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Topic: Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak

  1. mmMekitty
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    11 January 2022 in reply to Doolhof

    That's so sad, Doolhof, just think of you sitting in a car park to see people. I'm sorry your friends sldso, do't seem to understand better & try to accomodate your needs & meet you outside, somewhere. It's so hard realising just how much we humans all need each other, & now, because of a highly infectious virus, we're having to be taking such great care to distance ourselves even from people we care much about.

    We con't usually give it a second thought. We assume, we'll be seeing these people again, soon enough, perhaps even too soon. But now, even for people like me, who haven't been used to relying on seeing people all the time, it gets to us too. This has highlighted for me, like never before, how important are social connections. I begin to understand about how upset some people have become because of not being able to maintain their familial & friendship connections, even to the extent of cirumvnting border restrictions. I admit, I didn't have much sympathy until recently. Now I'm not surprised at all.

    & that is why I'm wondering about why your friends aren't willing to make more of an effort to meet up with you as you have described.Have you tried to specifically ask them why they won't make as much effort to see you as you would to see them?

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  2. Shelll
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    11 January 2022 in reply to golden82

    Hi dear Golden,

    No you are definitely not the only one. I hear you😊:)

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  3. Doolhof
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    11 January 2022 in reply to mmMekitty

    HI mmMekitty,

    I could try telephoning them and asking again if we can catch up in the way I have suggested and explain again why that is.

    I have asked if they would like to come to our place, most people don't like driving here because of the busy highway they have to negotiate...which I drive along all the time to visit them!

    Today it is stinking hot so I am not keen to be driving anywhere anyway.

    I'll try and think of other ways to keep connected.

    Cheers to you and all.

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    11 January 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark, I agree we should love one another and I think listen, express making assumptions and taking a role that we know better.

    Masks are judt one part of the puzzle....I'll never neverofprget when I forgot my mask and a woman screamed at me jn the middle of a store. We could give ppl the benefit of the doubt. I carry spare and gave my fire d who forgot.

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    11 January 2022 in reply to Sleepy21

    It is a stressful time ATM in Victoria, I've had today awful outcomes in the public system and reaching out for help, so glamorised by some medical minded ppl, has just let me down.

    I keep getting told to seek support from family and friends...as as the system is too busy....

    I feel that by telling ppl to go to their gps and have a chat we aren't really helping them....I've done just that the last few weeks and got nowhere

    I wander how ppl are managing accessi g mental health care during this time . I'm getting nowhere amd getting more distressed daily.

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    12 January 2022 in reply to Sleepy21
    I am sorry you weee unable to get the help you needed but not surprised. The current situation is terrible with so many infections leaving staff shortages in every industry. We can allvsurvive if we can't go to our favourite cafe but when we can't get essential food or health supplies it is really bad. Health care has been stretched throughout the pandemic and now can't function in the way we expect. Not the fault of the staff they are only human. I think we all need to be as proactive as we can to look after ourselves to max our physical &mental health because we can't rely on the helth system to provide the help we normally expect. We need to make choices to reduce the risk of injury or sickness as far as possible. I realize this is easier said than done. My neice has all her family with covid except herself. She is the only one who's had the booster. She has been in close contact with all her family throughout their infectious period. I felt this reassuring suggesting the boosters really help.
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  7. Doolhof
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    12 January 2022 in reply to Doolhof

    One of the great things about this forum is that we can all be connected without having any concerns at all about Covid interfering.

    In saying that, I know there are moderators and people behind the scenes at Beyond Blue keeping this forum working. Hope all of the BB Team are safe and well!

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  8. mmMekitty
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    12 January 2022 in reply to Doolhof

    Indeed, Doolhof

    I wonder how many people working for BB, paid & volunteer, are working from home? It occurs to me, many services like these will have a certain percentage of their workforce, who can & cannot do their work from home. I wish you all well, & to also talk here, when you would like a little support yourselves. 😺

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    12 January 2022 in reply to Elizabeth CP

    Thanks Elizabeth, I've been following your journey and am sorry use also struggled to receive healthcare for Ur husband during this time.

