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Topic: Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak

  1. blondguy
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    1 February 2021 in reply to Guest_8790

    Hi Rusty

    Good on you for speaking from the heart as Covid is an issue. Im in Victoria and as you know we were in lockdown for months last year. I understand that a 5 day lockdown would be just as awful as weeks or months

    I understand your anxiety attacks as I used to have them for a long time. You have mentioned everything that I also do with anxiety and Covid...Thankyou for your proactive post :-)

    Paul

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  2. Gambit87
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    Hey everyone,

    Perth has entered into a 5 day lockdown! and unfortunately, I live in the hotspot!!!

    initially I was a little anxious about it but I got over that quickly by thinking I got though lock down once - I can do it again. I refuse to let this get the better of me.

    besides its only 5 days. Fingers crossed all goes well and it doesnt get extended.

    I got covid tested (I waited 5 hours in line, but worth it in the grand scheme of things) and im going to get tested again probably next week to make sure.

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  3. Guest_8790
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    3 February 2021 in reply to blondguy
    Thanks for your reply. I am sure I will cope. A new issue is a catastrophic bush fire in the hills has destroyed 59 homes so there are people without homes in 37 degree temperature. My issues are nothing compared to them.

    I hope the fires can be contained but due to winds and possible cyclonic winds up north the battle is hard.


    I will be thinking of them and be grateful i still have a home.

    Rusty
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  4. Mudcakes
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    12 February 2021
    Victoria in lockdown for 5 days starting from midnight tonight. I think many of us are having flashbacks from our 6-7 month major lockdown. Legit every time I feel a bit ready to go back to school after a tough time away, boom lockdown or school holidays.😕 Hoping like crazy they don’t treat the tennis players above us. I mean they can’t, can’t they?
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    12 February 2021 in reply to Mudcakes

    Hi Mudcakes,

    Thanks for your caring post.

    From what I know the tennis is still happening, however there will be know crowds.

    As a Victorian I know that we will power through this lockdown! We've done it before and we can do it again!

    My heart does go out to all the small businesses that will be losing money over the lockdown though, lets hope the Government give them some financial support.

    Fingers crossed we get on top of the out break so its only for 5 days!

    Regards,

    D

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  6. randomx
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    12 February 2021 in reply to Mudcakes

    God yeah , a lot of them come from places of 10s of 1000s of cases a day and they're still all out running round, or look at the us last l saw 96k in one day .

    Funny , today one of the interviewers asked one of the players after the match what's it like being in Australia after the other countries. He was expecting a nice old pat on thee back and rant about how good we are , you know the way al our interviewers in anything scratch for flattery about Aus , it's bloody embarrassing. Anyway she said well l don't know , it;s different , we're in our rooms come out play a match then we're locked up again - he goes ohhh rrrr hmmm . Ha , and that was before the announcement, she's gonna be pissed now. Not that l'd wanna be out still running about in a country with 100s of k , or millions , but a lot of them still are.

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    12 February 2021 in reply to randomx
    I am in favour of the short lockdown to avoid the risk of things going out of control but since I've fractured my wrist I am struggling to do things. My son now can't come over as planned to help tomorrow. I am worried about being able to cope without support. My husband tries to help but this often doesn't work as he can't see what he is doing
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    13 February 2021 in reply to Elizabeth CP

    Hi Elizabeth

    Really sorry to hear about your broken wrist. Hope you’re not in too much pain and/or discomfort.

    I can imagine cooking would present a real challenge, along with so many other routine household things. It’s a really tough spot for you and hubby to be in.

    I remember you had previously organised an exemption for your son to care for you and hubby during the last lockdown. Couldn’t you rely on that again?

    My argument if ever challenged would be that the speed and timing (eg being announced on a Fri) of this lockdown imposition unfairly prevented you from reapplying. I wouldn’t think it would be a problem, given the precedent of an exemption has already been set.

    Kind thoughts to you

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  9. mb20lover
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    13 February 2021

    Lockdown hasn't really affected me because I have no family (just my parents) and no friends and barely leave the house anyway - only to go for walks, get food or groceries/run errands with my parents. I don't go anywhere else, except the Pharmacy or to the GP.

