Hi Lynne,
Welcome to the forum. I've been on here for 2 months and racked up 280 posts so I've been busy. The beauty of this forum is you can spread your knowledge to those less fortunate and the plus is you can expand your own knowledge about mental illness.
I'm 58yo. I have bipolar 2, dysthymia (another depressive illness), anxiety and depression. I likely had ADHD when younger. My mother likely had BPD but is in denial. My older brother took his life in 1979 and I have a younger sister that has deep depression.
I'm stable now and have down days less often. I realise (and promote on this forum) that a mix of things can help one to recover from mental illness to a satisfactory level. Environment changes, proper diagnosis and medication, family issues resolved, removal of toxic people from your life, less social media, spiritual happiness, positive thinking etc.
Now to you dear Lynne. I'm so glad you have written on here. Birthdays....is not a true reflection of love from a family. Forgetting your birthday is not an example of revenge. Young people are so busy nowadays. And hubby....well when I remember a birthday say a week beforehand I give them their present then so I wont risk forgetting the day- which I usually do!!!!! Let it slide. Dont get caught up in a world of disappointment over things that could be simply forgetfulness.
A grey nomad's life sounds good but I've learned that for every positive there is a negative and visa-versa. This lifestyle would or could give you a sense of lack of home life, lack of security. With less mobility you described you are dependent on hubby more.Just mentioning it as a possible effect on you.?
I cant seek anything else I could be of help with except have faith in your family and not let the little things get in the way of OVERALL family contentment. Life is tough for us but we posters are here for you. I am amazed at the friendships I have developed here even though I'll never meet them in person. It is a place I feel with comfort and care. One of the same. Feel free to post daily issues you have so you can get advice. Read as many threads as possible including "ongoing treatment"
Finally, endeavor to seek the love of life itself. We all get caught up in our issues. Take a few minutes every day to maybe- watch a flower bloom, walk the dog, share vegies with a new arrival at the caravan park. You are unique, you are a beautiful human being.....we just need to be told that sometimes.
cyber hug .