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Topic: Surviving: Being in a better place

  1. monkey_magic
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    16 March 2022 in reply to demonblaster

    Hi DB

    So sorry to hear, my condolences. May she now rest in paradise

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    16 March 2022 in reply to demonblaster

    Hello Beautiful Deebi👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩🤗...

    So much hoping your okay, but I’m guessing your very sad and not doing to good...🤗..

    I knew your mil, through your words, spoken from your heart...she was a beautiful woman...and much loved by you..Keep her beautiful memories of your time together in your thoughts, keep the love you have for her in your heart...love never dies, honey...it stays with us...forever we carry that love we felt and received....

    Not sure what to say to you, I know nothing will ease your soul and heartbreak right now....

    Just sitting quietly with you dear precious friend....holding your hand...

    My kindest and most caring thoughts, bbff....Take your time lovely bbff...In you own time...we are all here for you..

    👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩Grandy (🕊🌱)..

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    17 March 2022 in reply to Ggrand

    Hey lovely friends 👩‍❤️‍👩🐾🐒 and readers 👋

    Thank you So much dear Pawsy Grandy and Magic ☺

    Knowing you beautiful people are close by means the world I'm very grateful truthfully thanks so much.

    It's a massive relief that we saw her recently it was such a lovely visit. I have beautiful memories of that.

    Pretty hard to get the darling out of my mind which is how its always been but now her not being here anymore is pretty average isn't it.

    Pawsy 🐾 I know this is hard for you too lovey with your recent loss as well. Just not fair is it 🤗 same for you Grandy 👩‍❤️‍👩 love you also have recently lost important people. My hearts with youse too 💗

    My dear bbff 👩‍❤️‍👩 you're so beautiful. Anything you say soothes me you're a great comfort. Love you so very much. PubAok. Geez Grandz I wish 😢 SO much that we could be for real and others here too.

    Many thanks again dear friends I'm remembering so many beautiful memories.

    You know I thought about her leaving beautiful qualities to people and thought about her that she used to get up at 6am mostly...yukko! Guess what time the smoke alarm went off this morning a few times then stopped 😲 only the 2nd time its gone off. The bloke came today to check it. A scheduled check.

    Mind blowing aye ☺ We don't know but it's pretty amazing all the same esp that it went off after my late love passed at the other place 💗

    You're beautiful people 🤗

    👩‍❤️‍👩😚🤗💗🐾🤗💗🐒🤗💗

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    17 March 2022 in reply to demonblaster

    Hello beautiful Deebi👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩,

    I had goosebumps when I listened to you about your fire alarm...and it happened twice, both times after a loved one passed...I think it’s a sign that they are now together in paradise and letting you know they are okay...

    Awe, hun I think it’s beautiful that you have so many special memories of your mil, to store away in your heart forever... I read somewhere that love is eternal, it never dies, it continues to live on, inside our heart 💓....

    Just wanted to pop in to let you know I’m thinking about you and hope so much that you’re doing okay....If you need to sweet lady, please talk here about anything you want/need to...,Unconditionally love you so much💚🦋🦄👼🕊🌱🧸🤗..Big warm, but gentle hugs bbff...

    👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩Grandy..,,

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    18 March 2022 in reply to demonblaster

    Hello Beautiful Deebi👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩..

    Wanted to call in and give you and Mr Deebi a pot of chicken vegetable soup I made yesterday afternoon...just in case your not up to cooking anything..

    Thinking of you dearest bbff, with lots of care and love in my heart for you.. 💭🕊💚....Warm gentle hugs 🤗..

    👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩Grandy..xoxo

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    22 March 2022 in reply to Ggrand

    You're a very beautiful loving bbff 👩‍❤️‍👩 thank you for being so caring and such a sweetyheart.

    I'm ok well not but am.

    Will bbl to talk and reply huns. Really love your beautiful friendship and support everyone included it's greatly appreciated.

    Thank you for being you beautiful 👩‍❤️‍👩💜🤝💫🗯🤗😚😢

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    22 March 2022 in reply to demonblaster

    Hello Beautiful Deebi👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩...

    I am about to bed now dearest friend, when I heard your okay...but not atm...Awe honey...here are some comforting hugs lovely lady.....

    Im here if you want to talk....

    Please remember to...”Believe in yourself and all that you are, know that their is something inside you, that is greater then any obstacle........Christian D Larsen...

