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Topic: *You Gotta Friend in Us*

  1. Aaronsis
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    3 April 2020 in reply to Stressed Guy

    Hello John, it is great to meet you.

    I totally agree in the "Stressed Guy" hopefully was a time and how he is starting to be less in the fore front, I am so happy that you are here and chatting.

    I would love to read some of your writing, I am not sure about the link but let me find out, in the mean time you can put snippets in your posts here and share them with us to read, that would be cool.

    I am really enjoying the painting and as I said, I am not terribly good at it but it brings me joy and I do like to see what I can and can't do, who knows what my skills will be like when this whole COVID-19 situation fades...I might keep is as a new hobby.

    How are you going and how have you been spending your days, I am at work some days as I am with an organisation that has been deemed critical, so with some rules of course and physical distancing I can still work a few days in the office which does break up the four walls at home.

    I have found a trap and that is Tik Tok...oh wow...I am totally addicted and I may need an intervention...lol...I could never understand what the fuss was and why my daughter was on there all the time but here we are.....oh dear!!!!

    Well it is great to meet you John and I am sorry to hear that your brother's opinions of your work has really effected you, and that they felt it their place to critique your work, perhaps it may have even been a case of jealousy, in any case it is very hurtful and I am sorry John.

    Chat soon and huge hugs

    Sarah xx

  2. eight
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    5 April 2020 in reply to Aaronsis

    i only really see tiktoks that get reupped to other sites like twit and tumblr but the best ones are and i realise how incredibly zoomerish this sounds the ones that are vine's second coming. my favourite before valentines day was like this wild west like showdown between the smart kid and the kid whos repeated this class over and over which ends in a stupid pokemon joke. now my fav's probably this one warning couples thinking of getting rowdy this valentines day do not and goes through this weird conspiracy about scorpios and the seven deadly sins and places where pot is legal to "your child is gay".

    honestly runnerups is that guy who dresses up as doug dimmadome from fairly odd parents down to the comically long hat and going to like, burger king and the library, that one guy who wants to terrorise children by photoshopping waldo out of every page of a wheres waldo book, and that weird subgenre of tiktoks that try to emulate bethesda rpgs like fallout and elder scrolls which i always forward to my token tes friend and i think they want my blood more by every one i find and send

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  3. Stressed Guy
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    14 April 2020 in reply to Aaronsis
    Hi Sarah,

    I'm alright, I've been trying to focus on some tafe work and have been trying to write a bit more recently.

    In relation to stressed guy (Maybe I'll always be stressed but I guess that has more to do with my personality than anything else)

    I'll be sure to send through some of my poems in the future for everyone to read. I'd just kind of like a couple more people to read some of my work (If that makes sense)

    I'm glad you're enjoying the painting. It doesn't matter if you're good at it as long as it's fun. Keep it up!

    Also, it sounds like a good thing that you're going to work a bit. I'm glad it breaks up the monotony for you (I know what you mean, it can certainly get frustrating staying at home all the time)

    It's been great to meet you too and don't worry about my brothers. They think they know everything lol. I look forward to talking to you as well as others in the future.

    Nice chatting to you,

    John

  4. Aaronsis
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    14 April 2020 in reply to Stressed Guy

    Hey John

    Great to chat to you some more and great to also hear that you are doing ok in these really interesting times, thank you for your encouragement on my painting, I put my Easter Rabbit as my profile pic, he is ok but I am under no illusion of an appointment at an art gallery any time soon...lol...but yes, it keeps me busy and I really enjoy it, it does make me happy.

    I would really like to read some of your writing so pop some up on here if you would like to share, but only if you feel comfortable to..no pressure. I am glad that the relationship with your brothers does sound healthy and that is really lovely, maybe it is a masculine thing of "ripping it apart" as saying how awesome something is can be emotional and vulnerable...maybe I am being a bit stereotypical or judgy there...lol

    It is great being able to go to work a few days, it is nice to break up the four walls of home, and forces me to actually get dressed as opposed to getting around in day pyjamas to change into night ones..lol

    It is really great to have you back and look forward to hearing what else you have been up to in these very trying times. There are some really interesting threads on here with people sharing what they are doing in these times, me included and it would be nice to be able to include these things back into my regular life when it returns back, to stop and take notice and appreciate and not take for granted.

    So great to hear from you John

    Hugs

    Sarah xxx

  5. Stressed Guy
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    12 May 2020 in reply to Aaronsis
    Hi Sarah,

    I liked your Easter Rabbit that you had as your profile pic (Not sure if that's the right word since we're not on Facebook)

    I assume that cool looking cow is another one of your paintings. If so, it looks really good.

    I'll pop up some of my writing in the future. I've just been kind of busy lately.

    It's good to hear that you're working a bit and enjoy getting out of the house.

    I wish there were more places to go instead of just the shops or to Bunnings (We've been buying some cleaning stuff and storage containers for my house as my parents and I are moving in a few months)

    I feel bad for taking so long to reply to you again. Nice chatting to you and I look forward to hear what you've been up to recently.

