Hi Pink Rose
Welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing your story.
I’ve been married 30 years in similar circumstances and can understand your shock, confusion and hurt. I’m so sorry that you find yourself in such a difficult situation.
Most of the time I would say trust your gut, but the consequences are potentially so serious that I would suggest you slow down a bit before jumping to any conclusions. I say this because I would need to know for sure before I made any decisions. (You may, of course, be different.)
Has he had the opportunity in the past few weeks to engage with someone else? Are there any odd bank withdrawals or credit card charges? Has his daily routine changed? No pressure to answer here, but have a think because it’s possible he may not have acted.
I would want to know more about why he’s looking for escort services. Just being curious isn’t enough—I mean why is he now suddenly curious? I’m guessing it’s somehow linked to his performance issues. When you’re ready perhaps you could try to have a deeper conversation.
It’s probably a good sign that he hasn’t gone to any effort to cover his tracks. Seems to indicate that he hasn’t got much experience in deception. A small consolation, I know.
Sending you a hug. Happy to chat more if it helps.
Kind thoughts to you