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Topic: I’m lost

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  1. Karms
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    13 November 2021

    Single mum of 2 kids I’ve lost myself in the process

    recently left a DV relationship that lasted a while and feel I’m stick stuck on his every move, we are on good terms now but feels like it’s just on his terms don’t know how to get of this merry go round..

  2. quirkywords
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    13 November 2021 in reply to Karms

    Karms

    Welcome to the

    is supportive forum and well done for starting this thread and writing your first post.

    You we’re strong to leave a DV relationship but you feel still better is in control. That must be so confusing for you.
    when you give yourself and your time to your children give a lot to a relationship which is abusive, you would feel lost and have doubts about who you are.

    Have you spoken to someone about how you are feeling.

    There is a website 1800respect and it has support line 1800737732 if you want to talk to a trained person who will listen.
    Thanks for reaching out.

  3. james1
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    13 November 2021 in reply to Karms

    Hello Karms,

    Welcome to the forums!

    Well done for leaving the DV situation! I imagine that would have been a very challenging experience. It sounds like you are still feeling quite stuck and would like to get more control back over your life, which is something you absolutely deserve.

    As quirkywords asked, I would also be curious to hear if you've spoken to anyone else about how you are still feeling and whether you have any support?

    James

  4. Ggrand
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    13 November 2021 in reply to Karms

    Hello Dear Karms,

    A very warm and caring welcome to the forums..

    I think you are so brave and courageous for leaving a DV relationship....That’s something that I didn’t have the courage to do...

    If you feel overwhelmed and need to talk to a trained person...Quirky has given you a great support number to ring...Please don’t be afraid to ring them..

    We are here for you dear Karms, when you feel up to posting...

    My kindest thoughts with my care..

    Grandy.l

  5. Learn to Fly
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    13 November 2021 in reply to Karms

    Hi Karms,

    I’d like to join quirkywords in welcoming you to the forum. The decision to leave your partner must’ve been a huge one for you. But when the kids are present, it’s even harder.
    As quirkywords said, I’d also encourage you to give Respect a call. You left an abusive relationship and more often than not there might be some strings attached which might be preventing you from starting a new life and feeling free.
    Hang in there, you reached out here. You are not alone.

  6. Petal22
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    13 November 2021 in reply to Karms

    Hi Karms,

    Wellcome to our forums!

    Im sorry you are feeling this way I understand it would be difficult for you to be in this situation.

    Im sure you are a great mum and your children appreciate everything you do for them, I understand it would be difficult to be a single mum having to navigate everything on your own.

    Im sorry things seem to be on his terms? Is there a way you can think of to intervene with this?

    I understand the feeling of loosing your self it feels like uncharted territory but maybe this is actually a new beginning for you and you just need to learn how to fly .

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