Hi mmmiguess, nothing wrong with being a Dave Rubin :P ...
I am not into the club scene either, and I find it depressing that some guys seem to be still stuck in it the older they get. I think in years gone by it was the only place gay men had to meet to each other, but we have a lot of other options now. I don't think the kind of behaviour you're describing is reflective of gay people in general, but a reflection of the bar and club scene. Saturday night at your average straight nightclub gets pretty messy too, and I'm not into it at all.
When I'm looking for guys to date, I usually check pretty fast when initially chatting that if their idea of a good time at the weekend is still being at some dodgy club at 5am when they're older than 30, then I pass.
I also used to be annoyed that the scene was what seemed to be represented for gay people at large, but then I realised that what that boiled down to was being worried what other people would think of ME... I care less about that now, I'm my own person, and if people want to make assumptions about me based on my sexuality, then that's their problem.