Yes TonyWK, words can be used as a weapon and they can also be used to express love, give comfort, support, save people.
Demons vs Angels.
Good vs evil.
I put on the 'Full Armour of God'. I prayed it many times a day to get through years of Courts.
The WORST things ever said about me are in print and they are lies. I had no one to support me. Everyone, including my legal team, opposed my path. I tapped in to my instincts to check with myself whether my path was still "right" lots of times. I decided to fight for the truth. Then I prayed, I still put on the full armour. I won magnificently. Thank God.
Perhaps having an extremely abusive mother calling me disgusting names from a very early age prepared me for life. I developed many sayings that I call on instantly but it took YEARS of practice. My mother was so cruel in her name calling that after a while I could hear the words, know they weren't true and just stare at her. Pfft broken record. No reaction.
I left home the minute I could. One demon down.
Evil people find the chink in your armour and shoot. I almost don't have a chink now. No one has found one for a very long time.
I work in a caring profession and care very deeply. I take points from my colleagues and supervisors seriously and work with them well. We have great professional relationships, except... a new colleague (not used to our culture at work) decided to yell at me across the room a few weeks ago... seriously? I just laughed. What a numpty-noodle. (Mind you it was about my attitude to loo paper! I just said "oh I'm collecting free newspaper so if you see newsprint on my clothes, do let me know lol").. mmm.
Those who care about me, in my personal life, deliver feedback sensitively. I strive to do the same. I try to apologise the moment I realise I've said something hurtful and if someone says it has hurt them. The same occurs back. THESE people are my tribe.
But I really don't care at all what anyone else 'thinks' of me. If they are being disrespectful, demeaning, rude or arrogant. I have a radar for that. I simply don't care.
A friend and I have a saying: "I don't care what anyone thinks of me to a dysfunctional degree".
Someone else's opinion of you is really none of your business. Like who are these people? What do they even KNOW. The answer is that no one knows you like you do. NO ONE. You know your intent. Choose your tribe and everyone else can go jump in the lake.
Love to all