Dear RG et al.~
That's very kind of oyu, I'm pretty OK with my first wife's death. It was 20+ years ago and an awful lot has changed since. My probs stem from being a policemen, and I try to keep them under control. I have pretty good support. I did find the one time I explained a rather minor incident in a thread here I ended up leaving that thread strictly alone afterwards - too uncomfortable.
Trying to erase part of one's life, well it sounds nice and I think I discussed it here before. The long and the short of it is one would end up a different person, maybe not one your partner wold be so attracted to - who knows.
Yes, now I remember, we were discussing Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, one of the few times I did not mind Jim Carey, he did a good job, similar effort to The Truman Show. In Spotless the theme seems to be you can erase events, but basic nature and inclination seeps though anyway.
All speculation of course