Welcome Talon to the forum and thanks for sharing your thoughtful post which many parents may relate to.
Tim has written a helpful and supportive reply.
I have a son much older than yours that says things at times that he sees as helping me but I may see as upsetting.
I think your son may have said that without really thinking much about it and how it would affect you so much. I know my son said things he thinks are funny or to see if he gets a reaction from me.
I can see how it would upset you as it is something you are concerned about.
I am sure your sons know and appreciate how much you have done for them.
You are aware you may be oversensitive. I wonder would you say something to your son.?
When I feel I may be sensitive I ask my son to get a clearer idea of what he meant . He explained it was meant to help me and another it was just a throw away line.
As parents, we are sensitive to what our children say but I feel sure your son would not want you to feel weak.
I can tell that you have a strong and close relationship with your boys.
How do you feel about talking to your son about how you feel?