Strong relationships don’t just make life happier – they lift mood, lower stress, boost immunity, and can increase your chances of living longer. Whatever kind of relationship we’re talking about – romantic, family, friendships, work colleagues, or any other human bond – supportive relationships help you feel connected, valued and safe.
Strong relationships also build strong communities. When people feel connected, communities become safer, healthier and better able to face challenges together.
Some people face extra barriers to feeling connected. Factors such as stigma, discrimination and stress can deepen feelings of loneliness, particularly among young people, LGBTIQ+ communities, First Nations peoples and people under financial pressure.
Why supportive relationships make getting help easier
Many people turn to someone they trust before they contact a service or health professional.
When someone close notices change, checks in or encourages you to seek support, getting help can feel less overwhelming. In this way, your relationships often act as your first support system.
What does a healthy relationship look like?
Healthy relationships are built on respect, trust, communication and boundaries.
They help you feel stronger and more grounded, not smaller or more stressed.
Signs of a health relationship
- You both feel emotionally and physically safe
- You can communicate openly and honestly, and you both listen with care
- There is trust and reliability – you can count on each other
- Boundaries are understood and respected
- Conflict is handled calmly and fairly, with a focus on repair rather than blame
- You both feel supported, valued and encouraged
- You both keep your independence, including friends, interests and space to grow
- You can be yourselves without fear of judgement
- There’s mutual respect, including respect for each other’s needs, goals and identity
You share affection, appreciation and small moments of connection
If you didn’t tick every box, that’s OK. Noticing what feels off is a really important first step.
From here you can explore what needs to change and how you can do that. Relationships Australia has many resources for people feeling challenged by their personal relationships.
Do relationships need to be perfect to be healthy?
Healthy relationships aren’t flawless. What matters most is steady, kind and consistent connection – small moments of care, shared understanding and knowing you’re not facing things alone.
Living with a mental health condition can also make relationships feel harder. Many people face relationship strain or breakdowns, which can make recovery harder.
Healthy relationships experience conflict but repair well afterwards. These everyday interactions strengthen both the relationship and mental health over time.
Relationship conflict
Sometimes, despite your best efforts, it can be hard to figure things out from inside your relationship.
You could seek help by speaking to your GP to get a referral to a professional counselling service or confiding in a trusted family member or friend.
If you are experiencing or are affected by family or sexual violence:
- In an emergency, call 000
- Contact a relationships helpline service, such as Family Relationships Online, Relationships Australia or MensLine Australia
- Support is available anytime, with 24/7 counselling for domestic, family or sexual violence – connect with 1800RESPECT.
- To explore support national and local options for domestic and family violence in your area, visit Ask Izzy.
How to build and keep healthy relationships
Relationships aren’t fixed, and neither are we. Healthy relationships grow over time. They’re not something you’re expected to “just know” how to do. Strong relationships are built through many small moments of care, honest conversations and a willingness to understand each other.
There are also many options for support if your relationship is struggling. Things like mindfulness practice and couples support can help you find new ways to communicate and understand each other.
You don’t have to tackle everything at once. Even one small change can help your relationships grow in a healthier direction.
Why connection matters
Research shows that having supportive people in your corner can help you:
Feel more positive
Have better self-esteem
Cope better with stressful situations
Live a healthier lifestyle
Boost your immune system
Lower your risk of serious health issues
Live longer!
The good news is that there are simple things everyone can do to connect more with others, manage conflicts better, and start feeling the benefits. It all starts with communication.
Building new relationships and strengthening existing ones
It might sound obvious, but you strengthen your relationships and build new ones by regularly taking small steps to connect.
Giving yourself chances to meet people, stay in touch, share experiences, have meaningful conversations and support one another can make a real difference to how you feel.
How to overcome new connection nerves
If you’ve got some ideas about making and strengthening connections, it can still be nerve-racking putting them into practice.
If you’re feeling self-conscious, one of the biggest things to remember is to focus less on yourself and more on the other person. Shifting your attention to them can ease the pressure and help the conversation flow more naturally.
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Remember – do what feels manageable for you
Building your social supports should ease your stress, not add to it. You don’t need to overhaul your whole social life. Small, steady steps count. Do what feels manageable for you and try to spend more time with people who lift your energy.