    Beautiful quote, for a beautiful friend....the words speak the truth....Please believe in yourself....you are one very incredible and amazing lady...

    Good night beautiful friend....sending my little pixies down into your dreams tonight....to give you a lot of peace and restful sleep..

    Your biggest bbff fan...love you dear friend..💚🧸🤗🕊🌱

    👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩Grandy..

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    24 March 2022 in reply to demonblaster

    Hello Deebi,

    Just popping to give you a gentle squishy comforting hug lass... I have a comfy (well padded) shoulder if you want to have a cry... I'll put the kettle on & we can sit quietly or you can reminisce about you lovely mil over a cuppa... I'm sure Grandy & Mr Deebi will be sitting with us surrounding you with love & support.

    Always here if you need to talk.

    🤗🐻🤗💜💙💚💛

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    26 March 2022 in reply to demonblaster

    Hello Beautiful Deebi👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩, Paws and everyone...🤗..

    Thinking of you precious friend...with lots of love, care, kindness, compassion and concern...

    No rush to reply bbff...just letting you know that I’m sitting with you in spirit and gently holding your hand...🤝 tied by our golden friendship ribbon 🎀...

    Here for you bbff..if you feel you need to talk 💚..

    👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩Grandy....🌜🕊🌱🌛

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    27 March 2022 in reply to demonblaster

    Hi DB,

    Just a note, dear one, to say I'm thinking of you. Sending you some virtual hugs, ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️of care for & sooth you.

    Anytime you want to talk ...(heh) I know you will,😸 So, I will be listening. Just speak up.

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    27 March 2022 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi Pawsy 🐾 Grandy love 👩‍❤️‍👩 Kitty 😸

    Thank you lovely people.

    I'm ok but you don't stop thinking aye with so much love.

    It's late so beddy v.soon.

    A bit of news so will bbt hopefully.

    Love you Mrs Grandy my sweety bbff 🤗☺👩‍❤️‍👩💜😚

    Sleep well lovely ones and thank you very much.

    🐾👩‍❤️‍👩💫🎀✨😸

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    30 March 2022 in reply to demonblaster

    Dear DB (with a wave to all)~

    I'm just popping in to see how you are getting on, and your bbf too. It's a hard time for you when dealing with someone passing and uncertainty over another . Plus the things you have to cope with daily too.

    No need to rush to answer, just letting you know I, along with the many others above, care.

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    30 March 2022 in reply to Croix

    Hi Grandy 👩‍❤️‍👩 Croixy 🐧 and other lovelies out there 👋

    Thank you dear also valued friend 🐧 ☺

    I'm surprisingly coping ok considering how incredibly deeply I love that beautiful one of my bbff's.

    I thought it might happen that I've gone into another mh episode so maybe the manias making it ok not that it is at all.

    It was a shock because and not complaining at all I wasn't aware she'd so quickly since seeing her dunno maybe a mth-ish ago which was such a beautiful visit and apart from being a little quieter and so fragile she was the darling I've over 38 ish yrs grown to love so much. We had a fantastic friendship but think best I stop here the tears are starting which is ok but want to keep my mind as good as po through this episode.

    I wrote and read at the funeral which was a lovely send off. Beautiful loving close big family.

    Assuming it was low key mania that helped me have no nerves reading and picked a poem they asked if I'd like to read.

    Even heard the poem that touched my heart when it was picked at beautiful Mums passing and was so spot on for her.

    " Miss me but let me go" and it didn't hurt or trigger.

    Yes thanks for asking Croixy this bloke is a good friend who's my darlings besty that I knew before meeting the gorgeous 😍 I'd seen him and thought well hellooo also with a beautiful smile as this good man had.

    Yikes spoke today and he's doing it very hard. I'm struggling with him being on Palliative chemo that apparently will work for up to 12 mths. He's stage 4. About 3 mths into it.

    Mil I had time to come to acceptance but naturally missing her no end although the cancer was another shock. She reached a very good age still with her facilties.

    Yikes better stop again because when I come down it'll I'd think really hit harder.

    Today we heard of the 3rd passing. One I knew and liked very much, he used to collect donations for charity as my love did and I too for a while with him before that folded on wrong! very unfair terms with our well loved respected leader.

