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Topic: Vent and then let it go...

  1. Matchy69
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    4 February 2021 in reply to Shelll
    I have been living in a safe bubble long before the virus hit us.A bubble to keep myself safe from being hurt from people.Keeping my same boring routine because when I leave this bubble then it is when I get hurt and end up on mental pain but I do have to leave it at times and this is when it gets scarey and then I scurry back to my safe existence and will try again another day.
    Take care,
    Mark.
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  2. clown of mine
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    4 February 2021
    The television would be better if the story was reported and not squeezed for the juicy angle, filming people experiencing despair serves no one.
  3. monkey_magic
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    4 February 2021 in reply to clown of mine
    Everytime she tries to "correct" my actions by raising her strict voice to me I just give it back to her.

    I'm liking her less everytime this "other" side comes out.

    I'm secretly going to save and hold onto the dream of moving out.

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  4. monkey_magic
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    4 February 2021 in reply to monkey_magic
    Some ppl have to flipping control things and their insanity is a nightmare to live with.

    #savemesomeone

    🤕
  5. clown of mine
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    4 February 2021 in reply to monkey_magic

    the media are wrong to generalize and make their report sound like Mental Patients are dangerous, they should report the facts and not spread fear. its an illegal drug problem which is criminal and not medical!!!

  6. Missing user
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    4 February 2021

    Some people (off the forums) just don't understand mental illnesses. They say they do but they really don't. I even know some people who have mental health issues but they still don't get it, like what? People don't want to understand & the stigma annoys me SO much, it's wrong & there's no need for it.

    I wish there was more Mental Health stuff in Australia, anywhere, especially in regional towns like where I am. I wish places didn't have such long waiting lists & would Bulk Bill & accept new patients.

    These forums are good & helpful of course, but I mean professionals mostly, it's ridiculous. I feel so sorry for people like myself that can't get help & don't wish to.

    Other than that, I'm so lonely. Sometimes I don't mind the loneliness, other times it consumes me.

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  7. monkey_magic
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    4 February 2021 in reply to Missing user
    I'm really liking this venting thread.

    So I've been thinking. It's something that pops into my head on occassion.

    I'm 38 and don't have a mortgage over my head. I honestly don't want to work that hard. I don't like my life being jam packed, stressed and busy.

    Sometimes I feel like society expects me to own a house at this age, and I place those expectations on myself.

    But I feel like it's too much. I'm happy to work around 4 days a week. It gives me time to pursue my passions and hobbies but I cannot afford a mortgage on this wage.

    I like to take it easy and relax and watch the world busily chase those material possessions and stress out. It humours me bcas I'd rather be me.

    It makes me feel good that I'm not one of them. O, I used to be. I used to be busy busy with 3 jobs and study. In my 20's I thought I had to have it all.

    We win some, we lose some I reckon.
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  8. clown of mine
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    5 February 2021
    My partner was unavailable for conversation again last night due to alcohol, it's a nuisance when I need their opinion on something. Today partner has a sore tummy and is in a low mood, partner rarely admits to hangovers. So I am left to fend for myself, and to draw an imaginary force field around me so no negative speech can penetrate, protecting my mind is the end game.
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  9. Jack2021
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    5 February 2021 in reply to Shelll
    Hi Shelll, this isn't really a reply as per your introduction post, but a "thank you for creating this thread"... And another "thank you", and "I'm sorry that you're going through this hard time" to yourself and everyone who has posted here...

    So many powerful and insightful stories, so much...real emotion...real things that have happened to us as people, as human beings.

    Whenever I feel severely depressed and/or anxious these days, I talk out loud, and vent to myself, trying to counsel myself, and it seems to be just about the only thing that helps when I'm in that really dark place....so I guess I'll give it a shot here, hopefully it helps someone or people can relate to it...

    For me I think I'm lucky to know the exact source of probably 90% of my depression and anxiety (work related) but the other 10%? Honestly it's a lot of things, even more things get added on all this time, but it generally all revovlves around how we are made to life life in this modern world.

    Whenever we "as a people" were brought into existence in this world, regardless of your belief if that was religious (e.g. god) or that it was science (e.g. the big bang), I think back in those beginnings, no one could have predicted what we would become today...status chasers, fame chasers, and Money chasers...indeed the root of all evil in this world.

    We are only "free" in this life as children, yet we study and study and study, for a future in life most of us are too young to understand or predict, we go to primary school, high school, college, etc, all with the aim of attaining this "illusion of education", this "certificate" that we have studied something in such depth, that we can "work" (one of my least favourite words)
    ...so that we can work for what, let's say 40 -50 years...Monday to Friday, 9-5, with only 2 days off and intermittent holidays spread out throughout the year

    We work for ourselves, we work for food, we work for shelter, we work for material things, we work our entire lives away in an existence that sees us chasing our tails endlessly...working to get money, to spend it, to get more of it...it makes no sense to me any more.

