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  1. Croix
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    18 November 2017 in reply to RunGirl

    Dear RG et al.~

    Well, thank you, I'd not known Prof Hastings had such talents and I'd not heard the Jim Croce version either -a new song. It very much reminds me when my first wife was passing away, not a happy episode and like so many I'd have given a lot for more time. Still it was a long time ago and the matter reduced to tolerable sadness mixed with happy recollections.

    I wanted to cheer myself up after that so I played another about time, wanting to go back in time

    I Wish Stevie Wonder

    Croix

  2. RunGirl
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    19 November 2017 in reply to Croix

    Croix it sounds like you have been through some pretty awful stuff. I won't push you to share because you seem to gain more strength from helping but I am a very good amateur psychologist so please approach me at any time on my thread.

    Re the muppets version I love the way he drinks his potions and gets younger every verse....then the bittersweet moment where he explodes back to his white-bearded self again. I actually don't mind getting older and have for some time been more comfortable with older men - my ex husband was 16 years older than me and my current partner is 11 years older.....but we've been friends for 17 years. the song in my mind that resonates most for me about him is that one....Time In A Bottle.....because we were always so close and I'd like to go back in time and erase the last ten years, even if it meant missing my European and celebrity-socializing times.....and make a real life with him. but we're doing it now and I'm doing my best to not hurt him with my disorders. In turn he is doing his best to help. But if I could have just kept our time in a bottle....

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    19 November 2017 in reply to RunGirl

    Dear RG et al.~

    That's very kind of oyu, I'm pretty OK with my first wife's death. It was 20+ years ago and an awful lot has changed since. My probs stem from being a policemen, and I try to keep them under control. I have pretty good support. I did find the one time I explained a rather minor incident in a thread here I ended up leaving that thread strictly alone afterwards - too uncomfortable.

    Trying to erase part of one's life, well it sounds nice and I think I discussed it here before. The long and the short of it is one would end up a different person, maybe not one your partner wold be so attracted to - who knows.

    Yes, now I remember, we were discussing Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, one of the few times I did not mind Jim Carey, he did a good job, similar effort to The Truman Show. In Spotless the theme seems to be you can erase events, but basic nature and inclination seeps though anyway.

    All speculation of course

    Croix

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  4. RunGirl
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    19 November 2017 in reply to Croix

    croix

    Totally agree with you re the Jim Carey Movies as his two works of art and the philosophy behind them. after those it always bewildered me, the movie choices he made, Scually Man On The Moon was brilliant characterization, one has to admit, The problem for him was he took a long time trying to step out of character, such was his commitment to method to acting the role

  5. RunGirl
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    20 November 2017 in reply to Croix

    Croix have you read Gerrald Durrell's books, especially the Corfu trilogy? Autobiographical, Delightful gentle dry humour and marvellous portrayals of his eccentric family and early scientific discoveries as a boy in early 20th century Corfu, with the later books dealing with his amazing time on the Galapagos and the Zoo he founded in Jersey with his wife. There it is again....Jersey!!!

    best

    RunGirl

    PS I sent out a bit of a distress call on my thread. Could you take a look if you're up to it?

  6. Croix
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    21 November 2017 in reply to RunGirl

    Dear RG~

    (Please see your thread for a sensible reply)

    I've most of Gerald Durrell's book up to the late 70's and have watched a lot of his TV series starting I think with Zoo Packet. While I understand he was not the easiest person to live with he made an enormous contribution to conservation (plus the Jersey economy:)

    Another husband and wife team from that era was Armand and Michaela Dennis, Like Lee Durrell Michaela was a second wife and featured in their many series. I remember their On Safari on UK Tv.

    Talking of Jersey, I thought the TV series Bergerac with John Nettles (also a cop in Midsomer Murders) gave rather a nice idea of the place.

    (Amazingly a lot of this stuff is still on YouTube)

    Croix

  7. Moonstruck
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    25 November 2017 in reply to Croix

    Hi Croix...I saw on the other thread you watched Moonstruck. I am glad. I was madly in love with my married man at the time it came out...it always made me feel joyous and brimming with happiness. It still reminds me of him..gosh they were happy times.

