Thanks Paws. I just needed a bit of time out to feel what I needed to feel. Hope yesterday was ok for you x
Hanna, don't stress. I sometimes wonder if I haven't got my posts quite right either. It's not as natural as conversation, so it's fine. Sorry you're having a down time. Did your conversation with your friend cheer you at all? I hope so x
I like the idea of finding "stillness" in the park. Did you take your shoes off and feel the grass or the earth beneath your feet? My sister in law's mum says that it helps to ground us. I certainly felt better when I did it at the beach after she told me about it.
I finished the "Prettiest Horse..." today. I agree that the last 1/3 was less enjoyable for whatever reason. Perhaps there was less interaction and more introspection in that bit? It certainly made me cry though for how hard he tried to just put himself back together again, after everything. As for the book title - I'm thinking it's something to do with being a foster kid and being unwanted. Kind of like horses that end up at the knackery. They're useless so off they're shipped, as he was. And as for the prettiest part, it's like he tried to 'tidy himself up' and just ended up being a shinier version of the same thing - a useless foster kid. I could be completely wrong though.
As for the foster and residential care system, I think it fails as a model. What they're now trying to focus on is prevention, rather than a cure, which is good. Putting money into educating and supporting parents, to prevent child maltreatment makes much more sense, than trying to fix broken children. In regard to "what about the social workers?", child protection has a high turnover of staff from burnout. It's complex and bureaucratic and many can't handle it. A huge proportion of workers leave within their first year. On top of that, anyone can decide to become a social worker. So you might have people 'just doing their job' and people who actually care. And if the ones who do care are faced with red tape, overworked, unsupported etc, then it's likely they'll either change careers or end up 'just doing their job' too. It's a hard one. It's an imperfect system that needs a massive overhaul.
Anyway, I've never heard of him. But I'm so glad I read his book.The writing was absolutely beautifully done.
I've just been emailed to say that my application to review a couple of books has been successful. That's nice because it means they send them to you for freeeeeeee :)