to get the lawn mown. There's no way I can live through another summer in this house so will have to think what to do. I'm sure it will be a refrigerator in winter...

    It took four shops before I could find a hot water bottle, but five dollars at Target finally got me one with a cover in case my toes get cold in bed tonight!

    Hugs to you and Storm xx

  5. Missing user
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    4 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Hi Hanna.

    Yeah I have tried but I get what you mean. Oh well. And yeah we think often about moving elsewhere just not sure where at the moment. We have a family friend & I have someone I went to Primary School with down in Gippsland, so I was thinking of moving around there. There's fires down there yes but there's fires everywhere. Plus there seems like there's more to do. We're trying to go up there to visit them & have a look around, perhaps next month. It's a 3 & a half hour drive, or to see that girl from Primary School it's about 5 hours. They have a farm with Sheep & Alpacas so that sounds nice.

    About the triage, they called today, said none of it is compulsory so I don't have to go, but I can come in & call them if anything happens which I probably won't. By the sounds if it that means I can still keep seeing my Psychiatrist (I hope so), but try to look for a new GP? Do you agree?

    Love & hugs,

    Tayla

  6. Hanna3
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    4 February 2020 in reply to Missing user

    Hi Tayla,

    I think it would be great if you and your parents were able to travel to the other town and take a look around - it sounds like you need more options for things to do/people to meet than in the town you live now. So that's a really positive move! I really hope you do that trip.

    Regarding your psychiatrist I can only say what others have said - that if he/she hasn't said he/she won't see you then I think he/she will - but it's clear that you need to hear that from your psychiatrist before you will relax about it.

    So maybe feel hopeful that you will go on that trip and take a look over another town, and you have an appointment with your psychiatrist fairly soon I think? So maybe a few things will sort themselves out soon for you. It all sounds pretty positive so that's good.

    So take it easy, waves from Sam, you have some things to look forward to!

  7. Missing user
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    4 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Hi Hanna.

    Yeah I see my Psychiatrist on Feb 18. I suppose he'll say he'll keep seeing me, well I hope so anyway.

    Hugs & waves back to you & Sam, & love.

    Tayla

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    5 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Hi Hanna (Hi Tayla and Paws, if you're about xx)

    Sorry I didn't get back on yesterday. I ended up in quite a low crying all day thinking about the bubba I lost. I think I'm just going to have days like that, and I have to accept it. It is what it is.

    It ended up being quite a stinky hot day. One of those ones where the sun seems to have such bite in it. Poor Stormy puffed all day, and I took her to the beach about 6pm for a swim to cool off. I had quite a nice brief chat to a lady with a paddleboard (like I have). She was friendly and I enjoyed the convo.

    Today is looking quite warm again, but not like yesterday. I've been out shifting around my pot plants, and I dropped a spiky cactus on myself - oops and ouch! I've got to organise a few things for uni, and I might finish my book today. Have you found something new to read yet? What's on the cards for you today? I see it's lawn mowing man day...

    Katy

  9. Hanna3
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    5 February 2020 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hi Katy,

    I am so sorry I didn't know you'd lost a child. You poor love. No wonder you had a downer. Big hugs from me and Sammy. HUGS HUGS.

    When you feel better (and have recovered from the cactus ouch) do give me your thoughts on the Prettiest Horse book. Do you think foster care has improved? Did you still enjoy the last third - I thought his childhood and adolescence were more interesting... were the social workers burnt out do you think? I thought I'd present it my book club so would love your thoughts...

    The lawnmowing man put it off until tomorrow afternoon but I think it's going to rain... finally...

    I've just started a book called "This is Happiness"by Niall Williams - an Irish writer. It got a rave review in the Sydney Morning Herald on the weekend. Still to early to say what it 's like as I was so tired last night I only read the first few pages, but it looks promising. Set in a small Irish town in the 1970s I think...

    I can't seem to recover from the last heatwave I'm so tired, and so homesick, and so tired of being alone all the time. Sam is still tired too. This morning we just sat in the park in the shade, thankful for the cool breeze, and I just tried to "still" myself for a while. Then I had to get groceries which tires me out these days.