    You know all that stuff about me feeling so sad about Happy Memories on your other thread??. Here's another thing (if I am allowed to put it here)......I just came across some photos on my son's FBook from a few years back of him overseas on some gorgeous island. I had never seen them before. He looked so beautiful, so handsome, such beautiful surroundings, so much joy and happiness ....I had to stop looking at them.

    they were too beautiful. Too much beauty invokes unbearable sadness and longing (for what???) within me.

    thanks for letting me share......Moon S

  8. Croix
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    25 November 2017 in reply to Moonstruck

    Dear Moon~

    You are welcome, here or in your own thread. Actually I think we have it Topsy-turvy at the moment with talk of movies and songs over there and more serious stuff here - not to worry, it will be fine.

    I'm glad you have those photos, I do think in time you will look at them simply which gladness and no greif.

    I'm sure your mentioning them here will inspire others to reach into their photo albums too.

    Croix

  9. Moonstruck
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    25 November 2017 in reply to Croix

    Croix....just to clarify one minor point then I'll get off!! Didn't look at his photos with "grief"..he's still very much alive , more alive than anyone I know actually. Just in case someone thinks my son has passed away or something....movies...movies...ummmm....oh yeah Love Actually is on TV (again) soon...surprise surprise!!

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    25 November 2017 in reply to Croix

    Hi all,

    Just a quick comment about the muppets.

    Advertising is significantly more successful when cartoon characters or muppets are used instead of real people. They say this is because as children we loved and trusted cartoon characters/muppets etc and they were always there for us as children. Even if we felt scared, bored, unloved these characters were there for us. They never hurt us or let us down.

    Apparently, if Fred Flintstone is used in advertising men's razors he is more successful than any other famous person....as our inner child believes Fred would never lie to us.

    We are naturally attracted to cartoon characters/muppets, not only because they were part of our childhood but because of the feelings (happy, safe, funny, loved, consistent, reliable etc) that they subconsciously stir in our minds/brains.

    SM

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    26 November 2017 in reply to Sad_Mushroom

    Dear SM et al.~

    It's nice to see you here SM.

    Your remark about Muppets and advertising made me curious so I went to their wiki and looked up what they had been up to. I was amazed at the number of commercial ads they had featured in, everything from dog food (Purina Dog Chow) where that company offered $100,000 to own Rowlf outright - which Jim refused.

    Through to cars (2014 Toyota Highlander commercial) which was later made into the music video (No Room For Boring) which featured a whole heap of them lead by Floyd Pepper,

    You are right, that portrayal of innocence does give ordinary commercial plugs a certain standing. Actually they are stand-alone works of art, one can happily ignore the product.

    I've a coffee-table book "The Kermitage Collection" which features Kermit, Ms Piggy and others spoofing famous works of art such as the Mona Lisa (Mona Moi) done in the days before digital methods were available. Very realistic and great fun.

    Croix

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    1 December 2017 in reply to Croix

    Croix

    This is my first time here.

    Last week my daughter took me for an early birthday present, to see Muriel's Wedding the musical. If you liked the movie you would like the musical. I saw a background program on the making of the musical and the director spoke about how he felt like a failure before he made the movie so decided to make a movie about his failures.

    The lead character Muriel does not fit in and is different so many can relate to her in all her awkwardness.

    Just wondering if anyone has seen Muriel's wedding the movie or the musical.

    Quirky

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  13. Croix
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    1 December 2017 in reply to quirkywords

    Dear Quirky et al.~

    You are very welcome here. I really liked the film, which has a happy ending (compulsory for me) and ABBA music too:) In fact it is one of my two most favorite Australian movies (the other being Priscilla)

    I live away form the big lights, but would like to see the musical if I ever got the chance, maybe it will travel if successful enough. Is the music mostly ABBA or other stuff?

    Croix

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    2 December 2017 in reply to Croix

    Croix and everyone

    I live a long way from the big smoke too, but my daughter loves shows .

    I thought it would be all ABBA and there are a lot of ABBA songs but musical couple Kate Miller-Heidke and Keir Nuttall wrote the dialogue songs. They were very energetic combined with great dancing. However I could not remember one song they wrote.

    I suppose I kept thinking about feeling like a failure wanting to fit in. At school I could not find a group I felt comfortable in and more than once I was told to leave a group as I did not belong.

    It is interesting that most people relate to Muriel and Rhonda rather than the popular girls. Of course the popular girls were made to look ridiculous.

    Quirky

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    2 December 2017 in reply to quirkywords

    Dear Quirky et al.~

    Pity it is not all ABBA although I suppose the costs would be prohibitive. There are certainly enough songs of theirs to find the right one for just about any occasion.