    The other is the father of a friend that has/will be completely gutted which is very sad and he's with mh withdrawn from friends

    Kitty oh what a 😂 your Avitar. Classic good on ya 😁.

    Got untold achieved today boom. if my memory in these times would let me record coping strats I can work more on them.

    Really thank you good beautiful friends. You all matter very much. Love to all

    Grandy I'LL be backkk to talk more. Some things I want to yak about ☺🌈🌞

    👩‍❤️‍👩🤗🎀👩‍❤️‍👩💜

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    30 March 2022 in reply to demonblaster

    Hello Beautiful bbff👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩🤗....

    Sending you lots of 💚...followed by some comforting hugs🕊🤗...and of course my care 🦋🦄👼...

    Thinking of you more then ever...through this sad time your going through....Please...be kind and gentle to you..

    👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩Grandy.....

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    30 March 2022 in reply to demonblaster

    D B

    hello Just checking and catching up.
    Sorry about your friend but glad you could be part of her funeral.

    Kind thoughts b

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    30 March 2022 in reply to demonblaster

    ❤️Hugs❤️

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    31 March 2022 in reply to demonblaster

    Hello Deebi,

    Sending you the gentlest comforting hugs lass

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    2 April 2022 in reply to demonblaster

    Hello Beautiful Deebi👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩, and your beautiful supporters..🤗.

    Im sorry honey that another dear friend has also passed...You’ve lost so many dear people that you loved very dearly...It doesn’t matter I don’t think if you do prepare yourself for loosing someone, that you know will pass it’s still very hard and a big shock...because it’s so final..

    Deebi, sweet dear bbff...,you are grieving big time..Nothing I say will ease that grief for you...but I do want to say that your love for your mil and friends will never ever leave you..I read once.,that grief is all the love we have for them and want to give them, and cannot give them.,,This is true in my mind....One way to give that love is to remember the good times with all your heart...

    I know you don’t really believe in God...I do, and a little bit of proof that their is an afterlife, came with the air conditioner turning itself on....I think you said air conditioner...I remember the night my hubby passed a very favourite picture of a lighthouse we both loved...fell off the wall..

    I do believe that their spirit is around us, as long as we have those happy and beautiful memories of them....

    Take the time you need to grieve, dearest bbff...No hurry to reply here at all...We all hold you so very deeply in our hearts and care so much about you...We want only the best for you....ever..

    Something I wanted to send you beautiful Deebi:-

    God looked around his garden.. And found an empty place,

    He then looked down upon the earth.. And saw your tired face.

    He put his arms around you..And lifted you to rest.

    God’s garden must be beautiful..He always takes the best.

    He knew that you were suffering..He knew you were in pain.

    He knew that you would never..Get well on earth again.

    He saw the road was getting rough..And the hills were hard to climb.

    So he closed your weary eyelids..And whispered, ‘Peace be thine’.

    It broke our hearts to lose you..But you didn’t go alone,

    For part of us went with you..The day God called you home.
    –Anonymous

    Sending you so much love, care and gentle comforting hugs..💚🦋👼🤗..,

    👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩Grandy...,🕊🌱....🦄👼....👭....💚💜....🤝 all superglued together..

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    Hi Grandy 👩‍❤️‍👩 & all ☺

    You're beautiful people giving your time & immensely appreciated support to which I'll always be eternally grateful thank you 🤗

    I'm surprised that I am ok which I'm questioning at times.
    Manias a godsend anytime's guiding me tho I'm starting to come out of it thank goods - the recent episode was quite a long recovery.

    If I dont try to understand/reason why I'm ok which yes is good, beasty wins allowing guilt/self doubts about not crumbling but I'm coming to terms with this too.

    Maybe blocking it shock can do that or hoping acceptance. I was so pleased it seemed she had which makes it easier and her being very well home nursed free of pain and not alone on her passing.

    It won't change she's 24/7 in my mind of course but yes Grandy I have so many amazing memories.

    It wasn't always a smooth ride which goes both ways. Those memories aren't surfacing.There wasnt an ounce of malice in this beautiful soul. Never intentional. Goes both ways

    Idk what's ahead but for now I'm best to accept being ok. Her daughter has too by the sounds
    Only beautiful people give you reason to love that deep. What a privilege having her for so long in my life

    A couple of days before 😢 I heard she stopped talking. She opened her eyes before she left. She knew they were there with her. GOLD 💗

    There'll be times I'll hear parts about it all. I so hope its not in mh.
    I went very low listening to her daughter on the down side previously

    Maybe grieving over the 7 yrs since my late love & the positives above has helped reach acceptance. Time will tell.

