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Topic: Wishing for a friend to talk to

  1. dragonflies
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    17 October 2017

    Hi,

    I feel alone. I'm 19 and I have no friends anymore. No one to confide in, trust, or share my life with. I just want someone to talk to. Someone who gets me and who I can relate to and vice versa. I find it hard trying to make friends. I dread the process of getting to know someone completely for who they are. It takes so much time and effort. I have only ever been hurt in the past after making such close friends and having them just drift away from you without a care in the world.

    Does anyone feel like this too?

    dragonflies

  2. startingnew
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    17 October 2017 in reply to dragonflies

    hi Dragonflies, youve just described me in your post.

    i find it very hard to make friends and only end up hurt when i do make them. im happy to chat to you though. also there is a social cafe for under 25s in bb social zone as well. feel free to pop in there and say hello

  3. dragonflies
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    17 October 2017 in reply to startingnew

    Hi startingnew,

    Thanks for replying. I would love to chat. What do you usually do with your time?

    Okay thanks for the suggestion I'll give it a look.

    dragonflies

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    17 October 2017 in reply to dragonflies

    hi Dragonflies

    im a full time carer but also have a secondary job as a farmhand. when im not working in either of these obs im studying or taking care of my younger siblings.

    i also like to exercise and go for walks as well

    what do you like to do?

  5. dragonflies
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    17 October 2017 in reply to startingnew

    Hi startingnew,

    Thats good you have a couple jobs. I work part time in a bakery and at an event place. Do some babysitting here and there but all in all not a lot. I have a younger sibling and my dad at home who I help out. Washing, cleaning, shopping, cooking etc. I'm trying to get back into exercise... though I do like walking. I have a dog so its nice to go out with her. What kind of exercise do you like? I'm trying to convince myself to try some sort of class. I used to be right into yoga.

    How many siblings do you have?

    I don't do much. Ill spend days in bed. I've just got back into reading. Netflix passes the time. And yeah I wish I could say more. But most of the time I feel like I can't have fun or that nothing is fun.

    dragonflies

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  6. Doolhof
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    17 October 2017 in reply to dragonflies

    Hi dragonflies,

    I see that you have a dog. I'd like a dog, we just have a cat at the moment. Some nights I go walking with my neighbours and their dogs. We have a lot of laughs along the way. The dogs are comical to watch.

    Is there a walking group near you, or a dog park? They might be places where you could meet other people. Yoga is something I have only ever done at home, I haven't found any classe4s near where we live in a smallish country town.

    Are there other people working at the bakery? Could you suggest you all get together and see a movie or something. Of course that all depends on where the bakery is.

    If I was working in a bakery I think I would like to eat all of the cakes myself! I would find it very hard to resist.

    Hope you manage to find your way around the forum. Like Startingnew has mentioned, there are fun places to visit on this forum too.

    Cheers for now from Dools or Mrs. D.

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  7. startingnew
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    17 October 2017 in reply to dragonflies

    You can call me SN for short if you like :)

    it gets abit much sometimes esp when im a carer and my siblings and mother live with myself and pop atm so it makes cleaning up and washing alot more and more time is needed as theres 5 instead of 2 plus mums bf decides to stay over too so sometimes 6.

    Its good that your helping out though. Good on you.

    i ride the exercise bike alot atm but i also walk and ride horses as we own them...

    Having a pet to walk i find gives motivation too.

    Ihave 2 younger siblings. Both very annoying but i love them.

    Mrs D has given some good convo starters too. Looking forward to hearing abit more :)

  8. dragonflies
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    17 October 2017 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi Dools,

    I'm not sure of a walking group. I tend to prefer to walk by myself at a faster pace. I sometimes find it meditative.

    I actually live across from a park. So I'm fortunate to live where I do. It's great to see people hanging out there and groups of people. But I still don't feel I want to be involved in any of it.. I'm not sure why.

    There are a few girls at the bakery I really get along with. I have been asked to hang out a few times though I can never end up going. I just find having to be really bubbly and cheerful hard. I feel like I'm pretending to be someone who I'm not. Then again I don't want to be some miserable person... I don't know. I don't want to bring anyone around me down.

