Thank you for your reply.
I'm glad to hear from you again.
Glad that you are safe. Glad that you have your parents supporting you in this difficult time. Glad that your daughter wants you in her wedding and in her life. Glad that you have chosen to respond and attend her happiest day and be a part of this.
I'm sure this means the world to her. And to you also.
I'm also glad you are not back with your abusive husband. It seems most appropriate under the circumstances to remove yourself from the emotional manipulation and controlling and take time away to reflect and come up with some strategies on how to best look after yourself during this time and in the future. Time to make yourself a priority and look after your happiness. You are aloud and you deserve it.
It is very sad indeed when ego and pride blind us and we miss out in the most wonderful moments life has to offer. It also must be very upsetting to see the influence that your husband has upon your son and what this is teaching him about women, values and respect and dignity. Such a shame.
Let's hope your son will come to understand one day that women are not the property of men and that we need to treat every human being with respect and dignity.
I hope you enjoy immensely the wedding of your beautiful daughter and immerse yourself in this wonderful moment.
Don't think about later and/or what others will think or do or say upon your return. Just go and enjoy wholeheartedly this glorious moment. You are her mother and you are aloud as an adult to make your own decisions. You don't need the approval or consent of your husband or your son. They don't seem to include you in their life anyway, and neither show any respect for you, so I wouldn't lose any sleep over them.
You sound like a beautiful, caring person and you deserve the best. No matter how hard it is now and even though it's not something that you have chosen, it may be for the best to move away from their influence and rebuild your life with people who care and love you and truly deserve your love and devotion.
Please look after yourself, keep in touch and don't despair. This is a happy time for your daughter and you should delight in her joy and partake wholeheartedly in it.
Best of wishes for you and your daughter. X