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Topic: DEPRESSION: Fight it or embrace it?

  1. startingnew
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    1 May 2018 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi Mrs D

    Just popping in to see how things are going for you?

    im sure your garden is loveley! what sorts of plants do you have if you dont mind me asking? i would love to give gardening ago but where im living i dont have room for a garden. might get some pot plants though for the verandah. i loved the analogy youve used in regards to mh and gardening. its not one i hear everyday.

    sorry to hear about your back though, ive got back issues too and they can be hard to manage. have you got things that help you pain manage and reduce the stress on your spine?

    i hope you enjoy the time in your garden, its a loveley day here so might go for a walk myself this afternoon.

    sending positive thoughts and good vibes oh and some hugs xoxo

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    1 May 2018 in reply to Doolhof

    Hello Dools, I have the same problems here, severely hot summers and big frosts and bitterly cold winters. I started a garden two years ago just after I moved in..I put pretty flowers in ..unfortunately they didn't survive the summer, I have some native bottle brushes, which I love and so do the birds..My succulents and geraniums seemed to survive okay..I have a frangipani tree as well in a large pot which I really have to care for by covering in winter etc. it's never flowered in over two years..

    You sound like you have a Lovely day planned for yourself..Please take care of your back..and take things slowly.

    Sound so simple to do Dools, remove our negatives (weeds) to let the positives grow, easier said then done, but yes it can be done with proper nurturing and constant "weeding". I like that way of looking at our Mental Health..It actually helped me today as some negatives was telling me I'm no good for anything...I dug the weed out and now I'm trying to feed the positives..So thank you Dools for putting Mental Health care into that perspective.💜..

    Ive been meaning to ask you for some time..your avatar are those flowers from your garden?

    Warm and gentle hugs,

    Grandy

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    1 May 2018 in reply to Doolhof

    To The Dools, and hi everyone 😊

    Mrs D, your positivity, cheer and constructive awesomeness never ceases to inspire me! You're a wonder! As The Deebs (another wonder!) said: nothing short of inspirational!

    Your gardening analogy about our mental health reminded me of a sentence I read the other day by poet/author May Sarton:

    Help us to be ever faithful gardeners of the spirit, who know that without darkness nothing comes to birth, and without light nothing flowers.

    Hope you are enjoying your garden today Dools. I am so envious of 5 acres! My imagination is going wild just thinking about it. That is my dream to be on five acres...

    Go gently everyone.

    🌻birdy

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    1 May 2018 in reply to Ggrand

    Hey guys,

    Grandy I agree with you, i like the thought of weeds being our MH issue etc.

    Birdy hello, haven't seen you in a while, nice to see you again :)

    If I put this weeding analogy into context today, I am chocked with weeds. School started back today, am very anxious. Its unbearable. Also the majority of my friends are away on a hike, they won't be back until Thursday and have no service... therefore I can't contact them :(

    I hope that everyone else isn't struggling like I am today. I wouldn't wish this condition on an enemy.

    Chloe

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    1 May 2018 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi Mrs Dools,

    I haven’t had time to read through this entire thread (am supposed to be working 😬) but in answer to your original post re: whether to fight or embrace depression...

    I used to always fight my depression. Possibly because I didn’t recognise it for what it was. I’d tell myself to ‘snap out of it’, to get moving, get out and do something, to not ‘wallow in self-pity’. Sometimes it was helpful, if I needed to get things done, but most of the time I don’t think it was good for me. I was pretty tough on myself, the old Inner Critic was loud and ruthless, it certainly didn’t do anything for my confidence or longer-term happiness.

    Now I try to embrace it a little more, when I can afford the time. Try to take some time out and think my way through it. Work out why I am feeling that way, allow myself to ‘wallow’... I find that I drift out the other side eventually and things start to improve.