    I eat a lot of the food! It's so naughty.

    dragonflies

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  9. dragonflies
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    17 October 2017 in reply to startingnew

    Okay, Hi SN :) Maybe my nickname can be dragon...

    Sounds like a full house. Does anyone look after you too?

    I can relate, my younger sister is annoying but I still love her and look out for her. I feel like no one else would.

    How many horses do you have? I have only been horse riding a few times. It was fun.

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  10. startingnew
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    17 October 2017 in reply to dragonflies

    Ok not probs :)

    No not really. I take care of everyone else including myself. Gets abit rough.

    Hahah annoying little sisters but still love them :)

    My siblings each havr a horse of their own and mum owns one too but i ride and train her horse for her so i call her mine too. So we have 3 all up

  11. dragonflies
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    17 October 2017 in reply to startingnew

    You must be very responsible and mature. I can imagine it would get rough.

    I wish I could be there to help you haha. Although I can be here to talk and listen.

    Have you finished school/want to study more?

    Do you ever try to go out and socialise or been in a relationship with girl/boy? I haven't much recently. I have been hyping myself up for probably nearly two months now to go to this kick boxing class. I don't know why I'm so nervous... I guess it's just being around people. I just want to feel like myself. Ahh

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    Thats ok haha we can chat here.

    Yes i finished my hsc 4 yrs ago (im 20 now) now and have been studying medical type courses. As thats a field im interested in.

    Ifind it very hard to socialise due my bullied past and again this yr i made new friends but have all turned on me now.

    i havent really dated no and im still working out my sexuality. I have a bad past with trauma (rape) so im not crash hot on dating but am comfortable with daring with both men and women (im a female)

    What about you? Do you get out and socialie? Dated/ing?

    Boxing is fun! Hard work but its fun.i use to do it through school as a sport and loved going though im sure i couldn't move after half the sessions lol

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    17 October 2017 in reply to dragonflies

    Hi Dragonflies,

    I'm sure most of us have days when we feel quite happy with our own company, there is nothing wrong with that at all. Growing up, I spent a lot of time by myself exploring our region by walking or riding a bike. We grew up in a small town with very few kids anyway, so making fun for yourself was the way to go most of the time.

    Regarding thinking you have to be happy all of the time, that is over rated! Ha. Ha. Just be yourself and enjoy the company of the other girls. Not everyone is bright and bubbly all of the time. Sometimes putting to much pressure on yourself can make you feel worse.

    I'm learning to deal with that myself at present, looking at more self-acceptance.

    Bakeries, mmmmm, I'm getting hungry just thinking about it. Do you have a favourite cake? I enjoy Hedgehog slices or caramel slices.

    I agree with you, walking can be meditative. I feel even more so at the beach.

    Hope you have an okay kind of day. Cheers from Dools

  14. dragonflies
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    18 October 2017 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi Dools,

    Its reassuring to know not everyone is bright and bubbly. I just don't want to bring people down. My family would tell me I was horrible to be around because I just seemed so sad and negative. So I just retreated to being on my own.

    When I used to hang out with friends, sometimes someone would ask me 'are you okay?' and I would sit up and go 'Yeah of course??' (I thought I was!) and they'd say something like 'oh, you just looked sad'. This happened a couple of times. Since then I figured I must have some negative energy always surrounding me. I don't know.

    Even though I haven't met any new people in the past few years, I don't even feel as though there is someone out there who would even get along with me, think like me or have the same values as me. Someone that I could be friends with in person and hang out with.

    I'm obsessed with chocolate croissants...

    Hope you have an okay kind of day too.

    dragonflies

  15. dragonflies
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    18 October 2017 in reply to startingnew

    Hey SN,

    Medical courses! I have been interested in the same sort of field. In fact at one point I was going to do medicine. I ended up completely changing units to commerce.... so boring I know. Feel like I'll be dropping out of that. I have absolutely no idea what I want to do let alone how to try figure it out as well. I feel very stuck there.

    I'm sorry to hear that they have turned on you. That has happened to me along with the bullying and it is one of the most hurtful feelings ever. Makes me feel sick on the inside. I think the positive out of it was that you were able to make some mates? Thats good... I guess they were definitely not the right ones hey. Good on you for trying.