    I'm reasoning with those down thoughts. I don't doubt tho my love for her that'll remain v.deep

    It wasn't always a smooth run for us. Never was there intentional malice or pain meant. Runs both ways.

    Sorry wasn't clear the 2nd passing I liked very much but not on a personal level like my darling was. He's ok.

    Paws I'd love a hug/shoulder & cuppa thank you 🤗

    Quirky thanks for your support too hun ☺ hope you/all are going ok

    Croixy always thank you too 🤗

    Kitty to you too darlin ☺ You're not a puddy cat you're a purrdy cat 😸

    Monks 🐒 beautiful resting in paradise 🤗

    Grandy 👩‍❤️‍👩 powerful poem isn't it. Think I've heard it before. Thank you for a beautiful loving post always hun. I knew you believed in God. I've heard of pictures coming off walls too. I don't think we finish here.

    Looking further into thighs. Somethings not good. Affecting walking a LOT.

    👩‍❤️‍👩💜🗯🤗⚘

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    3 April 2022 in reply to demonblaster

    Hi DB,

    We grieve as we will, allowing for where we are within ourselves. I know it gets confusing & I've questioned my own responses at different times. Each was different, & that's important to remember. How I responded was alright for where I was at, at the time.

    You don't have to crumble to show that you loved someone dearly. You feel your love in your heart & hold her in your mind. You might find other ways of expressing your love, & loss. When I lost someone, who I'd lost long ago anyway, I found it hard to express deep feelings. conflicted & some awful guilt & more.... I found creative expression very helpful. Writing & painting. I wish I could have done more, but I think I've done enough, for now.

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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    5 April 2022 in reply to demonblaster

    Hi Deebi

    I finally found your thread - just bookmarking it dear lady. I see you have suffered a profound loss recently and I am sorry. 💝

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    Hello Beautiful Deebi👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩 Waves Kitty, Hanna and all...🤗..

    Hun, we all grieve differently and that’s okay, Your love for her is still so strong and always will be..no matter how your journey through this grief effects you...Also, our body does have its own way of protecting us in times of deep sorrow...

    I agree bbff...you were both privileged and very honoured being in each other’s lives...

    I am sorry I misread your last post...and I’m pleased that your lovely Mr. Deebi is doing okay...You have been through so much sadness together and it’s comforting to know that your both there for each other...I am so very grateful you have each other...

    Its a powerful and beautiful poem, isn’t it Deebi..to honour the ones that we’ve loved and lost...

    Please remember Deebi, that you are loved/liked and cared for by so many here...and we are here for you if you feel to talk..

    I noticed another golden strand has joined our golden ribbon that joins our hearts and souls together....💚💚💫💫💫💚💚....Love you very much sweet Deebi....🕊🌱👼🦄...Lots of care in my thoughts 💭 24/7 ...

    Hugs, care, love to everyone listening here..

    👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩Grandy...

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    8 April 2022 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi Grandy 👩‍❤️‍👩 Pawsy 🐾 Kitty 😹 Hannah 🐕 Croixy 🐧 Quirky ⚘Magic 🐒 & readers ☺

    Many thanks lovelies I so appreciate your kind support it really means a lot. V.comforting 🤗

    Grandy & Kitty thank you so much I needed that reminder about us grieving differently. I miss her very much & always will she was a huge part of my life. A truly beautiful lady. We developed over the yrs a great bbff friendship and deep love. She exuded love and received it. At peace now.

    Today we went to another funeral. Beautiful heartfelt I don't like saying farewell, I believe/hope we meet again. This was/is a highly respected man mentioned above. I held up well with reminders of the recent one to my dear mils. Had to look away a few times seeing peoples pain and understanding how heartbreaking. Dear Mr 😍 is ok too. I respected this man and didn't know him on a personal basis

    This Mh episode I thought was going ok it's hard to know when manias carrying you tho on saying that when I start to sleep better is the sign. A few more I'll be so called " normal " again.

