the words some ppl use to talk about mental health.... like in casual conversation... or occasionally whn i call lifeline.. just not ok

"So, how long have you had MH issues"
"How bad is your illness?"

etc etc etc

taking away my power to define who i am. summarising a person's life and feeling with archaic, limited terms....

i'd rather define my own story than fit in some stupid box for ppl's convenience.

How can some people think bullying of any kind - online, in person, anything, is ok? And when it's on a group chat, a moderated one? Not here, I have no issues with here.

Why does this stuff happen to me? Then it was deleted and made to look like I made it up. Sigh. What have I ever done?

Sorry mb , online is brutal in any form mostly l've found. And the minute you think you have understanding or a special something with someone, it turns out you didn't and they don't have a clue , or they jump all over you for the tiniest stupid thing.

l've been in forums for yrs and only made 1 or 2 real friends in all that time, considering there would've been dozen even 100s a long the way l'd have considered friends at first , 1 or 2 at last though. Thank the Gods bb seems to have a bit more understanding and respect around and you even see people developing real friendships.

Makes a nice change doesn't it. rx

All he was concerned about was girls who were out of his league. When I asked to be with him I was being ‘unreasonable’ and ‘selfish’ even though most times we were together we would be at an event or at a friend’s house.

he was so concerned about his music and gaming. He asked me to go and see him and all he would do is play his XBox. And I did not live just around the corner, about a fifty minute drive.

He was so willing to write to the girl who he said had a crush on but when I wanted to exchange love letters he said that was ‘pointless’ yet he knew I was an old soul and loved letter writing. Why would you still be concerned about a girl you are not with? Why couldn’t you just make more of an effort with the girl you were actually seeing?????????

Other girls were attractive and beautiful. Yet I was embarrassing looking?

never ever again!!

Sometimes it just hurts. It hurts when you rely on others to love you and they don't all the time.

They may be tired and that is why they may speak in frustration at you.

They may be irritable because they are tired and absolutely have no patience

They may have had a stressful day at work and need to be by themselves for a bit. It doesn't mean they don't care about me does it? Even if it seems like they are avoiding me.

I want to not take it personally when all this happens to me.

It just feels so sad. I am not sure what happened, something was and is different with me.

We were getting along fine. But something switched and now it feels like he despises me.

lt can be totally draining and exhausting for the other , totally , burn out, and often just too much to ask imo, . So we really need to remember that and to do what we can to make things easier for them. and to give back too. Think you should talk to him shell.

rx

Yaknow , day by day been goin on a few yrs now getting worse and worse, but l feel bloody traumatized by the idiocy of Australian tv ads and news. Yaknow, they can ttry an educational softer approach about bloody anything.

Everything is a threat or horror ad , bush fires, car accidents , getting drunk, threat of massive fines, smoking, all of it , it's all threats threats threats . Meanwhile they put all this horror into people subconscious. The news is just as bad. Had a friend of a friend come back after living in UK 10yrs and she could not believe the tv and ads here now.She said even on the news over there you saw very little of murders or crashes or all the horrors and threats they splatter our news and tv with. She actually said my God this bs is bloody terrible how do Australians cope with this crap thrown at them left and right and that she literally felt traumatized by it all so in your face only wks after being back.

Well l'm not bloody surprised . No good will in this country , it's all just threats and scare mongering , makes me bloody sick to the stomach .

ex

i seem to be going through so much lately, and i feel so alone.