    Tams

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    1 May 2018 in reply to startingnew

    Hello dear lovely people,

    I haven't made it out to the garden yet. I will need to put in ear plugs as we have trucks and graders working on the road out the front, the sound of the graders engine droning away is hurting my ears. I am inside with a musical CD playing quite loudly!

    SN we have a lot of native plants in the garden, some smallish type gum trees, roses (that look very sick at the moment!) and a sprinkling of things like geraniums and succulents that get severely frost bitten in the winter!

    If we had a permanent water source I would have loved to have planted a lot more natives to make our own little nature paradise. We are also in a high bushfire zone so need to find a balance with a bushy garden and one that is fire safe!

    My spine keeps on degenerating and is now catching nerves left, right and centre. Nothing much seems to help. I am starting a pain clinic next week so will see what comes of that. I have tried to get in to one for 20 years! Better late than never! Ha. Ha. Thanks for the hugs and kind thoughts!

    Grandy, the flowers on my avatar are from a tulip field in Holland. The only time our garden has that many flowers is when the sower sobs are in bloom! Ha. Ha. When we first moved here, I let some plants grow wondering what they were, they turned out to be Salvation Jane or Patterson's Curse as it is also known. Very pretty but a weed all the same.

    Keep up the "weeding" Grandy. I had to do a little weeding and pruning myself again this morning before I even got up. My mind was having a wonderful time trying to create a jungle of weeds for me to try to get though. Thankfully I had my pruning sheers with me and a heavy duty lawnmower! I chopped those thoughts down before I was out of bed.

    Otherwise I may have need a truck load of Round-Up to control the infestation my mind was trying to create! For me it is interesting to look at my mental health this way, seems to make it more manageable somehow!

    Cheers dears from Mrs. Dools...and my gardening tips on how to deal with mental health issues!

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    1 May 2018 in reply to Birdy77

    Birdy, Hi. Thanks for sharing the quote you mentioned. Another one about gardens that I like it "Bloom where you are planted." Reminds me that I can try to be kind to people where ever I happen to be.

    Some days I would gladly give up these 5 acres of land for a suburban back yard, especially so when my back is aching and I am in tears just looking at the garden let alone trying to do anything in it. Yes you are right though Birdy, 5 acres is lovely. It would be even more lovely if it did not back onto a highway with trucks running along it 24 hours a day. Oh dear I am having a bit of a grumble!

    Thanks to you too for your kind words Birdy. I greatly appreciate them.

    Chloe, sorry to read you are struggling so much returning to school and missing your friends. I'm going to teach that black dog that is hanging around you how to pull up those blasted weeds and then teach it how to sit on your lap and snuggle up to you to offer you comfort. That blasted feral cat is going to learn how to sit behind you and give you shoulder and head massages.

    I'm sending out a huge cloud of Round Up vapours to get rid of the weeds the black dog does not manage to pull up!

    Chloe, I hate days like the one you are having. I really hope you manage to find some way to brighten up your day, to accept some of the weeds and find a pathway through them.

    Hugs to you Chloe!

    Tams thanks for the great explanation of how fighting or embracing depression has worked for you and how you have changed your thinking regarding fighting it. I'm sure in the past when I have tried to fight my depression I have made it worse as well.

    My psychologist keeps reminding me I need to accept my depression. It is not easy to do always, but is helping.

    I'm reading another self help book at the moment, and plan to take some notes and share some of the helpful tips in it.

    That is one of the great things about this forum, is all the information sharing and support!

    Thanks everyone for sharing here.

    Hugs to you all from Dools

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    1 May 2018 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi Dools thanks for the reply.

    That black dog and that feral cat need some talking to. They are evil creatures but it’s mostly the cat today. I call her Anxiety Kitty lol.

    I am holding out for Thursday 😁 glad I’m typing on my phone now I can use emojis 😁😉🙋🏽‍♀️👍😋

    well best be off I have tutoring now yay not I’ll be back soon though 😈

    chloe 🧡💛

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    1 May 2018 in reply to Chloe_M

    Hi Chloe,

    I don't know how to do emoji thingys. If I did I would send a huge rat for that Anxiety Kitty to chase so it left you alone for a while!

