I have been with my partner for 4yrs. The most caring supportive man I've ever meet and a love I never knew possible.
Very amicable with our exs. We have a lot to do with them as we share 5 kids between us.
This changed with his ex unexpectedly 3 months
My partner still owed $ from their settlement which they had agreed payment over 10yrs. Its been 6 yrs and she started to demand the last lump sum. She said she made some misteaks with her money. We had to go to bank to borrow but said we'd get to her Asap. We borrowed $ of parents to give give a lump sum to get her through while waiting on bank.
Then emails started. Demands and threats of getting dhs, police, cps and lawyers involvin. Then her taking a domestic violents AVO.
She made change with child support to have 100% custody stating kids didn't want to see him.
They just finished a 3month stay with us while she was in hospital. Everything went Great.
Long story short she did put out an AVO. We were not contacted by any departments, and were so supprised by this all.
We were working on the money, she knew that and we have no idea how and why its all lead to this.
His now the most broken man I know. He can't see his children which is destroying him and the AVO is nothing but a false claim.
We've had to fork out $ for legal advise who said its not worth fighting the AVO as long as he abides by it without admissions. It won't affect him legally.
The kids call, missing him and wanting to c him. But no she has an AVO.
His just beside himself. I worry so much for him. His such a strong, gentle, caring man and she's destroyed him and his relationship with his kids.He worries they have no idea whats going on.
Due to AVO though he can't do or say anything!
Im sorry for the long post, I needed to get this out. After investigating and speaking to people this kind of thing happens alot.
It kills me to see people put others through this kind of thing and for what!? It happens to both women and men. And is a massive issue that plays on peoples mental health.
What can I do? I feel so helpless. I'm watching the man I love slowly dying inside for lies, manipulation and money. Thats what it seems like.
His ex has affected so many others within the family because it's not just about her and her issues with him all of a sudden. It affects so many more.
We trying to see physiologist but so far there's months waiting lists and legal fees continue to climb.
Open to any advice or suggestions!
Thanks for reading.