    Anyway you don't need my stuff at the moment dear girl. More hugs from us both. Sammy's hugs are wonderful. Warm and furry. Take care, xxx

  10. Hanna3
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    5 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Katy, I'm just worried that what I wrote just now looks terribly tactless and self absorbed. I shouldn't have talked about myself at all when you are so down after losing a child - the worst imaginable thing that could happen - and sorry I just wrote "when you feel better". Oops sorry I didn't mean that to sound like that. Sorry put it all down to brain fatigue I have today I just didn't put things very well.

    Dear lady I am sorry, and do be gentle with yourself after such a terrible loss - that and your partner love I am so so sorry. Please excuse my post above. Just take care of yourself, and talk if you want to. More big hugs and forgive me for being so hopeless just now. xxx Thinking of you xx

  11. Paw Prints
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    5 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello Hannah, wave to Katy

    Thank you both for your support, I do appreciate it. Hannah I thought as Katy may not be feeling up to talking about her loss at the moment, I would give you the link to her thread

    https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/suicidal-thoughts-and-self-harm/not-in-a-good-space

    I wasn't about yesterday as it was the anniversary of my brother passing. My sister in law likes to have family around on the day so we now do a bbq lunch at her place & spend the day catching up & reminiscing. It was a very long day with a 3hr drive each way & I didn't get home til very late.

    You must be enjoying the cooler weather, hopefully with a few days of it both you & Sam will start to feel a bit brighter. My grass needs mowing, I can't call it lawn there are more dandelions than grass out front. I had to buy myself a ride on mower as I'm on 2 acres & I couldn't afford to keep paying someone else to do it. It's not a very big mower & I don't go very fast so mowing has become a multi day event here.

    Pats to Sam

    Hugs

    Paws

  12. Hanna3
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    5 February 2020 in reply to Paw Prints

    Thanks Paws. I actually just had a meltdown myself to an old friend over the phone, and cried for the first time since being here I'm so lonely and homesick and the heat has exhausted me and Sam so badly. I feel absolutely awful about my post to Katy, I think I wasn't thinking quite straight this morning I've been so exhausted from the heat. I hope Katy will forgive me for seeming to be tactless.

    You had a long day yesterday that sounds tiring. You take care of yourself too.

    A few of us seem to be on a downer, I wonder how much of it is due to heatwaves and fatigue. Anyway you take care, thanks for posting, and I hope my post to Katy is forgiveable oh dear I feel awful. Hugs xx

  13. Missing user
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    5 February 2020

    Hi all.

    Sorry that I haven't been on here today, I've had a busy stressful day & only got home before.

    Congrats Katy on becoming a Valued Member, I wonder how someone does that. I often feel like I'm not good enough & supportive to anyone on these forums as hard as I try, although I'm relatively new.

    I hope everyone's alright anyway, take care everyone. Love & hugs like usual.

    Tayla

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    Thanks Paws. I just needed a bit of time out to feel what I needed to feel. Hope yesterday was ok for you x

    Hanna, don't stress. I sometimes wonder if I haven't got my posts quite right either. It's not as natural as conversation, so it's fine. Sorry you're having a down time. Did your conversation with your friend cheer you at all? I hope so x

    I like the idea of finding "stillness" in the park. Did you take your shoes off and feel the grass or the earth beneath your feet? My sister in law's mum says that it helps to ground us. I certainly felt better when I did it at the beach after she told me about it.

    I finished the "Prettiest Horse..." today. I agree that the last 1/3 was less enjoyable for whatever reason. Perhaps there was less interaction and more introspection in that bit? It certainly made me cry though for how hard he tried to just put himself back together again, after everything. As for the book title - I'm thinking it's something to do with being a foster kid and being unwanted. Kind of like horses that end up at the knackery. They're useless so off they're shipped, as he was. And as for the prettiest part, it's like he tried to 'tidy himself up' and just ended up being a shinier version of the same thing - a useless foster kid. I could be completely wrong though.