    Hope the tutoring goes well!

    I'm going to brave that awful noise outside soon and get some gardening done. Hey Chloe, toss me that darn cat, I will see if it wants to run up a tree for a while!

    Deep breathes Chloe, one step at a time! Cheers from Dools

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    Hi Dools

    Haha anything to get that cat away. Here you can take it and shove it up a tree full of rats.

    tutoring was good. I usually don’t want to go I just want go go home and lie around but it really helps me so it’s worth it. I’m just on the train home now I can do some relaxing at last 😅

    Hugs from Chloe 😘☺️

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    HI Mrs D

    your garden sounds loveley. I love roses. They are one of my favourites. Do you have an assortment of colours too?

    Oh ouchy! Pain is horrid esp with mh issues. Its amazing how positive you stay ( everyone is entitled to those dreadful days) and how resilient you are. I really hope the pain clinic helps im sure you wouldve already tried all the suggestions i had in mind.

    do you find when in pain your depression comes around more?

    Does gardening help you maintain your internal balance?

    Tams- i just read your post to MrsD and its good! Thank you for explaining what helps you too. Im sure its helping our readers as well. I like the idea of actually thinking about why i am feeling the way i am instead of shoving it all away.

    Chloe- glad tutoring went ok for you. Plan something nice for yourself this arvo

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    Hi Starts :)

    Aaand I'm back on the dreaded laptop so no emojis from me :(

    I love roses too- yellow and orange ones make me sad they bring back memories :'(

    My depression isn't worse when in pain; the pain helps keep my focus off the depression which is why sometimes I self harm.

    Unfortunately nothing nice this arvo (except for helping here of course) first day back and I've somehow wound up with English homework :(

    *sigh* well I guess we can't be on holidays all the time can we?

    x Chloe

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    hi Chloe

    urgh i know- no emojis for me either!

    please try not to sh, if you need help you can come on here or call a helpline or talk to your family/friends ok. you dont have to do it on your own. i have faith youll beat the balck dog and that feral cat.

    bugger about the homework but thats part of school- wait till you hit yr 11 and 12! seesh had more homework then the work i was doing at school lol. anyways try to relax and doing something nice, give your brain a rest and have some 'you time'

    take care!

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    Unfortunately most my friends are on that hike, am home alone so no fam for me to talk to, and I don't really feel like talking to anyone, typing is easier so I'll stick around before getting stuck into that homework.

    Yeah not looking forward to year 11 and 12... and i'm struggling with year 9 *grimacing emoji* HELP ME haha hopefully I'll pass.

    I put some music on because my mum's not here to complain about pop music haha, will maybe do some German and mindfulness soon...

    thanks for the responses :)

    Chloe xox

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    thats alright. remember the helplines are there via chat too if need be.

    haha well make the most of that time alone and dance around and do whatever :)

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    2 May 2018 in reply to Chloe_M

    Hi Chloe, Startingnew and all reading,

    Hope school was okay for you today Chloe! Also hope you were able to have some control over your anxiety.

    I had been invited to join some older ladies from Church for lunch today in a local café. At one stage I wasn't sure if I was going to attend or not, but did go in the end and quite enjoyed it. The lady opposite me engaged me in conversation which was lovely as at some moments I felt like running out of the door due to my anxiety issues!

    If I had done that I would have missed out on a slice of very nice lemon tart! As we were all leaving, a couple of the dear ladies told me they hope I join in more of their social functions. That was very nice of them.

    Tomorrow I begin attending a pain clinic. It is going to take me over an hour to drive there, down the highway and through the outskirts of the city. As I am in that area, I am going to catch up with a girlfriend as well.

    Then it will be home to start the next lot of my study. I wonder what this subject will be!

    Managed a walk this morning but have not spent any time in the garden.