This lady in my street was rude. she came up to my house at 8pm at night randomly, although we spoke to her earlier that day. she was there until nearly 11pm. i told her i had to take my medication and i had to go. she didn't care, kept talking.

i don't have a problem with people venting because we all need to do that. but this went on for 3 hours, her whole life story, just repeating it. whenever i tried to tell her something about me to make her feel less alone or whatever, she cut me off and kept making it about her. that's just selfish and to talk to someone at 10.30pm. i had 100 or so mozzie bites after it, and i'm allergic to them.

i tried to be polite and talk instead of telling her to go away but if it happens again or if i talk to her somehow then i will, because she just loaded all of her baggage so to speak onto me. i can barely deal with my own problems. i tried to listen and offer suggestions but she kept pushing them aside.

she told me she saw a psychologist on telehealth and it was crap because of the connection so she won't do it again. without being rude i said that's stupid and you should try again, you have to be prepared for that stuff happening, it's normal. it doesn't mean the psychologist is bad and won't help just because of bad connection. it happens when i see my psychiatrist nearly every time and i don't complain and say i don't want to see him again.

i gave her suggestions of contacting helplines and psychologists, she said "oh those things make you worse". yes that's her opinion which she's entitled to but every suggestion i gave she pushed it aside and wasn't even thankful.

if i can get a psychologist and keep trying after many bad traumatic experiences, she can too. i would rather that than her talk to me for 3 hours about her life story at 10.30pm. like i said i didn't tell her to leave but i was getting annoyed and distressed because i have my own problems.

i try to be that type of person who is there for people, but that annoyed me. thought it was selfish & rude.

Shell.

I feel the same with my work colleague. She is nice to everyone else but when i ask a question she is snappy and at times rude. I've realised sh is two faced, selfish and very fake. She is always the victim, negative and a constant complainer. I'm new in the role and she has made it clear she is not a 'trainer' an its not part of her job to train me. If she does get something she wants it's not enough, she wants more/something else. She is a misery guts and draging me down.

No l don't think you should at all by the sounds of it. Try not to let it drain you and ficus on you now l'd say. Good luck. rx

He is so angry, irritable and slammed something. I know he is so tired. Talked to me unkindly and harsh. Even walking heavy like in the house. I really don't like all that behaviour. I am not going to take it personally like I have in the past. So I just spoke to him gently just a couple of words after I gave him his dinner. Even asked him if he wanted anything else.

I am in my bedroom, just giving him some space now.

felt a little stressed by my friend's email

told her i was going to hospital for MH

she told me she hopes i thrive there... not survive

how do u thrive in a MH hospital?
there's beauty in survivng...ppl mean well but i just wanna be okay where i'm at and realistic. a MH hospital is not a retreat with pompoms. We don't "crush' "win" or "beat" our problems.

We just do our best and it's okay. I'm not thriving.

Partner wkend.

l'm feeling very touch and go about our situation. Yeah she needs to feel this feel that , but so do l , but l'm not all that sure just lately how wise it is that l'm on hold like this. lf her legals backfire or her visa isn't fixed , there is no us , nor can be . Maybe l should go back to my life and we check in later after the court cases. l've been a solid support for her over 2yrs 24 7 , but real life has mostly been separately in 2 different states bc of all this, so much life unlived . That'd be ok if there is light , but lawyers don't know, give us nothing , or negatives and yet at other times positives , they don't know jack in other words, so this is all feeling like one helluva gamble years wise , and it could easily be another one yet - only to have no glory . Just don't know if l'm doing the right thing here.

rx

When you are trying so hard to only eat food that is nourishing. Someone in the household happens to buy not nourishing food. When cravings hit, it is much harder.

Just coming to terms that, by choice I am going to stay single for a very very long time. I need to heal and get over a lot of things. Relearn to enjoy my own company and get to really know myself once again. Otherwise I will keep attracting toxic and disrespectful people.

Even if you live with others, I still feel lonely and alone. I need a connection with someone else. Someone to be on my side, in my corner, look out for me, really care about my welfare. I just want to be understood and known. This need to being understood and known is so strong in me. Am I wrong here?

Just crying out of loneliness. Don't want to feel sorry for myself either. But my heart simply aches for connection.

feeling like I don't know how to take care of myself and b a friend to myself

keep pushing myself so hard and disrespecting my own needs

feel really overwhelmed with just managing my days since i left hospital