    It's been hard on my mental health though with wearing masks, just the whole COVID stuff. The concerts are one thing that's affected me because that's all I now that's therapeutic for me.

  10. randomx
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    13 February 2021 in reply to mb20lover

    Sorry about the concerts mb yeah it must've been awhile now.

    They don't effect me either much not near Melbourne and l work at home anyway so.

    Hope ya can find some clubs or outs to enjoy though hey when life is back to normal one of these days. rx

  11. mb20lover
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    13 February 2021 in reply to randomx
    I hate clubbing, never done it nor do I want to. Not my thing at all.
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    13 February 2021 in reply to mb20lover

    Nah didn't mean that kind , meant groups whatever they're called you know like the clubs we were talking about.

    Anyway one and all , l can't work this virus lockdown stuff out. I man here's Aus closing borders for 1 case , l mean one , or going into lockdowns for 14 cases among 7 or 8million people across a state.

    Yet here's say the uk , Europe , and people still out and about , streets , shopping , in the cities , with 100s of 1000s , or still have concerts in the states with what 30 million and 95k a day atm. l mean how is stuff like that possible when here we're carrying on the way we do over a few cases. Does anyone get this stuff ?

    Damned if l do. rx

  13. Moonstruck
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    13 February 2021 in reply to randomx
    Hi randomx ...you put it very clearly..and no...I don't get it either..never have..Happy Valentine's Day to you....🌷
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  14. randomx
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    13 February 2021 in reply to randomx

    Actually , l found a site talking about lockdowns degrees all over the world right now. Does seem many are in lockdowns some have been for mths. But even with that it's surprising how lean some seem , like schools still open , bars but only until certain hrs, a few advise , just advise , against international travel but not stopping anyone. Although lreland is on level 5 , the highest one apparently. hmm , a few of them have the 5k rule too , and only one person visiting a house.

    At anyrate then, still can't work out how l see clips all the time on a news of this country or that , with people still out and about all over the place but still , after reading that site does seem like others are still under pretty strict rules after all though.

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  15. Lillylane
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    14 February 2021 in reply to randomx
    Hi Randomx

    That’s interesting to hear. I’ve been wondering lately if any other countries in the world are closing/opening internal borders at the moment like we are?

    Lillylane
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    14 February 2021 in reply to Moonstruck

    Why thank you Moon happy, Valentines to you too.

    rx

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  17. randomx
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    14 February 2021 in reply to Lillylane

    Hi Lillylane.

    Yeah things is it looks like they are yeah but with 100s of 1,000s or into the millions of cases , not 1 or 3 or 14 . As far as l can tell NZ is the only other country in the world that necrotic.

    l'm wondering these days though is it really such a good thing l mean ok we have no cases to speak of yeah but yet here we are still carrying on like this.

    rx

  18. Gelati
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    14 February 2021

    I live alone and my partner lives in Sydney. We have missed a number of opportunities last year to see each other - I finally saw him after 8.5 months in early December, then their outbreak meant he had to cancel his flight to Melb on Xmas Day. Now he's due to fly here on Thursday but I have no confidence that things will go back to normal on Thursday - especially when, in July, '6 weeks' turned into four months.

    I'm grieving and angry. Seeing borders 'slam shut' (as the media loves to say) when we can't travel 5 km anyway makes me feel more upset and constrained. And having a national employer and my colleagues - including my manager - living interstate is so hard because I have to ensure hearing about their eventful weekends etc. I just can't bring myself to be happy for them at the moment.

    But what is hurting me is the fact that my partner, being from Sydney and having only gone through one (comparatively less strict) lockdown, try as he might, just won't fully understand the trauma I feel. For instance, yesterday after radio silence for the whole morning, sent me a text saying he popped by his parents' place - knowing how close I am to mine and that i cannot see anyone - and sent a photo of his haircut from the morning - when he knew I had been looking forward to a hairdresser appointment yesterday that had to be cancelled. I don't think he meant to rub it in my face but it showed me how there is a lack of appreciation of the significance of this lockdown for me, when I am still recovering from my feeling of last year. I just feel so resentful towards him.