    Cheers all from Dools

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    2 May 2018 in reply to Doolhof

    Hello everyone

    Dools, it's been so long since I've popped in here to say hello. Sorry to hear about your back. Aging is painful hey?

    I love your analogy of the garden with the mind. So right, many of us care so much for the garden, why not care for our minds in the same way. Pulling out the weeds, e.g. getting rid of all the negatives, those things that don't add to the beauty of our world. So good. You are always such a mine of information. Do love reading your posts. Such positivity, even when you're not at your best. Wow!!

    Thanks for being you Dools.

    Kind regards

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    Hi PamelaR,

    Thanks for your kind words! Being me is all I can be! Ha. Ha. My Mum was disappointed I was born a girl, hey, not my fault right! My husband thought that because I am female I would be a fantastic cook...where did that come from? Another Ha. Ha.

    The old back is a little bit worse for wear thanks to arthritis, working in aged care for a decade and a couple of car accidents. As long as I pace myself I am usually okay.

    Yesterday I wanted to do more gardening, so left it until late in the afternoon so I only did an hour or so. I actually stopped before I experienced too much pain which is something I need to do more often. I can be a stubborn person sometimes!

    Instead of looking at what still needed to be done in the garden, I had a look around and appreciated the changes I have made already by cutting down the dead stuff.

    Once again like our mental health, removing what doesn't work, what stops us from growing and flourishing helps us to move on in life.

    Accepting a little work needs to be done to achieve something is so beneficial. If I just stood out in the garden and did nothing, that would be okay to a certain extent. Having done the work I can now appreciate the change it has made.

    Tomorrow I attend the first session of the pain clinic so I am curious to see what it is all about!

    Cheers from Dools

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    Dear Doolsy and all hiyaz ☺

    20yrs trying to get into a pain clinic geesh hope it goes well Doolsy. Back and nerve pains wicked

    Your analogy of weedings great haha good on you

    Hey thanks tweety you're pretty special too you know 🌹

    Doolsy that was good you pulled up gardening before your back hurt

    Don't like your ticker business at all poor lady

    Ok be gentle with yourselves good people 💗

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    Hi Dools and everyone else,

    sadly anxiety was worse than yesterday, was even pulling my hair out strand by strand which I haven't done for about a week :( I only do it when I'm really anxious/depressed :( I don't know why I do it thought. Have asked on other threads but is it a form of self harm? Or is it some other MI altogether?

    Have peaceful sleeps everyone

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    HI Mrs D

    your day sounds loveley and what nice ladies inviting you out with them and more often too. i hope the pain clinic goes well for you tomorrow an can provide some more support and assistance for your aches and pains.

    oh what are you studying (if your able to say)?

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    Hello Dools,

    Your day sounds wonderful today, I'm pleased that you did go out with the nice ladies, after not sure whether or not you were going You ended up going and had a lovely time, with another invite....oh..yeah..the yummy lemon tart..mmmm...

    I hope the pain clinic your going to tomorrow can help you ,

    Good on you for being kind and gentle with yourself by stopping when your pain started up..You need to look after yourself the best you can both physically and mentally..

    You always bring a smile to my face when I read your posts, your struggling so hard both mentally and physically yet you always seem to be able to put a bit of humour into your posts..

    Wishing you luck for tomorrow Dools,

    Warm and caring hugs,

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    Good Morning Everyone,

    Right now it is trying to rain here. It hasn't happened for so long, it is like the sky is trying to make up its mind if it really wants to rain or not!

    Busy day for me today. I will be off tot he pain clinic, I think we are having a chat with Dr. this morning, not sure really. I can tell you more later. Catching up with a friend who lives in that area than home to start the next lot of homework.

    My study is on caring for the elderly, a course my employment lady has put me on. My Dr. wants to know what care I will be able to give with my back condition. I did mention to the Employment lady I had to give up aged care due to increased degeneration and pain levels escalating. She told me aged care facilities now have lifting machines. I asked her how she thought the people got in those machines in the first place!