    I am not dating anyone atm, I always ruin it before anything can happen. I have only dated boys. I wouldn't have ever dared to say I could be open to both girls and boys infront of my old friends they would probably have disowned me. (even though they ended up doing so anyway ...). My boyfriend (first love I suppose) broke up with me out of the blue, found out he was seeing someone else (round the corner from me...) and yeah ever since then I have just not been able to trust or want to open up to anyone after experiencing that.

    I am still curious to see how open I am to being with a girl. I mean I consider it. But it almost just seems like a fantasy or something, because I don't know anyone who is lesbian or bi. I am curious though. I went to a preppy private school where girls are so judgemental and everyone tries to conform. I hated it. I just wish people would accept anyone for who they are and not tease anyone or judge anyone. So I'd be nervous if people knew I was curious about both sexes ... I don't know. Otherwise nah I don't really socialise. I find it so hard to go out even on the odd occasion I am invited to. I just get so nervous now. I used to be so confident and a bit of a leader, never felt left out or different and I felt wanted there. Now I don't feel these at all.

    I am sorry to hear about your trauma. I don't really know what to say. I've never spoken to anyone who has experienced that. Are you able to talk about it now? I hope you are moving forward. No one deserves to go through that whatsoever. I hope you are okay. I do know there are kind and gentle people out there. Its just tough finding them thats all (and maybe holding onto them too.. I'm yet to find out haha)

    Yeah to be honest I just want to hit something! It'd feel so good.

    dragonflies

  16. dragonflies
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    22 October 2017 in reply to dragonflies

    Hey SN,

    How are you? How are things going?

    Hope things are going well for you.

    dragonflies

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    22 October 2017 in reply to dragonflies

    Oh my goodness im sorry i missed this!!

    You'll work out what you want to be as you go along. Slowly things will rule themselves out or your find a passion for something and really throw yourself into it and youll know :-)

    Friends come and go but the real ones hang around so these ones arent real so im sure othera will come along as life goes on.

    My feelings were reignited for a woman. Pity shes married but at least im not an emotionless monster.

    I am moving forward and with time ptsd will become easier. Yes i can yalk to about it to a extent but only on here. No one really know about it offline only my gp so they could perform physicals.

    Ijust celebrated ny 21st and that was good. Im in a hotel now just watching a movie.

    How have you been?

  18. dragonflies
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    22 October 2017 in reply to startingnew

    Hey SN,

    Thats okay, not to worry. Thanks for responding now.

    I agree, everyone says that you can't know what your passion is at such a young age. My problem is that I don't go out to try anything or experience anything to get to figure it all out.

    Friends are hard :(

    I'm glad to hear that. Moving forward is the best way to go...

    I understand that. I can only talk about my feelings and problems openly on these forums. I suppose its the anonymity and also the support from others and knowing there are others out there who can relate to you.

    Happy 21st! I hope you had a great day. What did you do the celebrate?

    That sounds good. What movie? Any good?

    I have been okay. Had a really bad low the past few days but slowly getting out of it. Have started on last resort medication so I guess that gives me hope? I don't know. I haven't been doing much. There's this boy I have been talking to, saw him a couple of times. I am so scared of opening up to someone. He asked about my arm and scars the other night and I just totally freeze I don't know what to say and I feel so stupid. I am scared that this will scare people away. I can't tell how he is feeling. He is very gentle and kind though I always feel like such a burden when I surround myself around others. I don't know how to change this.

    I'm just lying in bed and finished a movie too. Don't really know what to do now haha....

    dragonflies

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    22 October 2017 in reply to dragonflies
    Yeah thats the same as me, im stuck in my ol routine. Is there anything you would like to try even if you dont have thr confidence just anything?


    Yes it sure is the anonymity of being here, the support and encouragment on here is amazing and it has really saved my life. Literally, but there is hope out there and things can change even if we dont think it can.


    Thanks, well we went out for a celebratory lunch with some family and that was nice, tiring but nice.