    Health care has taken a very different shape and form in covid times. I feel like when I find a good service I benefit from for ,h mental health, its usually taken away or there's a catch to using it.

    due to limited supports for long term mh consumers like me, the hospital offered me a peer worker to call ,e and chat with once a week.

    The peer worker told me that they work 5 days and if I am ever struggling I can text them and they'll try help or call me back.

    For months the peer worker told me they wanted to be there for me and I should text them. They said they leave the phone on just in case, and it's a hospital phone and they will try follow up.

    Last week, struggling, I texted the no. No response. The peer worker calls me and I mentioned it, and they said it's not there fault, they've helped me enough already in other ways, and it was Factors beyond d their control that they couldn't answer.

    And then they stopped contacting me and I no longer receive the calls.

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  10. Doog
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    12 January 2022 in reply to Complex Little Pirate

    Hi there Complex little Pirate,

    I feel for you and I feel the same anxiety. Funnily enough the kids bought me an oximeter, since my original anxiety was breathing problems, especially when driving out of town or late at night when fear grips you at it's best, and being convinced to the point I had to look at my fingernails to see if they were pink. Even been to the mirror to see if lips were blue. Hey the oximeter helps a bit doesn't it? Still not ridding of the whole anxiety, but avoiding trips to ER which is dangerous at the moment. Walks on the beach are healing and peaceful as I found on my short holiday with the kids, so are distractions when you suddenly find you haven't allowed your mind to play games because you were busy with something. Loneliness for me makes my world smaller and more focused on my fears. I hope you have people you can chat to online or live internet whatever form that is. I wish you well. There are many feeling the same, but it doesn't help at 2am! Just know many of us are up at that hour too for the wrong reasons. Stay well!!!

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  11. Doog
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    12 January 2022 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi Doolhof,

    I hope you are well. I noticed you mentioned parking in a carpark to see humans. When I logged on to thank the people who supported me going into a fearful and grinchy Christmas at the Ocean, I mentioned how in awe I was that the world was still full of humans! All over the highways, the shopping centres were full and cafes too. We self isolate and forget who we were as people, where you could stop and chat to familiar people anytime.

    I live in a country town where I choose self isolation and I often found myself sitting on the cliffs watching the surfers and dog walkers go about life like it was 1999 while I had my issues with being around my own kids because they are social beings.

    It's ok to keep going out into the "world of humans" in a safe and distant way. I found it both sad and rewarding to watch the world for different reasons. Take care

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    12 January 2022

    Yes, I think we’re all going to have to rely on our supports and coping strategies a little bit more to get through.

    We don’t even have covid here and already the shops are bare. It depressed me and I’ve gone back to bed.

    I’m very grateful to this space, and the lovely people herein for the empathy and kindness regularly demonstrated. It’s such a valuable community space.

    Thanks from me to all. As Matchy said - let’s get through together with love and kindness.

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  13. randomx
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    The hardest part in it all is it effecting my daughter. l just hate it breaks my heart that she should be having to go through depression but also in fear of bloody Covid too. And there is nothing you can say now they've been drilling us all over media so long that they've finally succeeded, so sad.

    l can't stand having to stop on the street for somebody l might know , which isn't very many but it still happens, so l don't mind this new silly world in that way it's fine with me.l feel a bit jumpy at the post office though bc it's fairly small inside and there's always other people waiting around you, and in the supe too. l normally go to one 20k away it's much bigger with wide isles. But today l nicked into our local for something and l was so edgy that l knocked a $90 dollar bottle of scotch over coming out of the bottle shop section. Thanked the Gods it didn't break, small mercies, don't know if l'd have had to pay for it but that would've really, really, hurt if l did.

    Every supe l go to round here is fully stocked, at least that's something. No surprises there though they have a real knack around here of getting their hands on anything they need.

    rx

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    12 January 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Everyone...