    There's been a handful of absolute omg moods but have been getting out of them with activity. Yesterday I said to Mr Deebi the gorgeous I'm fed up with this which is how we all feel in the deeps

    Was quite stressed yesterday did some serious deep breathing-you'd think I was giving birth 😅 tried to explore why I was so churned up. It settled. You feel the angst in your chest

    Been flat out this episode doing internet jobbies for both the sweetheart and I. Organising calls etc. Also we've had a lot of good socials

    Was a bit ancious driving on the highway but no choice the other day and only did one complete roundabout then we sussed where to go mind you driving like a snail trying to not miss turnoffs. Pretty sure drivers were grateful of passing lanes. No beeps was a bonus.

    The car as we reached our destination quite scary revved like a vroom 💨 head- needed my bbff mechanic 🛠 fortunately we had it booked for rego, waited near 3 wks for it back. Ok we dont use it much. Good now not high cost & have an account phew.

    Struggling with good friends impending passing the poor fella's holding well. Hopefully a few mths left. Think I'm going to have to word his brother to ease off things he says in front of him. Sigh

    Croixy I'm giving a great deal of thought on a convo between you & kitty bbl ☺ & you my Grandy too

    Grandy 👩‍❤️‍👩💜 beautiful you're da bomb my bbff. Love you so deeply

    Hannah lovely seeing you ☺ ty

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    9 April 2022 in reply to demonblaster

    Hello Beautiful Deebi👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩🤗..and everyone.....🤗..

    You’re going through so many heartbreaking losses honey..I really am deeply sorry...not just words bbff...truth...I wish so much I could be their with you...to just sit by your side quietly and well...just be with you...I am pleased that your beautiful love is their for you and helping you through what your going and will again go through....

    Awe Deebi..it’s hard isn’t it saying goodbye...Believe that you will all meet again...in another place..a more beautiful and peaceful place then in this part of our journey....

    I’m pleased that you are their for your gorgeous man...he needs your live, care, patience and compassion as you’ve needed his....true deep love is what life is all about..,you have each other in r/l....that’s so precious...Even though we only know and love each other, through these forums...it’s a real and beautiful friendship that I treasure so very much....so if ever you feel to talk about absolutely anything at all....I’ll do my very best to help you in anyway I can.....

    I am so happy your car is fixed now...it doesn’t matter you don’t use it that much....It’s comforting to know it’s their and working in case of any emergency...praying never will be though.....I use my car only twice a week for work..other then that it just sits around for the spiders 🕷🕷 to make their home in...They love the side windows 😂😂...I’ve called them...Henry and Henrietta and let them live in the mirrors..

    I am proud of you, keeping busy....internet jobbies, organising things and lots of socials....outings?...makes a difference talking, meeting different people at times...I know how much you like to be with people....You have done so great..through all you’re going through....

    I really do hope so much bbff that you really are okay....Only relying on words to know is hard...isn’t it?....💙👭..

    Sending you my love, my care, my respect 💚💜🕊👼🤗🧸...Oh and a couple of Henry and Henrietta ‘s babies for your side revision windows..🕷🕷🕷🕷..

    👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩Grandy😁

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    9 April 2022 in reply to demonblaster

    Hi DB,

    I have been thinking of you, with so much you are going through, it's no wonder moods are out of kilter, with strong emotions, because these losses happening so close together. It's such an (to put it mildly) uncomfortable time, coming to terms with the facts of the losses, intellectually knowing these people are not in your life, then experiencing their absence...

    I'm sure keeping busy, with doing things you usually do, & adding some other things, too, is great for making each day full of variety & distraction, so the whole day is not filled with grief & loss. I think that's fine. From my perspective, I think you have been coping very well. Some 'OMG moods' are to be expected, I would have thought.

    Remember, it's okay to feel a whole range of emotions, all those related to grief as well as your usual range of feelings, so it's also okay to find yourself laughing, crying, angry, hurt, longing, or relieved, knowing these people are not suffering anymore. It's okay to find yourself appreciating if the sun comes out, or you hear some beautiful music, or when you laugh at a joke, or even when you may find yourself feeling nothing much at all.

    I think you know, routines are helpful, so is rest & recreation, good food, fresh air.. try to remember the things you do to treat yourself with love & care. This includes being with people such as "Dear Mr" (I think you said above) who is indeed dear to you, & you to him, & spending some time, maybe reflecting together about these losses. I'm sure you have memories to share.

