Hi GREAT Uncle Croix lol & Blubes and all
Yes our LDR has had many advantages for me in my situation. Esp for the first 4 years.
ex was extremely effective at his social & familial isolation abuse & turned almost everyone he knew of in my life against me. Even my eldest children.
ex had approached EVERYONE; every family member (over 50 of them) & every friend he knew of.
I didn't KNOW he was doing this.
ex was very successful, conniving, cunning (Police called him) & thorough.
it is a VERY convincing liar - all psychopaths are.
It took years for some to "come back" to me. Some are gone forever.
ex went to extreme lengths to get between BF & I.
BFs support throughout Courts & Police investigations and extreme duress was unwavering. His character stood out like a Prince amongst men.
ex even mentioned BF in Affidavits!
ex found out BFs name SOME how.
Fortunately BF is an American citizen so was untouchable in our cases. BF had never visited Australia (and I told him NOT to whilst all this was going on). The things ex said BF had done when he was in Australia, did not happen because he had NEVER been to Australia.
I'm not defending the marvel of LDRs lol, it's just how things unfolded for us.
BF and I became "best friends" in an online support group but with personal messaging available. It was a year before he PMd me. He thought as they all did that I may have committed suicide. I had been "banned" from all online access by ex whilst separated under one roof. ex cut all access off.
ex was losing control over the situation and me. ex was going apesh** all the time.
Police were "in" ex's pocket, he pointed out daily.
We had around 10 "close friends" in our online group. As things escalated here they all banded together, got legal advice and had all paperwork ready for me to flee to the U.S. with the children.
I couldn't leave my adult children.
We've now met all of these online friends IRL from Canada to Cali to Florida and England.
I'd lost everyone here, I had no one. They were my only constant supports.
Over time with Counselling, I have been able to "somewhat repair" my relationships with adult children, my brother and Uncle. A few friends of over 40y I had lost, came back to me.
ex must've lost their numbers lol.
The bond forged with BF was in the most extreme circumstances for me.
He FINALLY came out to Aust last year, 1 month after Courts were finished.