    I was watching fantastic beasts, it was ok. Not quite what I expected but it was good. Its raining and cold here so im in a hotel room as part of a birthday gift and I dont get away and literally work 24/7 as im a carer so im staying here and taking 2 days off to just sit and relax.


    It took me 4 different medications and a yr to even get to the point of being ok. In saying that yes there is hope but they wont work on their own. Do you have a psychologist as well to talk about troubles offline and also work out the coping strategies that might work for you?


    I understand those scars, I have them too only they are on my thighs but I cant wear shorts.
    If he askes again tell him they are your battle wounds and ( if its its true ) your determined to not add any more. Then leave it at that.
    I think its really special that your starting to really like him. You dont have to open yourself right up but rather you can use it as a distractional support such as just talking about life, catching up, going for walk or doing whatever it is you like to do. Tlak about your interests and get to know each other better. You dont have to delve into whats making you unhappy or upset etc but if he asks whats wrong if you can tell him whats making you upset.
  20. dragonflies
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    Ah I'm not sure... When someone asks me what do I like or what would I like to do I have such a hard time finding any answers. If I really wanted to give something a go I will build up the confidence to do so. I just have absolutely no idea what... I am going to try kickboxing tonight... very big for me I'd say haha.

    Lovely, I love spending birthdays with family. It is nice to get all my family together in one space for a change!

    Sounds like my kind of holiday. Hope you have some more energy to get back into it. Sounded like you definitely deserved a break!

    Yeah I can understand that medication isn't a straight up fix, have to work on it too. I have seen a psychologist once, have another appt in a couple weeks. I have been very reluctant to go to a psychologist because I don't really like to talk about my problems to anyone or try to explain them. I also feel like it will never get that much better or completely overcome them so I find it hard to see the point in it all. Expensive, short and I felt like all I tried to do was explain who I am and most of my past, though I found it difficult in the span of just an hour. It was like word vomit or something, all muddled up and just spat out whatever came next. Confusing I think. I don't understand how this person is supposed to really know who I am in such short amounts of time in infrequent sessions.

    Yeah you're right. I agree, I don't like to talk about it or make up a big fuss. I just like to brush over it and ignore them. I find it hard to talk about when asked about it but I understand it would be confusing and confronting for him so I feel like he sort of deserves some sort of explanation.

    Ahh I don't know what I like to do!! Probably would want him to come lie in my dark dungeon of a room and watch netflix with me all day haha.

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    25 October 2017 in reply to dragonflies
    How did you go kickboxing? Did you enjoy it? Sounds like a great way to release some of that energy and anger etc, I use to do boxing through school and found it to be a greta release!
    It was a nice gathering yes.


    I understand where your coming from in regards to psychologists but sometimes its good to just go there vent and wealk out and leave those worries behind. If you see a psychologist regualrly then its like well I wouldnt call a psych a friend but its like catching up with a friend and getting to know them or well they getting to know you. Youd be surprised how much a psychologist 'knows you' even after only a few sessions.
    Haha bed and movies/netflix sounds great!


    What sort of things do you do to fill your day? What are some of your interests?
  22. dragonflies
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    Ah I didn't go haha. I will try again next week :( Thats why I want to try it! Hit something as hard as I can

    Yeah you're right. It would be nice to have someone in person who I could talk to and vent to for no cost though. Its like she only has to listen to me because its her job and shes being paid for it rather than firsthand cares for me. I feel some sort of pressure that I need to get better/improve how I feel. She isn't primarily for just venting to and talking about things, she does different types of therapy to learn about my thoughts/issues/problems and develop ways to overcome them, settle them or learn how to control them etc. Doesn't feel like I'll get there but I'm trying to keep an open mind most of the time and just see where it could go rather than fight it.

    I'm back in bed struggling to find a new show to watch because I've watched most good ones already. Also flicking through a book which I'm trying to read but keep putting down.

    I just work at a bakery some mornings, dropped out of study again so none of that. I get home and want to go to bed. I eat out of boredom to fill time. Then I gain weight and am unhealthy which makes me feel worse. I was even thinking today what would a normal person who went to work do when they get home early in the day, see friends? Go out? But go where

    I clean and do the washing obsessively, organise things. Can just go through my wardrobe to neaten everything/throw things out but I haven't been doing much of these lately. Just feel so numb and feel like curling up in bed under the covers and sleeping but obviously I can't sleep because I'm not that tired and it is the middle of the day.

