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Topic: This bipolar life

  1. quirkywords
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    15 November 2021 in reply to asdff

    Asdff I get into trouble for asking questions to family.

    I think our question sounds reasonable.

  2. asdff
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    15 November 2021

    Thanks Quirky, add into the mix teenage daughter. It’s heard enough for me to manage my moods without someone else on the roller coaster too. She is giving us grief at the moment. It’s all about clothes, changing style. I know she is developing into her sense of sense but can’t she do that with someone else? This one is headstrong. At times I think does she have BP? I’m 95% sure it’s just teenager behaviour but can she go somewhere else for the next few years? Even my Level headed husband has enough of her at times. Now, I was no Angel teen. I was a right pain in the bottom but I did apologise, I helped around the house. Plus the best part I was at my best friends house 75% of the time. This daughter of ours doesn’t enjoy sleepovers. Her best friend isn’t allowed them but our daughter doesn’t go and hangout at someone’s house to give us a break. Okay rant over.

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    15 November 2021 in reply to asdff

    Asdff

    I feel for you. it is tricky and tiring.

    My mother said to me when I was a challenging teenager that she hoped one day I would have a child who caused me more pain than I caused her.

    Needless to say my mum got her wish but did not live long enough to say I told you so.

  4. velvetfaerie
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    16 November 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Day 5 of brutal insomnia. It's work. I'm over it. The double standards and me hauling my backside when others do nothing.

    I'm not going in today. I've emailed and told them what needs to be done and when. Such a shame they're all having a BBQ. We are so busy and understaffed they have time for a n extended lunch.

    I declined the invite due to being busy. Now I've had to call in sick as I'm too fatigued to be safe driving and working.

    You watch me get in trouble. I'll be penalised one way or another.

    I'm too scared to ask for reasonable accommodations due to my condition. The ignorance they display is astounding for a bunch of medical researchers!!!!

    I'm going to make a midnight snack. Coz I can.

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    17 November 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Velevet

    I am glad you are practicing self care and have taken yesterday off. I hope you managed to rest a bit.

    It is sad that you feel you cant take time off when you are exhausted due to the hard work you do at work.

    Big wave to Lisa, Aries, Velvet, asdff and to everyone reading. new people always welcomed.

  6. Airies
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    17 November 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Back home, good to be in my own bed.It was cold where we went, lots of rain.Lovely to see the rivers, dam and spillways in full flight. Catching up on posts. V you ate pretty quick to,think on your feet. Going through the doggy door and using the tool to open the latch. A clever broad and I mean that in the nicest way.

    Today I went shopping for fishing gear.When I had my breakdown I sold it all. It’s taken me years and a visit to a lovely fishing village to rekindle the fire.I was like a kid at the candy store.What I couldn’t find , I’ve tried to get on EBay.Wife’s ok with it but I did get carried away.I liken it to part of my recovery. Halfway through the process of purchasing stuff at the shop I sort of blurted out about my breakdown blah blah blah only to be met by awkward silence and they didn’t know where to look. Sort of funny but not. I need to shut up sometimes and not share stuff.

    Hope everyone is doing ok. Thought of you Quirky as I visited I few bookshops in our travels.Most driving I’ve done in years.

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    17 November 2021 in reply to Airies

    Aries,

    I have been told I overshare too, but I think I just am open and honest.m

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  8. Airies
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    17 November 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Quirky,

    am much the same. It was the way I was brought up, and being an over sensitive and insecure child it has continued on into my adult life. I can blab on here as well but know we all get one another in a round about sort of way or are right on the money. As others are scratching their heads thinking he has lost the plot ….

    I heard a funny one in the car … same paddock,different tent. I’ve never heard of that one.

  9. asdff
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    17 November 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    My kids think I over share. Well the teen daughter does.

    I thought of you today Airies. I was wanting to fill my day with buying things on eBay. I only bought one thing. A silicone baking tray. Something to use instead of aluminium foil.

  10. velvetfaerie
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    17 November 2021 in reply to Airies

    Oh I hope the get away was awesome Airies!!! Same paddock different tent. That's cool ahhaah.

    I don't shop much. Even online. It's only when I absolutely have to. Man thing, he's the shopper.

  11. quirkywords
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    18 November 2021 in reply to asdff

    asdff

    I think most teens think parents overshare and are embarrassing. I have an adult child who is critical of my texts too confusing. Sometimes I feel with children no matter how old or young as a parcel.

    it is easy to do the wrong thing in their eyes!!