    As for the foster and residential care system, I think it fails as a model. What they're now trying to focus on is prevention, rather than a cure, which is good. Putting money into educating and supporting parents, to prevent child maltreatment makes much more sense, than trying to fix broken children. In regard to "what about the social workers?", child protection has a high turnover of staff from burnout. It's complex and bureaucratic and many can't handle it. A huge proportion of workers leave within their first year. On top of that, anyone can decide to become a social worker. So you might have people 'just doing their job' and people who actually care. And if the ones who do care are faced with red tape, overworked, unsupported etc, then it's likely they'll either change careers or end up 'just doing their job' too. It's a hard one. It's an imperfect system that needs a massive overhaul.

    Anyway, I've never heard of him. But I'm so glad I read his book.The writing was absolutely beautifully done.

    I've just been emailed to say that my application to review a couple of books has been successful. That's nice because it means they send them to you for freeeeeeee :)

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    (I've never run out of words before oops. Had to make a second post!)

    Yes, so hopefully I can get them read and reviewed before uni starts.

    Please let me know how you're faring this arvo. Hope you're feeling a bit brighter, and please don't worry that your post bothered me, as it didn't at all. I appreciated the furry Sam hugs x

    ** Hi Tayla - hope you're going ok. Sorry you've had some stress today too. Hugs to you x

    Katy

  16. Hanna3
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    5 February 2020 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Oooh Katy free books! Was that Goodreads by any chance? The librarian in Coastal Town used to do reviews for them for the free books...

    Good to see you back here today and thanks for being kind - I felt like I'd been tactless...

    Your thoughts about the title are interesting, I wonder if there are any interviews with him on the www, I might have a look...

    Interestingly your post triggered a memory I haven't thought about in ages. I went once long long ago to a workshop with Elizabeth Kubler-Ross. We were in a group swapping stories and one young woman was a social worker who had to turn up with a child she truly cared about in a children's court to sort out some custody care issue (I forget all the details it was long ago). Anyway she was so appalled at whatever the judge's decision was, and what was going to happen to the child, that she picked it up and ran out of the court and down the street with the child in her arms. Of course she was caught and in real trouble for "abducting" the child.

    I remember her crying because she had done it in a moment of panic over what was happening to the child that horrified her so much her instinct had been to take the child and run. So I can imagine the burnout in a role like that. I haven't remembered that for as long as I can think.

    I didn't take off my shoes in the park as I had walking shoes on - I often do if I'm wearing sandals. I just sat in a quiet corner with Sam and there was a cool breeze - something we haven't felt for so long - and I just sat and looked at the leaves of the tree above and I don't know what you'd call it - I guess I don't think I just drink in the moment.

    In Coastal Town I had a favourite part of the estuary to sit where the rocks would turn gold in late evening light and I would listen to the tiny slapping/lapping sounds the little waves made eddying around the rocks - it was a tiny tucked-away little sandy beach area. I just used to listen to the sounds and watch the water and the colour of the rocks. It was so peaceful. I think that was the key in the park this morning - perfectly peaceful. I just soak it in.

    The phone call was a GP friend of mine who'd been out staying with his daughter and her husband in a town not far from here and he had been horrified at the tempertures and rang to find out how I had survived. He said I am living with an oven and he wants me out of here. (Sorry same problem as you too many words I'll finish in the next post...)

  17. Hanna3
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    5 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    So I told him how hot everything in the house was and how it's cooler outside than in, and he said "so basically you're living in an oven and you are being baked alive". Anyway he said it's not OK, Sam and I can't survive in these temperatures without air conditioning, he said it's not possible as we get older to cope with this. He doesn't have a solution he said he wants to talk to a few people and get back to me in a couple of weeks.

    He was the best GP I've ever had and we have stayed friends for 40 years now. He said his daughter and son in law were barely coping and they're young and fit. He said he'd never felt anything like it. He lives on the coast and has air conditioning, so it was his first experience of living in such temperatures and as a doctor he said it's not possible to keep living in this. I guess my meltdown was because of someone bothering to ring and check how I was surviving and telling me no it's not OK.

    Enough of me... I hope you have a better day tomorrow dear one. Hugs to you and pats to Storm. xx

  18. Hanna3
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    Sorry you've had a stressful day Tayla, it seems a few of us have. Hope things improve for you. Take care, hugs from Sam xx
  19. Hanna3
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    5 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    I just found an interesting review of Corey White's book Katy, and this reviewer said the title represents "self-belief and the seeming impossibility of ever living to see it through".