    I wish I could just sleep to pass all the time because it is a big escape. I used to smoke mara... all day everyday to pass the time and numb my mind, it gave me something to do, structured my day cause I'd sit down and do that then do things then go back and do that etc just a cycle. I would forget everything and time just passed by. I have completely given it up now. I'm used to feeling of out of reality in that sense. So when Im not smoking I get bored, feel like time goes by and I do nothing. I think of something I could do as a hobby but I can't pick it. I used to do painting, singing and knitting (a lot! haha make giant blankets). That would pass time. But now I start something and get so bored of it so quickly. I just hang with with dog eat food and stay in bed mainly at the moment.

    What do you do/ interests?

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    30 October 2017 in reply to dragonflies
    Hello, im sorry I havet been back here for a few days.
    Im limited in what I can do atm as I havent been mentally well and have been told I should be in hospital but my gp is going to increase her support and hope that it helps. Thats the start anyway if that doesnt work then ill have to go back to hospital.


    Hopefully youve managed to do some things you want to do and have tried. Thats ok if you havent.


    How have you been? Have you been able to connect to the under 25s thread to meet some other people around our age?


    Im glad yuve given up the drugs. It was a very good choice so im proud of you for doing that.


    My interests are mainly drawing and paiting, poem writing and music

  24. dragonflies
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    30 October 2017 in reply to startingnew

    Hey startingnew,

    I'm sorry to hear you haven't been doing too well. Do you suffer from depression? I hope your gp can help to make you feel better so you don't have to go back to hospital, I can't imagine what that would be like... It's good to know that they're supportive of you. How does your gp help you, do you have long talks or adjust medications?

    I've been okay. The other medication I've just started is helping a little bit, this time I can notice it slightly. Otherwise just same old.

    My dad has been wanting me to try a sugar free eating challenge for years now and so we're both giving it a go. We want to see if it actually has any effect on our energy and happiness. Have started with a detox - no sugar, dairy, grains, processed food to try restore our digestive system :( practically just veggies fruit and meat... I'm dying because I literally just eat sugar. I'm experiencing sugar withdrawals because we went cold turkey and my body aches, am so tired and my muscles are sore not to mention the constant headache. Ahhh feel exhausted, I hope it does work, just will take some determination to get through the hard part.

    I messaged in the group chat but I'm not really sure what to say to everyone.

    How are the horses and family? Have you been managing to have some me time?

    I'd love to hear one of your poems if you ever feel comfortable sharing!

    dragonflies

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    30 October 2017 in reply to dragonflies
    You know what. I’ll be your mate, granted I’m only 15. I’ve been there done that and moved around nsw all of my life. I haven’t kept a best mate for more than 6 years, when most of my other friends have known each other since Kindergarten. So if you want to just have a good chat, I’m here.
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  26. dragonflies
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    30 October 2017 in reply to Padfoot02

    Hey Padfoot02,

    A friend can be any age. Thank you for responding to my thread, it means a lot. It's hard to find someone new to have as a best mate and can talk about absolutely anything about and completely be yourself. It takes a long time. People form longterm best friends through growing up together and experiencing the world together. I have had this when I was younger but they all faded away... They hurt a lot when they end because it isn't like a breakup it's more like someone just doesn't want to be around you or be a part of your life again.

    I'd love to have a chat. Want to share more about yourself? F/M? I see this is your first post. Thanks for taking the time to read and reach out. Is there anything you'd like to talk about? How do you like to spend your days...

  27. LuLu.
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    30 October 2017 in reply to startingnew

    Hello SN

    is it okay if I call you that?

    I have a few things in common I believe. I am a horsey girl. I have a thoroughbred/warmblood who I compete on. I also have my first pony Annie who is really sweet and cheeky.

    I am also interested in medicine. I’d like to do paediatrics but have been thinking of psychology or psyciatry as I have been exposed to it due to my depression. Or even oncology because my dad had been diagnosed with cancer a few years ago and I would want to help a family through a tough time like the doctors helped my dad.

    i understand you have had your fair share of pain.