    Gentleness & warmth, to you. Hugs & ❤️☮️❤️- & everyone.

    mmMekitty

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    9 April 2022 in reply to demonblaster

    Dear DB (with a wave to Grandy and All)~

    Considering all you have been faced with I think you have been coping marvelously, and it sounds as if keeping busy may have helped, I know when I've been faced with loss it certainly has.

    If I understand (go crook at me if I do not:) then you have been basically using mania as a tool to help, and this is a pretty positive way of looking at things.

    I hope you (and your car) now have a smooth ride for a bit.

    As for thinking abut anything I wrote with mmMekitty, if my part it was deep it was simple a fluke🤔

    BTW I pinched two of your 🐟's , one for the of the 🐧's and one for 😹

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    9 April 2022 in reply to demonblaster

    Re whichever conversation between Croix & me, which you, DB, are thinking about, I'm sorry ... I am not sure what converstation you are refering to, what was said, or anything... I know, need brain food, but what good is it when I feel some errant 🐧🐧🐧took my🧠out for a swim, left it all full of sea water, my poor, soggy, waterlogged 🧠& thought they could shove it all back in, more wrinkled than ever, & think no differences would be noticed! Looks like you did, but I don't know what conversation you are thinking about.

    Wasn't something that worried or upset you, DB, was it? Please, tell me if/when that happens.

    ❤️☮️❤️

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    10 April 2022 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hey Kitty😸 Croixy 🐧 Grandy 👩‍❤️‍👩 & all

    Thanks for reply and communcation Kitty no darlin youse haven't done anything wrong or upsetting at all. It's something that you feel that I can relate to. Been giving it a lot of thought and plan to post sometime between now and Christmas.

    Yip hear ya about the brain being soggy and inside out. Too much fun eh.

    All good hun hope you all are too ☺ apart from the soggy part 😅

    Bbl few things to do today 🏃🏼‍♀️

    Love Mrs Grandy beautiful bbff always 👩‍❤️‍👩 💓🗯

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    Thanks DB. 😹That'll be something 🎁to look forward to🎄! I love the occasional well-thought-out gifts..😻

    ❤️❤️❤️

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    13 April 2022 in reply to Ggrand
    Hi Grandy 👩‍❤️‍👩 & other dear friends ☺
    Again thank you so much for your comforting support


    Some physicals making life pretty hard atm. Some at come good at least for a bit


    Bad headaches are usual still. Bummer they cant do anything not that I want neck surgery. Bliss when I dont have them for a few days. Still up to 3 days. Drag you down don't they


    ? bursitis in my arm ? from the shoulder. Xrays soon. Very strong pain on certain movements. A recent rolling over in bed felt like I'd dislocated somewhere 😢 I suspect a tear. When I managed to move it came better somewhat leaving wicked pain with certain movement. Been intermittent over the yrs never this bad


    Hips daily OMG cruel pain often. The odd day its easier. SO hard not leaning forward in a day & you forget. Straightening ups the terrible part at least its good after that.
    Finally plucked up the courage to see if they'll bulk bill. They at least work out something. Been many yrs severe pain with this. Hoping they'll do the hip replacement.


    Yesterday was another hard mentally this episode. Some days opposed to constant have been coping ok. Huge improves still SO damned hard. Later ? a tiny dose of mania gave me a sense of calm rather than pulling my hair out with frustration trying to get some more things done. Grotty mood passed


    At the recent funeral a lady talking in general
    said she feels its important to move on after a passing. Like after a couple of mths or so. I said some reasons why thats not easy for many. She's right but many factors contribute to ability/length of grieving. I didnt like or agree but no agro. 2ish mths is a hard call. Pfftt

    We have an out with besty 2day/2moz with v.sick friend.
    In the face of extreme hard times the courage and stamina some people have is truly remarkable. He's not giving up which makes it easier to support him tho heart breaking hearing how its all going & knowing whats ahead. It's a mongrel part of life isnt it!

    Not heard a peep from a replacement mhw tho theres been delays I've heard which I sympathise but communication would be decent. Will contact them soon & probs say something respectfully. Struck Gold with the recent one. Took 2 and half yrs to get their help. Think I got lost in the system.

    Will reply properly sometime to you loves you've all helped immensely. Im eternally grateful
    Thank you 💗

    Grandy 👩‍❤️‍👩💗🗯 deepest of love always dear friend 🤗

    Youre all amazing beautiful people dont ever doubt that ⚘


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