    Oh and I run over word length all the time on my posts... have made this a short one!

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    Hello Hanna 😊 Hi Paws, Katy, Tayla, MM and all,

    Thought I'd jump over from your other (older) thread, cos this is obviously where the party is.

    You've been having a hard summer, I'm sorry. Your house sounds very hard to endure.

    I would echo other's suggestions to apply for re-housing due to health considerations. They must act on that promptly. Don't delay, it's not wirth your or Sam's health to put up with the oven (and maybe fridge in winter).

    Wanted to mention "Liquid Spark" - from petstock, it has electrolytes and other goodies in for our furbuddies during hot weather, just add a few drops to his drinking water.

    I just finished History of the Rain by Niall Williams and have This is Happiness on order at the library. It was my first book of his, I love his writing style. Hsve you read his others? I think i have Boy in the World waiting at the library too.

    🌻birdy
  21. Hanna3
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    5 February 2020 in reply to Birdy77

    Birdy!!! Hello!

    I've been wondering where you've been. Have you been OK in these bushfires? I haven't heard from you in ages and I haven't known if you're all right or just not on BB much anymore.... It's so great to hear from you!

    Yes I'm not going to be able to live another summer in this house - my doctor friend is right, we're simply being cooked alive here. I'm looking at all sorts of alternatives...

    I haven't read anything by Niall Williams, This is Happiness just got reviewed in the SMH and the library had it on the shelves... the beginning is lovely writing but then the Irish writers seem to be always wonderful. I didn't know of his other books so now I will have to check them out!

    Do let me know how you are and if you've been OK and just not around here much or have I missed wherever you've been posting or what?

    I've missed you we were talking about books ages ago I remember! You've just made my night turning up here!

    I'm turning in for the night now, waves goodnight to you and Paws, Tayla, Katy, and all! Birdy, do post and let me know how things are with you please!!

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    Hello Hannah, wave to all,

    I'm glad you had a cry, I think you have been dealing with so much you needed the release that tears can give. Hopefully having your GP friend supporting you will make housing move more quickly in re-housing you. Have they done anything about your fence yet or given you a date?

    Another day spent in bed, didn't get up til 5 this arvo so haven't finished the book yet. Very hot & smokey here today, supposed to get worse heading in to the weekend. Have you had any rain there along with the cooler temps? Perhaps that should be - has it stayed cool there?

    Pats to Sam

    Hugs

    Paws

  23. Hanna3
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    6 February 2020 in reply to Paw Prints

    Hi Paws,

    I'm up rather late tonight - don't feel like sleeping! Good to hear from you - I hope you're OK. Hot and smoky doesn't sound good - sounds more like it's been here most of the time! Cooler the last couple of days thank heavens and this afternoon Sam and I even got in a decent walk - he's like a different dog when it's cooler. I'm told another heatwave could still come through before we hit autumn, oh no, I don't think either of us could cope with any more! We got some light showers this afternoon but not much...

    I don't know what my dear GP friend is planning - I'm not in a good situation as transfers in public housing can take years. It took a year to get the transfer here and that was fast. I haven't spoken to Housing about the fence - I've dumped rocks against it this side and keep Sam on a lead out there - I suspect it's just all to much stress for me to cope with and dealing with Housing is never pleasant... it's all the bureaucracy.

    I know I'm very unhappy here and so is Sam most of the time. I just keep thinking of it as temporary and I'll find a way out somehow. I think mentally I have to do that, I can't think of here as permanent. There's a very bad rough element here and I often don't feel very safe, and I miss the more relaxed life by the coast. In autumn when it's cooler hopefully Sam and I can find some nicer walks to do...

    I keep wishing the people who encouraged me to come here would have been more cautious - but the major fault is my own, so I'm trying hard not to beat myself up too much, but it's hard not to. I try telling myself to find whatever I can that is good here, that I enjoy or like, and tell myself it's not forever...it's the only way I can cope at the moment anyway.

    I'm trying to plan things like cull out my books, cull out my clothing etc over autumn (it's been so hot I've never even finished unpacking!) - anything to make me feel like I'm making it easier to get away from here eventually. So I guess doing things like that are mental health props for me!