    I feel like i am intruding in a private conversation or listening in when I shouldn’t be by writing in this thread. I am sorry if it feels like i am intruding.’

    you do not have to answer these questions if you do not wish. I respect your privacy. Do you feel safer when you are in hospital? Do you recieve more support?

    I hope you feel a little better soon.

    Lulu

  28. LuLu.
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    31 October 2017

    Hello dragonflies


    I am 18 years old. I feel lonely as well and a bit sad. My friends are there but i am isolating myself again. I do that often. It’s weird because my best friend understands most of what I tell her because she’s been through it too but right now I feel misunderstood.

    i do understand when you say you find it hard to be happy and bubbly. I feel like to be sociable and accepted in general this is how you must act. But most of the time I feel fake if I have to force that attitude. I’ve had some good days in the last month where I actually felt good. But at the moment I feel alienated from everyone. It’s like i am out of place. A shadow walking the halls, unoticed and alone.
    i have three dogs. Winston (he is a cavoodle) Harley (he is a border collie) and Toby (a very naughty kelpie).
    i too feel like I bring people down when I am more myself and negative. I am in recovery for severe depression and moderate anxiety but some days I feel nothing, think nothing and do nothing. I feel a bit like nothing as well. I like to read but I don’t have the concentration for that. Netflix is good but at the moment we don’t have internet. So I spend most moments in bed or riding my horse.

    I have my last year 12 exam for this year on Friday. I had to split year 12 into two years as I became too sick. I am nervous about going back next year with a different year group.


    i feel numb too. I try to make myself feel bad just to feel emotion. I think it’s self sabotage. I know it is bad but I just want to feel so badly.

    i eat when I am bored as well. Given the choice I stay in bed with Toby by my side. He is the kelpie. I think what helps me is to have a small list of what i am going to do for the day.


    1) go outside for a bit
    2) see my horse
    3) try to get dressed
    4) eat something that fills me up
    5) do something I enjoy

    Usually it’s netflix. But I have found a new hobby. I draw in my colouring book. But i try not to be too hard on myself if I don’t accomplish these things


    I hope you feel a little less alone
    LuLu

  29. Padfoot02
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    31 October 2017 in reply to dragonflies

    G’day Dragonflies

    Thanks for the response, other than school (which is worse than what I was told) I like to read Harry Potter, play Pokémon and watch Sword Art Online (it’s a great anime, I would recommend it if your into anime as well). If you would like you can send me an email just so I don’t need to get my replies approved.

    How do you like to spend your time? What have you been up to since you finished school? I have a mate who graduated this year and he told me he hasn’t been doing much.

  30. dragonflies
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    31 October 2017 in reply to Padfoot02

    Hey Padfoot02,

    Unfortunately it is a rule to not get into other contact with members of the forum. I would be happy to continue our conversation on here? I don't mind checking in every now and then and waiting for approved posts if I get to continue conversations with people on here.

    I don't do too much. Hang out with my dog, a little bit of cooking, cleaning, organising and laundry. I know right, I sound like a dag.

    I went to uni first year out of school. Tried out commerce as I somehow managed to score a scholarship. Didn't go back next year and pulled out of second semester because I was that depressed and didn't care about anything - don't like wasting money on education when I don't put the effort in and get as much out of it as possible.

    So I've just been working part time and my family recently moved house out of our old family home. Now just dad and my sister. So that was a big change for me. So far it has been positive considering how anxious I was to do the move. I watch a load of netflix and try to get into my reading. Usually its soppy love stories but I have recently found the author Jo Nesbo, who writes adult thriller murder mystery novels - so far they're been great. I love watching detective/murder mystery shows I don't know why. Just binge watched a show called stranger things was so good.

    School does suck. I moved once because of trouble with some girls. At the new school I finished up purely focusing on my work and getting the most out of it. I barely went to school for anything other than class. It gave me purpose and a goal to work towards. Now I'm left 'goalless' and unmotivated. Do you enjoy any subjects at school? I get that they can be painfully boring too.

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