    Hey Mark....you are and always have been an asset to Beyond Blue...Im sorry to read about your brother....

    you are a caring person...and yes...there is unwarranted criticism of people that choose not to have the vaccine

    My 55yo sister is a part time yet main carer for our frail unvaccinated 91 year old mum ( at mums home)

    My sister is a strict anti vaxxer and has been cancelling any vaccination appointment I make for mum with the our medical clinic as she has power of attorney

    My mum is 91...frail and is still unvaccinated

    I hope my mum doesnt get Omicron/Delta as a result of the selfishness of an anti vaxxer

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  15. golden82
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    13 January 2022 in reply to Sleepy21

    Hi Sleepy, Moon, Shelley (and all),

    Thanks for your replies and 'hearing me'. Sorry to read of your struggles thru this time Sleepy, u have had it tough in Vic. I agree censorship is scary, it is control and a form of bullying. Ppl should be allowed differing view points and concerns and to respectfully voice these. Sadly, it doesn't happen much. Ppl are silenced and shutdown. even here. We need to be kind to all ppl and use respectful dialogue and let it all be put forward. Regardless if we agree or not. Censorship to me is small mindedness. Shows a lack of intelligence and understanding. At least we have this forum.

    Thanks again for All your kind and understanding posts Shell. I hear u too, and see that u are showing compassion for all.. as you always do with your words.

    Nice to see u too Moon. I know u have been struggling too throughout all this time. I like to read your posts always - even though u are struggling, u make a lot of sense. Commonsense and considering all aspects. You are a critical thinker and help to show me this. I miss our chats and pals Luna and Tangney etc. I hope they are coping okay. I learnt a lot from u all and felt less alone in my thoughts and stress.

    I hope everyone manages okay with their covid issues and finds ways to lower the stress a bit. Me too.

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    13 January 2022 in reply to golden82

    Hi all,

    I struggle today to voice my feelings....got yelled at today about distancing when I innocently came up to pay for an item. I was meant to be seated and wait to be called

    I am trying.

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    14 January 2022 in reply to Doog

    HI Doog and All,

    Thanks for your kind comments. Hope you are doing okay.

    I guess it is a matter of trying to find perspective, awareness and remain connected. I will try to contact some friends and see what we can arrange regarding catching up.

    Some people just aren't even responding to my text messages or emails. Guess some people are really struggling, or maybe they are just getting on with their lives and are busy.

    I know I have a lot to be thankful for, a little more connection with others would be nice!

    Cheers to you all.

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  18. randomx
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    14 January 2022

    Been wondering what ever happened to the quarantine place states were gonna build well, Vic is nearly finished l see on the news, bit late butttt.

    The buildings look very comfy but the property itself looks like a prison , l think it had razor wire and all, typical and it looked like it was out in the middle of nowhere. Not that you'd want it well l suppose , in suburbs , but would it even matter now. l wonder if they've built them in other countries and what they're like if they have. Don't think l've heard of any l have heard a few other simple things like they have to stay in for 3days after arrival or show a negative test and a few things like that.

    rx

    ps , just for anyone in Sydney , how are things there are people out and about or very quiet , what's it like? Had a trip planned earlier l was only going to wiz in pick up gf and wiz out again to one of the regional areas for a few days but with the way things are , we can't even tell if there would actually be somewhere any better to even go .

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    14 January 2022 in reply to randomx
    Hi randomx Qld has finished one near Toowoomba airport and is ready for business but not sure who will use as no one has to go into quaritine now.
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    14 January 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Match , yeah right

    But does it look like a prison complete with bloody razor wire? The Vic ones ridiculous so over kill , big bared gates, talk about welcoming. No better than the way they treat the poor boat people or murderers for that matter.