    When I first discovered ebay I bought so much stock for my shop including 144 toothbrushes as they were cheap that I had to ban myself from ebay!! Aries and asdff Is there an item you have bought on ebay and wished you had not???

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  12. asdff
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    18 November 2021 in reply to quirkywords
    Oh plenty Quirky. Especially when hypomanic. My last phase I thought I’m going to set up an at home business. Selling/sending/posting inspirational gift boxes with inspirational gift items. Think bracelets, rings etc with messages on them. My friend said yeah great idea. Cue me buying stuff to sell. Me two weeks later, what am I doing? It takes me a little while to realise it’s manic behaviour. Most of the little items have now been sold.
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    18 November 2021 in reply to asdff

    with my former husband I would buy items and hide them so he would not see them.

    That sounded like a good idea. Did you sell them online or to friends?

    I often would just give items away after a spending spree as it was the thrill not the item I craved.

  14. Lisa611
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    18 November 2021 in reply to quirkywords
    Hi All
    Have just been catching up on everyone's posts. I've been busy decorating our living room. A new painting, rug, lamps and new coffee table and side tables. The lounge comes next week. I've brought the decorative stuff online. I've been happy with most of it. It's my daughter's hens night on Saturday. We are staying the night at a hotel in the city. There is going to be Sumba dancers and topless waiters lol. It should be fun. Hope everyone is doing ok.
  15. asdff
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    18 November 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Quirky, Hubby can see what I have bought. They only cost a few dollars each. Sold online. For me, it’s the thrill of the item arriving like a gift in the post. The other thrill is if I sell it for a profit. Darn BP brain.

    Lisa, the Hens Night should be a hoot. I laugh so much at those sort of events. My teen daughter would love to redecorate everything in our house. She often tells me. I do wish she was less opinionated!!

  16. Airies
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    18 November 2021 in reply to asdff

    Lisa, sounds like you will have a ball,enjoy. In regards to regrets on EBay, to,name a few years ago a mobile phone which was a fake, fishing rods which broke first time, of late an electric bike pump which died after 2 months. Am still waiting for a replacement, so in the meantime brought another floor pump after putting the one which had served me well on the nature strip and yesterday I clicked on the wrong thing twice didn’t need the second lot.

    Asdff you and I are so alike. I love the anticipation of the chase, the knock on the door. Also thanks to COVID there’s no other choice due to shortages.
    Hope everyone’s ok. Summer around the corner and then Xmas. Phew

  17. quirkywords
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    18 November 2021 in reply to Airies

    Aries Velvet Asdff Lisa

    Online and eBay I often put things in my basket or watch items then forget. I find that satisfying and only buy or bid if I really want someth8ng and it is a bargain. Yes I like the thrill of having something delivered .

  18. velvetfaerie
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    18 November 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    I got the "pick this item up and the post office".

    Not impressed. They didn't even leave their truck. Caught on camera.

    In other news, the doggo thing I was cranky about... turns out I was right. The surrender form had 1 lot if info and the convo on the phone between President and the surrendering owner was completely different. The president didn't cross check verbal vs written. This dog indeed was mistreated. His behaviour didn't lie to me!!!

    So the chick I had issues with was also not given the true story.

    "But we are only volunteers".... that won't cut it in a court for liability sweetpea.

    So my friend and I will work on doccumenting procedures. Urgh

  19. quirkywords
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    19 November 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    El et glad you worked out what had happen with doggy znd that you were right.

    one would assume there would be cross check with written and verbal statements. There needs to be correct information .
    I hope the documentation is not too difficult a process.

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    19 November 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Hi Everyone,

    Just dropping by to say hello.

    Someone mentioned "Oversharing", that can be a little embarrassing at times when you suddenly realise just how much you have shared!

    On the other hand, it may also give the person/people listening an opportunity to share some of their own experiences or to be aware it is okay to do so if they need to.

    I work at a reception desk. I sometimes hear all kinds of conversations, some could be regarded as over sharing. I am willing to listen. Some people just need to chat.

    I've never bought anything online! On a downer I can imagine purchasing stuff would be very rewarding! Short term gain, maybe a bit like binge eating!

    Cheers all

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  21. velvetfaerie
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    19 November 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Doggy has come a long way, and has a few more challenges to face. Nothing too bad. He's very smart and able to be worked with.

    Hi Dools!!! Long time so see. Hope you are well!!!