    I was part of that cycle once in my last life, I lived and adhered, and consumed as part of the cycle for almost 10 years now, ending it this year as I realised and accepted that I was broken as my former self, and will never again be this former self, and shouldn't be aiming to "go back to my past self", as tempting as it is.

    I am trying to work hard through my severe depression and anxiety to create a new me, one that is happy, healthy, and grateful for my life, but not one who mindlessly goes through the motions and accepts everything for what it is.

    Must look like ramblings from a madman to be honest, but I'm done trying to sound "sane" and conform to "normal"...all we have in this life is the people we love and care about, and positive social interactions...connections I guess you can say. Everything else is just optional.
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  10. Missing user
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    5 February 2021

    Can't see my Psychiatrist until March 1st. I see my GP in a few days. He doesn't help much with mental stuff, or physical pain I have. He's nice but yeah. I don't want to go through the hassle of getting another one.

    Everyone seems to load the work onto my Psychiatrist ("speak to your Psychiatrist"), which isn't fair on me or him, especially him. I feel sorry for him, he's the only one helping me. I'm always worried he's going to drop me as a patient. But he can't by law, right? Unless I were to do something really bad.

    I understand with certain things but not everything. It's so frustrating in this town for mental and physical health care, if you'd even call it that. And the loneliness.

    People here are so up themselves and don't want to even say hi to you, apart from a couple of people. I try and it sucks.

    The nature, bird life and scenery is nice, and it's quiet, but that's all I like. Otherwise I hate this town. Of course I never knew it would be like this.

    It's not that easy to move.

  11. clown of mine
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    5 February 2021 in reply to Jack2021

    Jack you are a mad bugger but and thanks for all the information you are a bit smart for a young fella. and mb20

    it is unlikely the psychiatrist will stop seeing you and if for some unforeseen reason it happens IT WILL NOT BE YOUR FAULT, stuff just happens.

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  12. clown of mine
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    6 February 2021
    ALWAYS REMEMBER- THAT WHEN GOOD PEOPLE DO NOTHING- BAD THINGS CAN HAPPEN
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  13. Jack2021
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    6 February 2021 in reply to clown of mine
    Hahahaha!! 😂😂 Thanks @clown of mine, I appreciate it 😂😂 sounds like ramblings of a madman I know, but spent a lot of time thinking about the stuff and it's one of the only things that gets me out of that really dark state to be honest 😂😂 knowing none of this actually matters much in life, knowing we still have years and years of life, and if not...well I don't think it matters if we pass away rich or poor...all we have is our health, happiness, life experiences, etc, etc... 😜
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  14. clown of mine
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    6 February 2021 in reply to Missing user
    mb20 - join the cloud watchers society , it's simple, for one hour a day do nothing other than watch the clouds. You will see them move and the clouds will change and sometimes if you are lucky you may notice a familiar shape. It is a relaxing sport and posting your experience would be different, ha
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  15. clown of mine
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    6 February 2021 in reply to clown of mine
    when people dont understand that the ego is a dangerous tool, then they may accidently cause harm others.
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  16. BetweenThePoles
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    7 February 2021

    If impatience alone, followed by two rambling and largely irrelevant paragraphs is the best you can do, surprise yourself by having your sub-conscience zoom in and rescue your conscience from the question it doesn’t want to answer ‘correctly’...by answering it correctly. Tsk, Twk, lying by omission...
  17. Shelll
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    7 February 2021 in reply to Jack2021
    You are welcome Jack and thankyou for your thankyou
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  18. Jack2021
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    7 February 2021 in reply to Shelll
    Glad to hear Shelll 😊😊
  19. monkey_magic
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    7 February 2021 in reply to Jack2021
    I've always been one of the small guys. For example my company makes 4.5million a year. But us workers only get a small smidge while the executive directors would probably get over a million each year. And we are probably doing the same work to be honest.

    I want to be one of the fat cats. I want to own a Subway or something. I need to step up. But without much money I don't know how that's possible.

    How do I make more money when I don't have money to invest?

    I'm only getting scraps.
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  20. Jack2021
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    7 February 2021 in reply to monkey_magic
    Hiya monkey magic 😊

    I know exactly what you mean there...been there done that, worked for small workshop family business, to huge multinationals, and everything in between.

    I've been excluded and discriminated against as a casual worker, as a temp worker, and purely just because I was a younger worker. Been underpaid as a full timer, overlooked for promotions, seen and had almost all the dodgy deals over the years....