    And yeah , thought the same, not even sure if anyone's suppose to even quarantine here anymore either.

    rx

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    14 January 2022 in reply to Doolhof

    Hi Everyone....I hope everyone is doing reasonably ok with this pandemic..Yes its awful yet we havent had a pandemic since 1918

    Hey Mark.....Im sorry to read about your brothers' reaction to the vaccine....I hope he is doing better...and yes...there is unwarranted criticism of people that choose not to have the vaccine

    My 55yo sister is a part time yet main carer for our frail unvaccinated 91 year old mum (at mums home)
    My sister is a strict anti vaxxer and has been cancelling any vaccination appointments I make for mum with the our medical clinic as she has power of attorney

    My mum is 91...frail and is still unvaccinated

    I hope my 91 year old mum doesnt get Omicron/Delta as a result of the selfishness of one anti vaxxer

    my kindest always

    Paul

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    15 January 2022 in reply to randomx
    Hi randomx I can't tell you of it has razor wire around it.I did drive past it when I took my daughter to hand in her resume in at the RSPCA which wasn't far from it.It looked really inspiring to me.Its not being used yet and it has 500 beds ready but the people it was for don't have to quarantine anymore.
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    On another note about the quarantine facility I think the money would have been better spent on hospital and medical which we need more.
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    15 January 2022 in reply to blondguy

    Hi Paul and thankyou for your kind words.I really feel for you and your situation with your mother.It must be such a worry for you.My kindest thoughts to you.

    Take care,

    Mark.

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  25. Dave666
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    So I’m feeling guilty and sad for taking a PCR test yesterday. My wife was due to catch with her friends today after a very long time. She fine and healthy but result came back positive yet I’m feeling better than ever. Just had a slight cough and headache yesterday which disappeared overnight but now I have a positive result my wife can’t go out and it’s not happy with me for taking the test.

    Should I have not taken the test and just got on with life or did I do the right thing? I was just think g of my family and protect those I love but now my wife and o are fighting because I took the test so now she can’t go out. I was expecting support and not to be made out as a bad person for taking a test.

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    15 January 2022 in reply to Dave666
    Hi Dave and welcome to the forums and yes you did do the right thing taking the test and now you know not to go out and spread it.Its just so unfortunately for your wife who was looking forward to something had to cancel.Its just how it is at the moment with all the uncertainty.
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    15 January 2022 in reply to Dave666

    Hi Dave,

    I'm in agreement with Matchy. The timing is unfortunate for your Wife's plans.

    You've done exactly as has been directed: you had symptoms, & therefore, went for a test. You & your household are supposed to not go out while anyone in your household is infectious. This latest strain, Omicron, is highly infectious, even though it more often causes people to feel very sick.

    Staying home keeps more people from being infected.

    Perhaps if you & your Wife review the info, & what people are being asked to do, at your state's website, then maybe that will help you through the argument? I don't know.

    Perhaps she is more upset about not being able to meet up with friends? How long has it been since she met up with them? I can see her perspective, if it has been a very long time, & these are very close friends.

    & bearing in mind how very stressful these last two years have been for everyone. & it ain't over yet.

    My thought is that any pretence or denial of the reality of COVID-19 is at the very least, not helpful, & at worst, potentially devastating for those nearest & dearest, or to the most vulnerable people in the community.

    mmMekitty

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    17 January 2022 in reply to Dave666

    Hi Dave,

    I'm sorry your wife is upset buy you did the right thing. It's not your fault you tested positive. Your wife could also be asymptomatic and could have given it to her friends. I'm sure they'd rather postpone the catch up, another week or 2 won't hurt. I had it last week. I was meant to be on annual leave, changed it to sick leave. It was a hot week, couldn't do anything with kids as it's school holidays, couldn't see my partner who also had it & has a pool. It's just how it is. You did the right thing.

    Cmf

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    My doctor's surgery dosnt give me much confidence in them with covid.I have had three text msgs from them in the last couple of weeks.The first one said I had to get a test to see them.The second one said they have closed their doors and the third one says you must show proof of vaccination to see them.I might find another doctor who wants to see their patients.I have physical health issues that need to see a doctor regularly about.
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    17 January 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Matchy,

    Sorry to hear all that stuffing you around. I agree u need a dr that actually cares to see their patients. Way too many have just become coasting along on the telehealth for 2yrs since Covid made that an option. Same with the psychs etc. It doesn't sit well with me either. It is now greatly affecting my mh to not have that only face to face connection in my life. Good for you to take action to find a dr to see you face to face. I hope u find a good one. Keep trying until u find the right one for you.

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