    I know we can exercise two hours a day but I can't bear to put on a mask just to get the pleasure of leaving my driveway. I was happy to wear masks indoors but I have always struggled deeply with the idea of enjoying a walk in nature with a mask when alone. All I can focus on is is my obstructed vision - glasses fog up and also cannot see downwards - the smell of the material and not being able to breathe through my nose.

    I feel so helpless that, despite all doing our best, it's still not enough because there is an ever present risk of hotel quarantine leaks. I understand regional Vic wanting the 'ring of steel' but I'd also argue that they have the fortune of not having return travellers in their vicinity - we've had no choice.

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  19. randomx
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    14 February 2021 in reply to Gelati

    Gday Gelati.

    lronically my partners in sydney and l'm in Vic too. We've ran the gauntlet 4 times now right through all this , kinda chuckle at it now can't believe some of the stuff we did but we got there. Smack in the middle the hardest lockdowns too and Sydneys another time , bloody rings of steel you name it , one trip there was only 25 people on her plane, no staff at all at the airport , we escaped haha, through the night drives we've done all the tricks, where there's a will , yaknow. He'll be able to get down easy legal and all unlike some of ours when this one now clears up in a wk or two anyway and you'd be good l'd say. We're doing another trip 2 - 3 wks .

    But yeah it is ridiculous , at first l was quite proud of Aus but as we see now it just goes on and on and on into the neurotic now. And considering 1/2 of Europe even the US still have open borders and international travel , pretty unbelievable. rx

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  20. CalmCat
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    14 February 2021 in reply to Gelati

    Hi Gelati,

    Thank you sharing something so personal with us all, by sharing what you have others can relate. Helping to normalize our situations is important so we don't feel alone.

    On a personal note, I'm finding this third lockdown difficult as it seemed so sudden compared to others lockdowns. In saying that we've all done lockdown before and can do it again, we're resilient people.

    If you are finding it difficult make sure you facetime with your folks, having as much connection as possible is important during these times. And make sure you look after your health and sleep, which is vital for good mental health.

    Let us know how you go.

    Regards,

    D

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    14 February 2021 in reply to Gelati

    Hi Gelati

    I don’t believe that our fellow Australians will ever truly understand the trauma we Melburnians feel today. It’s a gut-wrenching pervasive feeling of dejavu that can’t be shaken.

    Everyone has lost something irreplaceable. Everyone is scarred in some way. Everyone is dreading a lockdown extension.

    So, please don’t be harsh with your partner. He hasn’t walked in your shoes and really can’t comprehend the fear, anxiety, doubt and sometimes anger that Victorians are currently experiencing.

    But there are people here, like me, who understand all too well every word you wrote. I say to you this: don’t lose hope.

    We have done lockdown before and we will do it again—because we have to. Our government has charted a course and it will not be deterred, whether it be right or wrong. There is no simply no alternative but to ride this out.

    One day at a time, we will get through this together. Eventually this experience will pass, just hang on. Post any time.

    Kind thoughts to you

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    14 February 2021 in reply to Summer Rose

    The son who was supposed to visit yesterday live in regional Vic so hardly saw him or grandkids last year. Then couldn't see them over the summer holidays due to some other issues affecting his family so I was looking forward to seem them. Having him come while I am injured meant couldn't enjoy tdoing some of the things I'd normally do with them but it meant I could get a number of things done Ican't manage now as well as having help with meals which i struggle with at the moment. My other son who lives nearby has been driving me to appointments even while he has been trying to work from home. II thought it would be good to give him a break from helping us as he's had a bad week with sick child apart from late nights and awkward time taking me to doctors and emergency. Now with lockdown he is the only one allowed to visit to help. Now my husband's speech therapy appointment is back online which I find much more stressful as I have to do more

  23. mb20lover
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    14 February 2021 in reply to randomx

    Sorry I misunderstood randomx.