    How is Woofa? Do let me know if you ever need someone just to listen or chat won't you? That book sounded rather strange - I think I'll stick to the lovely Irish book I'm reading right now! But do tell me how you find it anyway... and very best wishes from us here - keep in touch, it's lovely to hear from you always. xx hugs

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    6 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello Hannah,

    You shouldn't beat yourself up for moving there lass. You only did what you thought was best with the information you had at the time. None of us can truly know what a place is like to live in until we do. You couldn't of expected the weather & fires you have had to deal with.

    It's not forever. You can & will find another place to move to. Use you time there to look for somewhere you think would suit you better, that will give you something to work towards. I think you have the right idea about for now trying to focus on the things you can find there that you enjoy.

    It's lovely news that Sam is feeling brighter today. Is he back to eating all his meals? Woofa is currently lying under the air con snoring, with the odd break now & then while he chases things in his dreams. I must remember before I turn in to get his bone out of the freezer to thaw overnight, can't do it now because I don't want to move & wake him. Is he spoilt or what.

    Be kind to yourself

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  25. Hanna3
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    Hi Paws,

    Thanks for the encouragement. I admit I'm finding it hard to cope with the loneliness and depression from living here. I'm alone most of the time. On days like this when it's rather wet (finally - and we so need the rain) it's hard to find things to do here alone. Maybe I'll walk Sam before it rains more and take myself to a coffee shop and sit and read my book there for a little while this afternoon...

    I can easily panic about my situation, I have to try to calm myself down and just try to stay hopeful. I've moved far too much and feel a bit dislocated! Way too much trauma in my life...

    Poor Sam after going to the vet and then having shocking diarrhoea I think is recovering from the heat, it really knocked us both around badly. He is unhappy in this house, it's a rather dark gloomy little place - he loved my friend's house, it's cosy and has old comfy furniture and a pretty verandah, and he keeps wanting to go back there - when I took him for a walk from her place he tried to go back to her house rather than in the car to go home to ours. I can't blame him I feel the same! I feel sad I've made him unhappy when I meant the opposite.

    He does enjoy his walks in the cooler weather - he has a happy face then. Yesterday afternoon watching how happy he was walking in the cool weather I thought how little it takes to make a dog happy - we should learn something from that!

    I only finally found Katy's thread last night, so I should try to post something there today. I hope Woofa enjoys her bone - how do you exercise a great dane? Do you have a big paddock she can run in? She must need a lot of exercise...

    And how is that strange sounding book going? Are you enjoying it? American Gods I think it was. I only read the Goodreads reviews which weren't terribly positive... but then it depends on the reader...

    Take care of yourself and pats to Woofa xx

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    7 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Hanna

    "Writing so good I want to drown in it" - love it! You sound like you get the same feeling I do, when an author puts words together just right. It's exhilarating! I've got an account on Goodreads now, which my online friend reminded me about. So you can mark books as 'want to read' and that way when someone recommends something you don't forget about it. I've marked the one you said in BB Cafe. You can also rate books and leave reviews, so that's cool too. I gave Corey's five stars <3

    Well my migraine is better today, so now I just have my silly ear and nose to contend with. It's a cool day though and I've been out and attended to the pot plants, and I want to do some housework. Will meet up with a lady from uni later to buy a second hand text book off her. Trying to get organised! I like the idea you had of decluttering. Whether it's planning for an upcoming move or just because, it's good for your mental wellbeing. I had hoped to do some over the uni break but I haven't been up to it. Maybe I'll fit some in before uni starts though.

    So my units this semester for uni, as you asked on my thread, will be:

    Social Policy; Legal and Ethical Practice; Collective Interventions; and Social Work Project

    I think the legal unit will be pretty challenging. The project one will be interesting though. You work as a group to come up with a project that you could implement, describe how it would benefit people (and who), and how you would measure it's success. So I think I'll enjoy that. Even though it will all be done as group work online.

    Well I'll probably be around a bit more today, so say hi if you like :)

    Katy

  27. Hanna3
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    7 February 2020 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hi Katy,

    Well that sounds an interesting group of courses and should keep you very busy! I hope we still hear from you here on BB - I'd be very sad if you disappeared! What does collective interventions encompass precisely in terms of social work?

