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Topic: A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members

  1. Starwolf
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    31 March 2017 in reply to Croix

    Rosa canina...Croix, your sense of humour delights me ! Well thought.

    I'm relieved to know this dogwoman can also sometimes make sense to her fellow humans.

    Thank you.

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  2. james1
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    31 March 2017 in reply to Starwolf

    A white rose for Mary for a good story about how sitting down on the floor in therapy revealed a more child-like, rather than healthy adult, aspect.

    I had given that suggestion from a mindset of putting my needs above what I thought my psychologist wanted, so it was a nice reminder of the importance of our individual experiences and struggles!

    James

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    31 March 2017 in reply to james1

    Kudos to Croix for helping out Barry (Lostworld) on his thread 'It doesnt get any better'

    As the old saying goes....'you cant beat life experience' Nice1 Croix

    Paul

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  4. Guest_322
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    1 April 2017 in reply to blondguy

    You'll never walk alone...

    Short and sweet but packs a punch. For Sara, a musical bouquet of lilies.

    Dottie xxx

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    1 April 2017 in reply to Guest_322

    As I read through the new threads each day

    I notice how often Croix has his say

    His wisdom & caring

    His guidance & sharing

    Gently encourages along the way.

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  6. Croix
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    1 April 2017 in reply to topsy_

    Well Star, Paul & Yellownanna~

    You've made a walrus blush!

    Croix (who's store of poetry is probably not suitable)

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  7. Guest_322
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    2 April 2017 in reply to Croix

    Yellownanna, I agree with you about Croix.

    Croix, I like the humility, sensitivity and quiet intelligence that you bring to the forums.

    Anyways, above all, I think you're a good listener (reader). Thanks for being you.

    Dottie x

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  8. Croix
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    2 April 2017 in reply to Guest_322

    Dear Dottie and all~

    All I can say is thank you. Not only does it make me feel pretty good but if people do say things like this then for a while I stop worrying I'm going down the wrong track - if that makes sense.

    Criox -who thanks Sara for making this place.

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  9. Just Sara
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    2 April 2017 in reply to Croix

    Dottie, those words are from a 60's song and haven't lost their appeal. Love the musical lily's too! So thankyou, and I'm glad I could help.

    Croix, as I've said many times; acknowledgement and validation works. The giver and receiver, as well as people reading, all reap the rewards.

    So thankyou for your comments; I hope this thread runs forever!

    Sara

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  10. Quercus
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    2 April 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    A bouquet of blossoms from my snowball tree for White Rose (Mary) who gave me these eye opening words...

    you are a worthwhile person

    These words resonate in my head every day and they are going to be the motto for my journey. Mary, I cannot thank you enough.

    And a blueberry bush for Sara (beautiful flowers and good for you) for this wonderful thread and all the good it does.

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  11. blondguy
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    3 April 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    Kudos to the Online Community Manager Christopher Banks who posted

    • "Our research shows us that the majority of people who post here report a
      number of positive outcomes, including reduction of symptoms of
      depression and anxiety"

    This is so important for people to know that there is always hope and this fact highlights the benefits to posters

    Paul

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  12. Just Sara
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    3 April 2017 in reply to blondguy

    Some great posts peep's!

    Welcome and thankyou Quercus for your complement too. It's lovely to see newcomers involved in such positive ways.

    Today my hat goes off to Starwolf! The following advice and info was given to me which helped insurmountably. ...A Japanese Maple in Autumn colours to you Star!!!

    'There are 2 things in conflict within you at the moment. One is the long entrenched response to a traumatic past, an abnormal pattern that has developed over quite a few years. The other is more recent, acquired via personal research, therapy, soul searching, even your interaction with other forum members. This one makes intellectual sense so it is what you know should be right.

    However, the long established brain patterns are still functional. They come under the influence of a different part of the brain, that which is in charge of the fight/flight response. This survival instinct has of necessity taken over full-time during all the traumatic years. It is -in some ways- what has kept us alive. It is how we coped, the only way we could, day after day. No wonder it is hard to budge.

