Thank you Paul....you're so kind to me always. I have been wondering something...regarding grief and when a close friend or well known associate loses someone close e.g. partner, as I have, someone who loved them.....why do the majority of their friends suddenly "disappear".
Don't they care? Didn't they like me very much in the first place? No one rings me just to say "How are you going...are you handling things OK? Do you need to talk?".......I let an old close friend of more than 30 years know the news via email when it happened....and he replied at once of course.....and since then...nothing!
Another long time friend rang me that day and we spoke at length...since then...nothing! My neighbours with whom I get along fine and knew my partner as well.....nothing. No one ever mentions him. It's as if the death never occurred at all. It's as if I am the same person as I was a couple of months ago...the person they've always known.....except....I'm not!
If someone were to ask sincerely and seriously "How are you? How does this feel and are you doing OK?"...I would burst into tears and wish with all my being they would put their arms around me and comfort me. No one ever asks. Maybe I have been guilty of doing this exact same thing? I am not ascribing "blame"or criticism here...this is all new to me.....I am just wondering why human nature seems to be this way...any clues?