    John

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  6. Aaronsis
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    13 May 2020 in reply to Stressed Guy

    Hey John

    No pressure and no feeling bad, you come to chat when you feel like it and we are here for you, be kind to you.

    The Easter rabbit was a painting I did, and the cow also, I am using isolation as a time to do some things that I have always wanted to do and have not really ever had the time or the drive to...isolation has given me that so I am taking full advantage of being able to do some painting, now they are certainly not master pieces but I have really enjoyed doing them. My daughter started a "COVID - 19" wall and anyone who does art has to put it up.

    Now that the rules have relaxed somewhat hopefully you can catch up with some friends and family and have some time other than the Bunnings outing..lol..but that is exciting that you are moving, hope it is not too stressful for you and that you are enjoying it more that dreading it.

    John I am looking forward to whenever the time is that you do decide to post some of your writing, you do it when and if you feel comfortable to.

    Well back to the home schooling situation, that is sure a challenging thing but the end is in sight now with a date in which the kids will go back so I think we are all pretty excited about that to be honest. I think that they have a whole new appreciation for school, which is good.

    Chat soon John, and no pressure, whenever you feel like it.

    Your friend

    Sarah

  7. Stressed Guy
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    29 May 2020 in reply to Aaronsis
    Hey Sarah,

    I hope you continue painting and upload some more of your art here in the future. Also the idea for a Covid wall sounds like a great idea.

    I'll start off by saying I have no friends.

    In regards to moving, It's been really stressful (Apparently I looked it up and it said moving is the most stressful thing in life) After the last few months, I certainly agree with that.

    If it's okay I don't really want to keep talking on these forums about my problems (I just seem to come across as a whinger)

    With my writing, I'll upload some poems in the next few months on here. Hopefully by then we would have moved and I'll have some more free time on my hands.

    I hope you're okay and would like to hear what you've been up to recently.

    Nice chatting to you again and I'm sorry if my post was kind of depressing. I also wanted to mention that I've been out a bit more recently. I saw a movie last weekend at the Drive In and I've been to a few shops. So, I guess there's some okay moments thrown in as well.

    Thanks for reading my post and I look forward to talking to you more in the future.

    Your friend,

    John
  8. Aaronsis
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    30 May 2020 in reply to Stressed Guy

    Hello John

    It is great to chat to you some more, I totally respect your choice to chat and to keep it light, I am certainly happy to be your friend... I do want to just acknowledge though that you are certainly not whinging... chatting about your feelings is healthy but I respect your wishes... know I am here if you need.

    my painting is going well, I do it from time to time and recently did a cow. I have also planted some veggies with my daughter... I am a hopeless gardener so I have no idea how it will go but we enjoyed shopping for the things and then planting them. I guess these are two things that the current physical distancing rules has provided for me and I am very grateful for them.

    I wish to be walking more but that kind of hasn’t happened much, I feel like I am moving from one chair to the next.

    A quiet night for me.. I plan to watch The Lion King... I just love it... what are some of your favourite movies?

    I hope your writing has been coming along during this time and you have been enjoying that.... I really do look forward to reading some one day.

    I had to help my son with some writing last week. It was a creative piece for English where he had to write an alternative ending for Romeo and Juliet. We had Juliet kill her father and run off with Romeo... a little dark but it was fun.

    great to chat to you John and look forward to hearing more of what you have been up to.

    hugs

    Sarah

  9. Freemilly
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    6 July 2020 in reply to calmseeker
    I can really connect with your post. Most days I really struggle...to the point of just wanting it to be over but I can still mask so well that people don’t know. I help those around me and I smile. My nickname at work is smiley but I want to die. I am a carer and get joy from making a difference in people’s lives.
  10. Sophie_M
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    6 July 2020 in reply to Freemilly
    Dear Freemilly,

    We're glad to read that you get some joy from your work. If ever you'd like to talk about your darker thoughts, please remember our support service is available 24/7 on 1300 22 4636. From 3pm to midnight every day you can also chat to them online via https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/get-immediate-support

    Please keep checking in here on this thread or elsewhere to let us know how you're getting on whenever you feel up to it.
  11. Aaronsis
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    6 July 2020 in reply to Freemilly

    Hi Freemilly

    I am so glad that you have posted here today and I hope that you will continue to chat and to get some of the things that are bringing you down off your chest, we are here for you, you don't have to put on your mask and you don't have to smile. This is a safe place to do a purge and to get some of these feelings out and to have someone to listen and to chat to, we are here.

    I have no idea the strength and the energy it must take to get through a day putting a smile on your face when all you want to do is cry, so I can assume you are a very strong person Freemilly. You choose to get up every day and fight and you chose to put a smile on your face, that is so very brave.

    I am wondering if you have some things in your day that do make you smile, for real? If you have some hobbies or some interests that make you happy? I see that you love your job and the fact you are a carer means your heart is probably huge.

    We are here for you Freemilly, to chat and to listen and to care.

    Hugs to you

    Sarah

  12. Weaponsofmassdisstortion
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    25 December 2020

    Hi all, my name is a reference to a song by an electronic instrumental music group called "The crystal method" (no don't give me that look, the band was out long before ice use was common, I just like their music ok?)