    Hopefully the study will be diverse enough for me to find a role where lifting is not required, as the course does seem to cover a lot of support roles besides just physical caring for people.

    DB my usual Dr is back again next week, I have an appointment booked to see him. Will see what he says about the ticker business. The chest pain seems to have settled again so that is a good sign. Problem is the issue doesn't always present itself while I am at the Drs!

    Yes, it is good for me to stop doing physical work when I know it is hurting my back. In a way It is a kind of self harming for me. Why I do it I don't know!

    Chloe it is a bit like you pulling out your hair. Why do we do these things? Why do we feel the need for pain or to harm ourselves? For me I know it is the mental health issues I have and also my low self esteem and feeling like for some silly reason maybe I don't deserve to be happy or in a good place so I harm myself.

    Chloe, I hope you will find ways to believe you do not have to do those things. I now try to be more aware and change what I am doing. If I am abusing my back in the garden, I sometimes stop, ask myself what I am doing, than find something more pleasurable to do.

    I might pickup the hose and water the garden, nurturing the plants, doing something good. Are there things you can put in place at home to help you when you feel like that? Could you give yourself a head massage instead or brush your hair, or do something totally different to distract yourself?

    Are you getting help with your anxiety from a professional? Sorry, I haven't caught up with your thread to know the answers to this.

    Cheers, Doolsy

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    Hi Again,

    Startingnew, I mentioned my study in the above post. I raved on so much I ran out of characters! I'm trying not to be nervous about driving to the pain clinic. Thankfully I know the area I will be driving to as it is close to where we used to live in the city.

    It was lovely to be with the ladies. They are all a lot older than me, it was sweet watching them share walking sticks and holding each others arms for supporting walking down a short ramp and than out to their cars.

    I will let you all know about the pain clinic later. I had to fill in a 20 page questionnaire that I will hand over to the lady organising the group today. I don't even know how many participants there will be.

    Grandy thanks for the kind message. (Thanks all for your kind words) I had a bit of a hissy fit with my husband yesterday, I apologised profusely afterwards. He told me he was used to me reacting that way. Oh dear. Not good at all really!

    It is tough feeling like there is a battle going on all the time within my head. I do try the embracing and acceptance thing. IT is interesting how just one more thing can tip the balance though.

    I've realised I quite often feel lost in the afternoons for some reason so have been trying to find ways to fill that time meaningfully with activities. At present we have very noisy road works going on right out the front of the house. I have tried lots of ways to block out the noise including rather loud music when my husband is not home and earplugs.

    The vibration of the machinery is hurting my ears and giving me headaches. It is good I am going out today and will help out in the Op Shop on Friday seeing as I can't do it today. That will get me out for a couple of days. I have planned to do my study in the evening once the trucks have gone so I can think.

    Sometimes I need to be creative and flexible. Oh dear. Another long post from me!

    Cheers all from Dools

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    3 May 2018 in reply to Doolhof

    Hello Dools,

    Sorry your not doing to good..💐 Maybe a little bunch of flowers to brighten up your day..

    The roadworks would be very noisy. Don't they take ages to complete the job..I remember going into our major town here..over one hour away..roadworks we're everywhere the trip took nearly two hours one way...I went back in two months later and still there..lol I haven't been back since over two years now...There probably still there...

    Good luck with your studies this afternoon, Do you wear ear plugs when your studying to block out the noise?

    I hope your day turn out to be an okay day Dools.

    Warm and caring thoughts,

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    3 May 2018 in reply to Doolhof

    Always a pleasure reading your posts Doolsy please don't worry about long ones we care about you and want to know how you're going

    Sorry I meant to say also how lovely they want you to go to more social outings, I don't they'd be as taken with you as we are. You're a breath of fresh air

    All best with your big day and hope you enjoy your visit with your friend. I remember filling out a big questionnare too with pain spesh.