    Yeah I agree with you, it's ridiculous. Apparently the VIC lockdown (I'm in regional VIC) is 14 days, gosh I hope not. 5 days is bad enough.

    It's not good for anyone's mental health, Dan doesn't care about anyone but himself. There's been a lot of deaths in VIC just from mental illnesses, it's so sad, more than there is in the rest of Australia with the lockdown. That and people losing money, businesses, houses, etc. It's terrible.

    I don't know why Regional VIC is in lockdown, if anything the Virus is more in Melbourne.

  24. randomx
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    14 February 2021 in reply to mb20lover

    Yeah your all right this is really hitting home in vic this time, we've been through enough and it just makes you feel ok , we did all of that , yet now they're bringing this on again for just a few cases for god sake.

    Hiya mb , hope your ok, and no worries at all. But yeah your spot on , what there is is in melb anyway so l mean state wide on top of it , talk about overkill to the ridiculous. And so damaging to people and other things you've talked about and after everything else they've been through.

    rx.

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  25. Moonstruck
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    14 February 2021 in reply to randomx

    Hi Randomx...I like it the way you get right to the point of something! was discussing the Melbourne current lockdown with friends today....and we wondered just how many of those testing positive actually become very ill and die. I wonder how many deaths it will cause? Any guesses? And will we be notified every night on the media just when and how many of those make a full recovery? what do you reckon? Cheers....Moon S

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  26. Lauren57r
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    14 February 2021 in reply to Moonstruck
    I to feel hopeless and lost and completely drained.
    When will this all be over I just want to live my 20s i just want to be able to enjoy life not being locked up or confined
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    14 February 2021 in reply to Lauren57r
    Hey Lauren57r,

    Thanks for joining us this afternoon on the forums. We're so sorry to hear how isolated and lost you feel at the moment. We understand the current restrictions in Victoria have caused a lot of disruption in peoples lives. 

    We'd encourage you to access our Coronavirus Mental Wellbeing Support Service. It is available 24/7 at coronavirus.beyondblue.org.au and provides easy access to a broad range of supports from online wellbeing tips and self-help tools, to phone counselling from trained mental health professionals and peer-to-peer support options. 

    What activities do you think could keep you motivated and content over the next few days in lockdown?

     
  28. Moonstruck
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    14 February 2021 in reply to Lauren57r

     

    My heart goes out to you. Humans were not meant to live, or should I say..exist, in this way with no end in sight.

    No matter how long or what destiny has in store for us...we deserve to "live our life" as Lauren57 said. What more can they take from us and for how long...we are all going to die one day, that is an escapable fact. At least let us live those years as fully and productively and as joyously as we can.....my pleas fall on deaf ears. 

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  29. Black Bubblegum
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    The people who are on this forum are a massive help and I can never thank them enough for the help they offered at my darkest moments last year.

    In all honesty, I have long since given up, the last few months of relative happiness were a false dawn, as it's obviously not real if some politicians incompetence can take it away so easily.

    I'm filled with incredible sadness and anger. I won't do anything as I have to be there to help my parents, but the last few days have shown how worthless this all really is. It wouldn't matter anyway, since we're all just numbers to the people in charge and if they can't gain from it politically then they couldn't care.

    Wanted to thank everyone on here for their help in the past but I'm sorry that I can't take that and keep moving forward.

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    14 February 2021 in reply to Black Bubblegum

    Hey Black Bubblegum,

    Thanks for reaching out this afternoon. It's great to hear that our community was able to support you through some very challenging moments. We hope we can help support you again now. We acknowledge how difficult life can be during a lockdown and the feelings of sadness and hopelessness it can cause. Please know you are not alone in feeling this way. 

    We hope you know that there is always help available to you, whether it's from our professional mental health counsellors Beyond Blue (available 24/7/365 on 1300 22 4636) or our friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) or the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467). One of the friendly professional mental health counsellors will give you support and point you in the right direction for help in your area.

    Please keep checking in with us here. 

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