    Oversharing. Yes. I stopped in recent times. Only because people made me feel uncomfortable for being unashamed and human. Same people who bully me at work. I realised I don't have to interact with them beyond anything professional and I don't.

    But it does help people have those opportunities to feel safe and vulnerable to vent etc as well. You show vulnerability with oversharing, it shows others its safe to do so. If they use it against you then you know not to speak again. (Me and a couple of workplace bullies).

    Bad birdies woke me at 4.30 this am. Grr. Hehehe.

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    20 November 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    I agree with you, sharing can be so beneficial to our sense of well-being. It is a shame we have to choose who we share with sometimes.

    I know I listen to another person quite willingly and encourage them to chat. When I want to say something on my mind I am shut down and talked over.

    Some of the over sharing I hear at work is of a very personal nature, something better discussed with a medical professional. Not quite within my scope of being able to assist. I guess we can all listen though!

    I'm back at work today so will try to be more attentive to people.

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  23. Airies
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    20 November 2021 in reply to Doolhof

    Overshared at a reunion recently. The poor person was in tears. I was glad i went. Was ummimg and aaring whether I would or not. The last facility intact within the State. Apparently they are going to a documentary asking former staff and others to take part which will be interesting. A number of decades had passed since its closure. Then out to lunch with some friends and then out again tonight with some other friends.

    Im a bit over eating out.it’s been an overload of late of many things. Looking forward to some rest.Hope everyone is ok

  24. quirkywords
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    20 November 2021 in reply to Doolhof

    Dools

    you are so welcome here.

    I have been told by so done close to me when I talk a bit about myself that I should not not .

    I know about not being listened to.
    how did your day at work went well.

    Airies, sounds like an interesting reunion.

    Velvet I agree having a safe place to vent is important.

  25. velvetfaerie
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    21 November 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    I have joined 2 social type groups on the socials. I need new friends. Not ones who leave me out of social events including all other friends, not ones who only contact me when they want or need something.

    The last 5 weeks out of 6 I've been alone. They all know man thing is FIFO. "Oh that must be hard some days. We will invite you to things. We will let you know if we are doing anything" etc etc lies lies.

    So I see all the things they do with friend groups. On socials and in messages as they send me pics.

    I'm so depressed. Am I really that bad of a person? I'm not too bad when they want animal help or life help.

    I need new friends.

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    21 November 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    velvet you are caring person but maybe those people who dont invite you are a self centred. they run to when they need you but dont think you would like a night out. I am sorry you feel depressed.

    I hope your new friends are more caring.

    I need friends that live nearby for me it has been hard with covid.

  27. velvetfaerie
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    21 November 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Yeh. Let's see how I go making friends. Scary stuff haha.

    Yeh I'm a good resource just not worth anything else to them. Most not all.

    Covid has totally done a number on everyone. I'm not alone in that regard.

    If the rules were different and we weren't a continent away, I'd do coffee/chai/tea and cake. Anytime.

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    21 November 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    It is funny I have dated a couple of times from internet and met 2 partners that way, and met a male as a friend . People assume if you meet on the net it must be romance .
    i mer friends in London I had only met on a uk website. Sometimes the person you thought you would really get on with as a friend does not want to talk

    Tea and cake sounds yummy and I can bring fruit.

    I read people are having more picnics now, is anyone here doing that .

    picnic. baskets sakes are up. I have had one picnic in two years,

  29. velvetfaerie
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    21 November 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Man thing and I met online ahahhahaa.

    Ohhhhh picnic. That's a really good idea. Might suggest a sunset one with man thing on weekend. It's going to be a hot weekend here.

    Tropical fruit rocks. Yummy!!!

    Spoke to mum a bit today. Asked her why it's always up to me to be the one maintaining every relationship I have including the one with the parents. Mum appologised. They aren't coping with age and chronic illnesses. I've told them repeatedly if they need help talk to me and I'll sort things out or we can find other arrangements. Man thing said he would help too.

    Mum said I can't possibly take on more. No this is true it means I reduce work hours or ask for flexibility as caring for aging parents. If parents can do it for caring for kids I get the same rights. It's in the law.

    Anyway I've spent the weekend alone again. 5 weeks out of 6 alone. I'm really depressed and feel like I don't exist to anyone.

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    21 November 2021 in reply to velvetfaerie

    Velvet that is so compassionate that you want to care for your parents.

    One of my children keeps making sure I keep healthy. Even though I am only in my 60s I am the older generation so it seems scary one day someone may be caring for me.

    It must be so hard alone again on the weekend.

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