    You must have had an ear infection that's nasty - and I thought it was just water from swimming, oops!

    I've discovered another problem here - I have fibromyalgia but have not thought much about it the last few years living far up north coast - but now the weather here has turned cool and damp all of a sudden I'm in really bad pain - oh heck I'd forgotten I even had the problem and it's known to be worse in cold climates. I'll add it to my ever-growing list of Things Gone Wrong since I moved here!!!

    I had no company today as usual here, so after giving Sam two walks (he's much happier in the cool weather) as it was a bit drizzly I decided to go to the café here that I do really like, and I curled up in one of the comfy armchairs with a hot cuppa and my lovely book. I am officially now addicted to books by Niall Williams! His writing is lyrical like music, glorious the way he describes things and landscapes and people. It's about a small town in Ireland at the time they first get electricity and their constant rain finally stops as well - which sounds boring but he makes it so delightful to read. There is definitely something about Irish writers - their long tradition of folk tales, music, their excellent Roman Catholic education - I've talked about it with other readers of Irish fiction and they say it's all these combined, together with their religious faith and the awful wet weather and poverty. It all somehow combines to produce wonderful writers (although often also depressed!)

    So still lonely and no company over the weekend which does make it hard. I wish I were studying something that would give me a sense of purpose - or working so I could save to move away, but I haven't been able to work since my mid-fifties - I came down with some neurological condition that meant I couldn't use my hands properly and then it went to my feet and now it's basically all over pain. Anyway I don't like people going on about their illnesses, but it was the reason I got put on a disability pension - which makes you feel worthless instantly - or it did me. It's frustrating not to be able to do things you want.

    Anyway enough from me, take care of yourself you've had bad luck with the trifecta of illnesses lately!

  28. Missing user
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    7 February 2020

    Hi guys.

    Feeling crappy lately, sorry.

    Tayla

  29. Katyonthehamsterwheel
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    7 February 2020 in reply to Hanna3

    Hi again

    Yes, I envisage being super busy this semester! And I agree that it's nice to have a purpose. Purpose can come in many forms though. For me, I gained a sense of purpose helping people on these forums, which helped/is helping me get through my own difficult stage.

    So, the collective interventions unit will be focused around the regional/rural/remote setting where services aren't already in place. So it's looking a bit outside of the box to work out how to draw on local resources to provide services that are deemed warranted. Should be interesting :) I'd love to work in a small town in a community development capacity. Is there anything you might like to study? There's so much available online these days. And I wonder if you've ever tried writing? I've been thinking about that a lot lately, but I wouldn't know where to start. Once I'm qualified I'd love to write journal articles and submit though. There's so many things I'd love to do research on and write about in social work.

    I ended up having a lovely long lunch (3 hours) with the lady from uni I bought the book off. So I'm pretty chuffed. She's lives in a nearby town and said she might like to come and catch up occasionally. That would be super nice, so I hope she does it.

    I'm sorry to hear your fibro has flared up. You seem to have some very strange weather where you are. It's really mild here. I think the sooner you talk to Housing the better - when you're up to it of course.

    Gosh I feel like I need a nap! It's been awhile since I gabbed with someone for hours. It was quite tiring!

    Best, Katy

  30. Hanna3
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    7 February 2020 in reply to Katyonthehamsterwheel

    Hi again,

    I hope by now you've maybe gone to bed... your course does sound interesting and how great you met up with that lady and maybe now have someone to meet up with and talk about your course with etc!

    I long to learn French language but can't find a French teacher here which seems strange in such a large town.. I did German at school but wish I'd done French too....

    Yes I did write for radio for some time a long while ago - I got as far as being a contributor to the Sydney Writers' Festival which was pretty nice... since then I've lost confidence for some reason (never had much to start with). My teachers at school used to tell me to be a screenplay writer and I do love cinema and would love to learn screenplay writing, but you need a special kind of software to do that kind of work, and the online courses are very costly.... sigh.

    I do lots of free online courses that are available from places like Yale, Harvard and others in the USA - just for general interest. There are hundreds available for free.

    Take care of the cold/ear/migraine you poor thing! I think doing the study you are doing is terrific! Pats to Storm xx

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