dear Kmac, this is a difficult one to answer, well not really, but to respond to.
Your depression has caused you to feel unwell and I can totally understand this because that's what this illness does to us, and we can't help that, it's in the make up of depression, and we are unable to stop it.
When our spouse or partner spends more time at work, then this is an indication that there is something wrong, and maybe he did this because of his work friend, being a female and was not at work at all.
This is so disappointing not only for you but your children who will miss out on a dad from not being home.
He has tasted the outside world again, and I think that's what he wants, to be able to do as he pleases, however this is wrecking the family unit, plus it means that you are not getting the support from him that you need to help you overcome depression, in other words he doesn't want to help you, sorry.
If he has compassion to other people but not to you is a worry, because he will try and get all the community support behind him, and that's so unfair for you, and I hope that all of his exaggerations don't put you into being the mean one out of this, because your not, you have depression, and that's so unfair, you didn't ask for this damn illness, and you didn't put your hand up, none of us have either.
I'm sorry Kmac, I don't want to upset you because it's hard enough at the moment for you, I'm only commenting from the outside, and I do hope that he does come back to you.
I truly hope that you can reply to us. L Geoff. xx