    I'm not surprised most relate to Muriel and Rhonda. If I remember the film correctly they explore false values, growing up and reliability friendship and kindness - though it's a pretty long journey - and eventually reach a pretty good state.:)

    I guess you could say it was a 'coming of age' movie. This makes me think - for no particular reason - of another: Cinema Paradiso in which a young lad learns what is important in life with the help of a blind cinema projectionist.

    Croix

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    15 December 2017 in reply to Croix

    Hi Croix and a familiar wave to Quirky.

    I am popping in here very quick like to thankyou Croix. I read your post to me on another thread. It touched my heart in a nice way to know you noticed I had not been around as much. So very kind of you. I hope you are okay? I am fine too. May you have a beautiful Christmas with much love shared around with those you are closest to.

    Shell x

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    15 December 2017 in reply to Guest_1055

    Dear Shell~

    I'm really pleased you replied and are doing fine, I'm managing too. I'll return your wishes too and ope you have the very best of Christmases and New Year

    Croix

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    16 December 2017 in reply to Croix

    Hi Croix....saw a good one called Shop Girl with Steve Martin (not being silly for a change) and Clare Danes. I think you would like it.

    looking forward to seeing Swingin Safari in cinemas in January...back to the 70s suburbia..(yes I was there) girls in long halter neck dresses, blokes in safari suits, wide legged pants, the cubes of cabana and cheese on toothpicks, casks of wine....the whole bit!

    A real send up of what it was like in Aust then....these stars came together on the Gold Coast to film it...Kylie Minogue,Guy Pearce ( together again from Neighbours) Julian McMahon (hope he can get rid of his US accent) Asher Keddie.........life seemed so much simpler then!

  19. Croix
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    16 December 2017 in reply to Moonstruck

    Dear Moon~

    Nice to see oyu back.

    I'll look out for that Steve Martin one, I've always gone out and got the ones your recommended -Holiday, Moonstruck and so on and have always been glad I did. sometimes have to wait a while till I see them s/hand, but they always pop up.

    Did you ever see Mermaids?

    Croix (for whom the 70's was not all that simple:)

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    18 December 2017 in reply to Croix

    Yes I remember enjoying Cher in Mermaids. Those 2 girls of hers have certainly grown up since then...Winona Ryder and Christina Ricci. Am I right that you don't like movies with "unhappy or tragic endings"? Or movies that contain people suffering or dying in any way? (sorry if I have upset you just by mentioning it...just wanted to make sure)...xx

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    18 December 2017 in reply to Moonstruck

    Dear Moon~

    No hassles, happy endings are the way to go nowadays:)

    -C

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    24 December 2017 in reply to Croix

    Can you lip-read Croix? Because I am not shouting this out loud while wearing a red & white hat and draping you in tinsel.....I am silently mouthing it......"Merry Christmas"...........

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    24 December 2017 in reply to Moonstruck

    Dear Moon~

    You are not turning into George H. W. Bush are you? I think he said something about lips

    Actually from you that is a very special concession and effort. So in return may I wish you the most speedy of Christmases, one you hardly notice has arrived before it is gone into history, and of course a new year full of the sort of prospects you yourself would wish for.

    Croix (the festive walrus)

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    11 January 2018
    Dear All~
    I will not be around for a while as I need a rest. I will be back before that long
    Croix
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    11 January 2018 in reply to Croix

    Hi Croix,

    just spotted your thread.

    Have a nice rest, be kind to yourself. ⭐️

    Karen

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    12 January 2018 in reply to Croix

    Hi Croix (and a wave to GG),

    Good to hear my friend. You give so much to others it is about time you saved a little care for yourself too. Hope you feel better soon and come back with a new memory for your happy memories thread. Take good care of you please!

    ❤ Nat

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    13 January 2018

    Hi Croix

    I've only been on BB a few days and the name I keep seeing to help people is yours!! Have a good rest and will see you when you return. Thank you so much for your support in such a short time :)

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    13 January 2018 in reply to Croix
    Have a good well- deserved rest Mr Croix!!
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    15 January 2018 in reply to Croix

    Croix,

    Sending u well wishes just in case you need them. I hope you are doing OK xox

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    3 March 2018 in reply to monkey_magic

    Dear Croix. have you abandoned this lovely thread now? don't you want to Parlez with us any more?

    Are you OK? Seen any good movies lately? What has been happening in your world...mainly good things I hope.

    luv Moon x

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