    The logical, reasonable left brain has little impact on it because instinct by-passes intellectual understanding. It is reaction, not reflection. Both modes can't communicate, they "speak" a different language. So conflict arises. But those 2 different modes co-exist, a constant mental/emotional contradiction. It makes it difficult to accept we think one way and act another though it is inevitable.

    When you set yourself the task of explaining feelings and emotions for example, to someone around the forums, it is the logical, reasonable brain which automatically kicks in. But when confronted with everyday life, particularly situations which remind you of the past...guess what necessarily kicks in. The instinctive, non reasoning brain. Hypocrisy doesn't come into it. That's just the way things happen. Reconfiguring the mind takes time, repetition, setbacks etc...

    Acceptance of this apparent contradiction is an initial step. Acceptance that it is something happening but not caused by you. Acceptance that those 2 modes both fulfill a necessary purpose and should kick in appropriately but don't...because due to traumatic years, the survival mode has become the mind's predominant influence. An inevitable role reversal'

    I hope others will find Star's info as enlightening as I did.

    Sara x

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    3 April 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    Thank you Sara for making autumn more bearable to this displaced tropics fan. A terrific gift.

    This instinctive part of the brain is often referred to as the "reptilian brain" because it's function is so primitive. Trying to make an intellectual impact on it is about as useful as trying to reason with a crocodile.

    When it kicks in, we are as 'guilty' as the chameleon is responsible for its self-protective colour changes.

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  14. Guest_322
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    3 April 2017 in reply to Croix

    Hi Croix,

    No worries at all. You deserved it. As I mentioned, you're a great listener and I value good listeners. You're good at making people feel heard.

    Hi Sara,

    Thanks for the song lyrics then! 😊

    Dottie xxx

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    3 April 2017 in reply to Guest_322

    Hi everyone,

    Just wanted to send a bouquet of baby's breath and daisies to The Abyss for the thread "When were you last truly happy?".

    Thank you for making me think and remember a truly beautiful memory. It was hard to accept how long it's been since I felt that way but it's another reason to fight to feel better and I'm thankful for that too.

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  16. Guest_322
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    7 April 2017 in reply to Quercus

    Hi,

    Quercus, yes, I also really appreciated The Abyss' thread.

    My cascade of musical notes goes to mykl for this gem;

    recently ive started respecting peoples right to be an individual whatever that means to them.and i've been telling myself for a while to resist judging them based on their looks and dont even start thinking in that kind of way.i try not to make assumptions or huge generalisations because you cant really tell too much about anyone based on what you see in front of you.

    so im going to let people be as wrong as they want to be and im going to be more respectful of peoples rights to live their life their way.i'm going to stand back and let them make mistakes,speak their minds,talk about all kinds of things and be as loud as they want and im going to stand back and let them go..i've lived long enough and been around enough to know were all differant and brilliant and flawed and im not going to make anyone feel bad for doing the things that make them happy.im stepping back and letting go

    Beautiful and I agree with mykl: as long as no one gets hurt, live and let live.

    Dottie x

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    7 April 2017 in reply to Guest_322

    Nice one D-Girl! You too Quercus!

    When life gives us lemons, make lemonade! I'll visit the thread 'When was the last time you felt truly happy?' It sounds wonderful.

    Keep up the great work everyone!

    Just beautiful...

    Sara x

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  18. Just Sara
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    7 April 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    Hi everyone;

    Today I've been given the greatest news from a member; Startingnew. She's come from a very vulnerable and distressing state to a place of hope and wonder! I'm so proud of you my sweet!

    You just wrote on your thread;

    'Oh my gosh i just realised something! As of today i haven't self harmed in a week!'

    I hope you don't mind SN, but this is worthy of high praise knowing where you've come from. Kudos too for the people who helped support you on your journey of self discovery.

    I'm sending you a bunch of the brightest pink roses to liven up your day. You're mighty, mighty...