    And you're exactly right there...wer'e all doing the same work more or less, more importantly, wer'e all human beings too

    That is the tricky part, and something I've thought of and dreamt of for years and years now...I don't think I'd pursue it these days, as I am more concerned with having a "least stressful job" and protecting my mental health as much as I can...at least for now

    But yes, as far as I know, you are right, if you wanted to be on top coming from the bottom, one of the probably easiest things would be to "buy in" to a franchise...but it would be incredibly risky financially, and that makes it stressful for me...something I couldn't handle right now...

    People always talk about "working your way up in a company" or getting experience on the way up in different roles, but in my experience it's mostly crap, and "working your way up" is mostly down to luck being in a good company...longest stretch I did in a company was 5 years and i only ever got "promoted" from one job to another with much more responsibilities and duties, but the same pay..... despite always getting the job done, being professional, reliable, on time, knowledgeable, and willing to train whoever they sent my way at any time...funny how it works

    I mean I could be wrong, but in my industry I rarely see it happen sadly....
    All that being said, "being successful and getting managerial roles", is by no means my speciality or field of knowledge...
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  21. Missing user
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    7 February 2021

    I'm so lonely. I feel like the loneliest person on earth. Even criminals seem to have friends. Why not me? I try to be kind & all the good traits. I'm not good enough for anybody. I'm a failure. No one will ever accept me, or love me as family (apart from my parents) & friends.

    I'd love a group of friends where you all get along & hang out & include everyone, even some guys in the groups, but mostly girls. Have sleepovers, go to movies/stay home & watch movies/TV, go out to eat, whatever. Just basic stuff.

    I would be happy with 1 friend, near or around my age, whether they're younger or older. Why is it so hard?

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  22. Matchy69
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    8 February 2021 in reply to Missing user
    Hi Tàyla I am really sorry that you are struggling so much with loneliness.It really is one of the worst feelings and I know you have tried to hard to make friends.I know you are a really good caring person and would make a great friend.
    Take care,
    Mark.
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  23. Missing user
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    8 February 2021 in reply to Matchy69
    Hi Mark, thanks. It's really tough.
  24. Jack2021
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    8 February 2021 in reply to Missing user
    Hiya mb 😊😊

    I hope it's not bad of me to reply here...well I mean maybe "bad" isnt the word, but I know this thread is mostly meant to be a venting thread with replies not really intended...but we're all here for kindness and support still 😊😊

    I feel like I can relate to a lot of what you've said about lonliness ( so many issues I have I know 😂) and it does suck, but one things for sure, it doesn't make you a failure, and doesn't mean people won't accept you 😊

    I know it's not exactly the same, but having friends online can help, and I like to think we're all friends here on this forum as well 😊

    Making friends as an "adult" - after primary school, secondary school, Tafe/uni, etc, etc, I just find is incredibly hard really....as much as I've gotten along with other coworker's in most of the places I've worked, at the end of the day, they just have "the co worker" mentality, and never really consider me as an actual friend...even when we used to talk like crazy all the time at work, hang out on lunch breaks, mess around at meetings, etc, etc...it's like once the work day is over, they become emotionally detached...just sucks...

    Anyway I have no idea if all this will help you or not, but you're definately not a failure, and definately not alone in finding it hard to make friends...and for what it's worth, you've got a friend in me as well 😊 (Disney Toy Story pun was unintentional 😂😂)

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  25. Missing user
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    8 February 2021 in reply to Jack2021

    Hey Jack.

    Yes it's fine for you to reply here. It does suck, and it is hard. Thank you, and haha about the Toy Story reference

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  26. Jack2021
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    8 February 2021 in reply to Missing user
    Cool cool 😊

    Mmm exactly right there...very hard, but yeah, just know you're not alone there, and that yeah it's a hard thing to do I guess 😱

    Oh yeah but the funny part was it was completely unintentional!!! Wasn't until I put it into text I looked at it and thought wth I accidentally referenced toy story 😂😂😂
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  27. Missing user
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    8 February 2021 in reply to Jack2021
    Haha, all good. It is hard.
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  28. Shelll
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    8 February 2021

    You've got a friend in me
    You've got a friend in me
    When the road looks rough ahead............

    😊

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  29. Missing user
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    8 February 2021 in reply to Shelll
    Nice one Shelll.
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  30. Missing user
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    9 February 2021

    I see my GP later today, will give you all an update here and in my thread.

    I bet nothing will be done as usual, and I'll be mad going there and leaving, I already am a bit. Even my Psychiatrist said he should be communicating with him such as "Tayla came in with these concerns", or whatever the issue is, and they organise something.

    The last time they spoke was over the phone and it was before Christmas. I need to get a referral and I bet he won't do it, and will ask me about a Psychologist.

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