Great thread, thanks for asking me to join in and as promised I've been noodling.
I read this story once about building a healthy network support group, it's called "The Lobster Pot", I forget who wrote it but it goes something like this...
....in order to cook lobsters you fill a large pot with cold water and put in the live lobsters...
...as you start to heat the water up the lobsters begin to notice...
...after a while one of the lobsters will reach up and try to climb out of the lobster pot...
...guess what happens next?
...the other lobsters will pull it back down.
....the lobsters don't mean to be mean, they're just trying to get out too....
The story went on to explain the importance of carefully choosing the people in your network pot and of upgrading the quality of the individuals you hang out with.
Start to hang out less with those that pull you back down and gradually begin to add individuals that lift you up.
After a while you'll get out of that hot water.
I took that advice years ago.
Misery loves company they say and when I realized the Lobster Pot Story applied to me, I gently spent less time with the drags and more time with the light bulbs. I upgraded my network.
Yes, it takes a bit of time but it definitely wroks!
Hope this helps.
Be better than well,