    Sara xo

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  19. white knight
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    7 April 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    Hi all,

    On the topic if judging others there is this thread (use google)

    Topic: judging other people- beyondblue

    Regards

    Tony WK

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  20. Guest_322
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    7 April 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    Thanks and back at you, Sara!!!

    Dottie xxx

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    7 April 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    Aww Sara i dont mind but i think my cheeks went as pink as thoses roses lol.

    The people who have supported me is the people on here my gp and my psych and thats it. I love being on BB you all make such a lovely forum family :)

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    8 April 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    hi Sara

    sorry for the late reply on here

    ive read what you posts and gosh your so sweet- i think my cheeks are as pink as those roses you gave me

    thank you for believing in me

    im not sure what your favourite flowers are so im sending you a big bunch of mixed flowers with those chocolates in them too :)

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  23. Just Sara
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    9 April 2017 in reply to startingnew

    Awwe...chocolate!

    Loving it; eating an Arnott's Choc Monte as I write. lol

    My fave flowers would have to be Sweet Pea; my Nan used to grow them. Their scent is lovely which spreads throughout the neighborhood as they bloom and climb up the trellis.

    Supporting and acknowledging you has been an honour and privilege. Thankyou though for your thoughts and praise.

    Sara x

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    9 April 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    well then imagine then to be sweet pea flowers Sara (heart) :)

    your so lovely :)

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  25. The Abyss
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    9 April 2017 in reply to Quercus

    Nawww, thanks Quercus.

    I'm glad that others have found use in my "when were you last truly happy" (complete with grammatical error!) thread. It was a comment I came across and it perplexed me so completely that I wondered if it stumped others too.

    And my bunch of Australian Natives go out to James and Mary who had been keeping tabs on me during a very difficult week!

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  26. Guest_322
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    11 April 2017 in reply to The Abyss

    For romantic_thi3f, a library of musical books for her response on the loss of a loved one.

    We have to ride it; and what that looks like is different for everyone. For some they might like drawing, painting, journalling, music - trying to express it and let it out in some way. Others might prefer to get distracted - exercise, study, classes, friends, groups, hobbies - where as others want to try and let go by remembering - memory boxes, photo albums, slideshows, scrapbooking.

    There is no right or wrong way...

    On grief and loss, each in our own time and in our own way.

    Dottie x

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  27. Just Sara
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    12 April 2017 in reply to Guest_322

    Really lovely Dottie, grief and loss is the hard basket for most. Really beautiful and spot on Romantic-thi3f.

    Today I'd like to acknowledge James1 for his inspirational post on the thread; Loving Yourself - Your Thoughts Are Welcome. (Thanks Blondguy for an interesting thread)

    'Been doing a lot of thinking today and I think this is what "to love myself" means to me: To know, without needing reassurance, without needing to ask, without even needing to be around people, that you matter'

    I don't normally put quotes in bold print, but this is well deserving of recognition James. I'd like to send you a ticket to a venue/show/concert anywhere in the world. I may just throw in the airfare as well!

    Sara

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  28. Guest_322
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    17 April 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    Thank you, Sara, but the real credit goes to romantic_thi3f for her words.

    Stumbled upon this one, which I think that anyone struggling with the big "meaning of life (???)" question would probably appreciate.

    For Kaz, a designer handbag full of musical notes for the following:

    They might be meaningless, everything might be meaningless, but the alternative is just as meaningless in my view.

    Thanks Kaz!

    Dottie x

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    19 April 2017 in reply to Just Sara
    Thanks Sara :)
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    19 April 2017 in reply to Just Sara

    Sara,

    I would like to give you bouquet garni for starting this wonderful thread that I have just discovered.

    It is great to have a place where we can acknowledge others . This is wonderful in a world where we are often to encouraged to be critical and not to see the positives in others. I notice that you always listen to people and find something encouraging to say.

    In my short time on the forum, I have been so impressed by the kindness of others.

    So I would like to give a bouquet for everyone on the forum who has shown kindness to others.

    Quirkywords

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