    As I write this, I am listening to track called "SAMIDARE" it is Japanese for; early summer rain.

    It is a track taken from the anime Naruto Shipudden,

    being xmass as I write this, I will probably spend it alone again. Which kind of bums me out but I have spent previous holidays surrounded by people I don't like. And in all honesty being alone is preferable to that. Usually during the holidays I go to a charity where they are holding a free xmass lunch. But with the whole covid lockdown thing, that's not happening this year. Also the weather doesn't really want to be summer at the moment. So, I guess snorkelling is off the table this year as well. Well in any case I have plenty of art and writing projects to keep me busy as well. I really struggle to form relationships in the real world. On the internet I can control the level of socialising I do more easily.

    What people would never guess by looking at me is: I able to touch type at about 53-61 words per minute with an accuracy of between 73-95 percent, depending on how much caffeine I have had and how much sleep I get.

  13. Matchy69
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    25 December 2020 in reply to Weaponsofmassdisstortion
    Hi Weoponsofmasdissortion great user name.I too will be spending today alone and decided to go on a motorbike ride to get me out of the house which seems I don't do much of these days.Not sure where I will go where ever the road takes me.I might head west this time last time I went south.
    That is music you listen to sounds interesting and must look them up and see if I can find them on YouTube.Music we enjoy can make a big difference in our moods and can help us get through a lonely day.
    Sounds like you are a really fast typist.Thats great I wish I was but I am very slow.I am usually very slow at everything is do.
    Take care,
    Mark.
  14. Weaponsofmassdisstortion
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    10 January 2021 in reply to Matchy69

    If you want to listen to The Crystal Method, then I suggest the following tracks; Keep Hope Alive, Name of the Game, Get busy child, Weapons of mass distortion, I know it's you, glass breaker, vice, can you trip like I do, acetone

    You should be able to find them all on youtube. I would love to be able to get a license, car or bike. However, because of my mental state, I have problems focusing my attention. So, I have safety concerns. Also I am too broke to get a car and license, -shrug- oh well such is life. Although I have heard that getting a license for a bike or scooter is somewhat easier, then a car.

    If you would like to learn how to touch type, I suggest www.freetypinggame.net, that's where I learned to type. Also I learned on a game called Typer Shark. Although it was on yahoo games and they were discontinued quite a while ago. However there are plenty of sites which have typing style games on them. I was trying to get a job in a call centre, and thought that increasing my typing speed would help. However, no one wants a misanthropic introverted loner working for them. But I don't regret it, I have foudn many other uses for it.

    Ps. Thanks for replying to me.

  15. Matchy69
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    10 January 2021 in reply to Weaponsofmassdisstortion
    Hi Weoponsofmasdissortion thanks for replying back.Driving can be a lot of fun or it can be very stressful which it usually is these days.I live on a small country town and driving around the quiet roads here is ok but when I have to go into the big town it is so busy and I get so stressed.
    I have arthritis in my hands these days which didn't help with my typing
  16. Missing user
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    25 January 2021
    Hey everyone, if anyone needs a friend, I'm always here.
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  17. Missing user
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    4 February 2021
    Hey everyone, just wanted to pop on here and say if anyone needs a friend, I'm always here, I'll do my best to support everyone on the forums. It's a good place here. Thank you for this forum, BB.
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  18. amberlite
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    26 February 2021 in reply to Stressed Guy
    hi peeps people usually think i am normal straight and of regular character but im not and can not be i am an imposter and oh-oh yes im the great pretender pretending that im doing well my need is such i pretend to much im lonely but noone can tell......its a song
  19. Missing user
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    8 May 2021
    i could really use some friends lately, i feel so alone all the time
  20. Aaronsis
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    10 May 2021 in reply to Missing user

    Hey mb20lover

    I am so happy to see you here and that you have found this little place on the forum to let us know that you are in need of a friend right now.

    We have chatted in the past and I just wanted to stop in and see what is happening in your day and how you are doing today?

    I have just had the most amazing Chai latte and it will set me up for a happy few hours at least...I love the smell and the warmth and just having the cup to hold that makes me feel good.

    I am off shopping tonight to get my daughter a new back pack for school and other than that there is not much happening for me today..what about you?

    Hugs to you

    Sarah xx

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  21. Missing user
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    15 May 2021 in reply to Aaronsis
    hi Sarah. sorry i didn't reply. i go on and off the forums. i don't feel like i belong, or have any place that i call my happy place, or my own, on here. i don't even reply on my own thread all the time. i'm really struggling a lot lately.
  22. Aaronsis
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    24 May 2021 in reply to Missing user

    Hey mb20lover

    I hear what you are saying in that you are on and off the forums, that is totally fine and no explanation is needed. Sometimes you need to chat and sometimes not, but always know that here you are welcome, you are supported and that people care. I hope you can feel that by being here with us.

    How are things going for you lately?

    It has been some time since we did chat and I am wondering how you are going?

    Great to chat to you some more and hope to chat some more soon

    Sarah xxx

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