    Take good care of yourself lovely lady

    Lovely sunny day here I'm yet again going to sleep again and will walk sarvo. Hope you do get rain.

    That's right getting from bed or chair into the lifting machines.

    Care about you very much Doolsy glad your chest pains settled 🌹 and regular GP back.

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    3 May 2018 in reply to Doolhof

    Doolsy I am yet to see a professional about anxiety depression etc, however am seeing the GP on Monday for a referral.

    those alternatives to pulling sound like a good idea. Might give them a try. Only problem is that it's mostly at school, can't brush my hair in the middle of class. Will think on it. I usually have a hair elastic around my wrist that I twist and play with, also pull back and flick it against my wrist.

    hope you had a good day xx

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    3 May 2018 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi Mrs D

    good luck with your studies, im sure youll do great esp having some knowledge already too. there is indeed lots of new inovations but as you said to get into those chairs/lifts/etc someone still needs to help them i wish you well though and send my best wishes re studying and making things work.

    its ok to be nervous going to new places, since youve already been im hoping you remembered to take a few deep breathes when you were getting extra nervous. how did you go today? i hope the rest of your day was good too and were able to get into your garden provided the rain stayed away long enough.

    you said you are feeling lost of an afternoon, perhaps then is a good time to study for a little while. do you ahve any other hobbies like knitting/sewing/other crafts or anything else you like that could help pass a little bit of time?

    urgh how noisy are those roadworks! i hope they bugger off soon and you can get some peace once again.

    sending hugs and positive vibes xox

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    5 May 2018 in reply to startingnew

    Hello Everyone,

    Special greetings to Grandy, DB, Startingnew and Chloe,

    The rain came along and scared the road workers away, so guess they will be back gain next week. Yes, I will be trying out different ear plugs. It will be wonderful to have our dirt road sealed when it is finally finished. They are making the road wider as well.

    The Pain Clinic went okay. I walked in there and nearly walked right out again! Talked myself into staying. The first session was basically what the clinic is all about and some basics on dealing with chronic pain. There should have been up to 15 of us, only 6 showed up! I felt sorry for the facilitator of the group!

    I do need to work on that period of the day when I feel lost and confused. I saw an Activity Diary in a book I have been reading, so will try to implement that idea and structure in things to do, enjoyable, study, work etc.

    Some afternoons my whole body aches so much I just can't push myself further, that frustrates me some days, just another thing I need to accept.

    The rain here has been wonderful! The garden looks wet! Even the fuzzy leaves of the geraniums have been washed clean by the rain! Everything looks sparkly clean.

    I'm trying to appreciate the fact I can do some study that will help my job prospects, I just need to stress less over doing it. It really is ridiculous how stressed and anxious I can make myself before I even turn the computer on! It was not my idea to do the study, but the employment ladies.

    After 2 months of studying I have still not had any work marked. I tried to phone the course people about that yesterday, had a recorded message saying everyone was at a meeting and they would call back. I wonder when that might be! Last time they called back after 3 working days.

    I was also stuck with one module and wanted assistance, guess that will have to wait as well.

    Cheers all from Dools

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    5 May 2018 in reply to Chloe_M

    Hi Chloe,

    All the best with the Drs. appointment. Is someone going with you or are you going alone? Depending on how you feel about conversing with your Dr, you can always write down what the issues are and hand the Dr what you have written.

    I'm needing to do a little research on anxiety myself as mine seems to be escalating lately!

    Do you wear your hair up at school? If it is long enough could you braid it, that would make it harder to pull out I would imagine. Yes, I don't think brushing your hair in class would be acceptable.

    I have heard of people wearing a band around their wrist, that is a good idea.

    Hope the Dr is able to direct you to someone who can help if you need to chat with a therapist of some kind. Do they have counsellors at your school, a Chaplain or someone?

    All the best, cheers from Doolsy

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