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Topic: Is anyone up for a chat?

  1. Guest_1055
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    7 December 2015 in reply to BKYTH

    Hello, I am new to this particular thread, anyone on the forums want to have a chat?

    OK 

  2. Missing user
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    7 December 2015 in reply to Guest_1055
    Hi Shelley Anne.  This isnt one of the threads I've participated in before either.  But yeah, I'm happy to chat.  Whats been happening in your life lately?
  3. BKYTH
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    7 December 2015 in reply to Guest_1055

    Sure. What do you want to chat about? Perhaps Sherie has already asked that question? I would like to hear what you have to say.            Philip,

     

  4. Guest_1055
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    7 December 2015 in reply to BKYTH
    Hey Philip I'm unsure if Sherie is still on the forums. And I am not sure what are want to talk about. Oh wait, yes can you tell me about that sitting position your are in, is it yoga?
  5. Missing user
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    7 December 2015 in reply to Guest_1055
    Yes, I'm still here Shelley Anne ..................
  6. Guest_1055
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    7 December 2015 in reply to Missing user
    Hey Sherie, now that I have asked for a chat, I am unsure what to chat about, I am not good at small talk at all. Do you have any ideas?
  7. Missing user
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    7 December 2015 in reply to Guest_1055
    I'm not big on small talk either actually.  Fine pair aren't we?  I'm actually joined the Forum because I cant talk to anyone about my issues, and dont really have any friends anyway.  My psych suggested the BB Forums could be good for me.  
  8. Guest_1055
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    7 December 2015 in reply to Missing user
    I did smile a little with your comment about being a fine pair. Yeah I don't find it easy at all to make friends. And I have never understood small talk
  9. Missing user
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    7 December 2015 in reply to Guest_1055
    Ha ha, jolly good.  Glad I got a smile anyway.  I've never understood small talk either.  And yet as part of my therapy for PTSD I need to talk about things.  But so far I just have not been able to do it.  I find it all so hard.  I've always been a bit of a loner and definitely introverted.  My husband is bordering on narcissistic and I have lost touch with the few close friends I used to have.  So now I basically just keep to myself.  The only person I can really talk to is my psych.  But she's great.  Unfortunately I dont get to see her as much as I'd like.  Used all my 10 mental health sessions by August, so now have to wait until next year. So thats a bit hard.
  10. Gruffudd
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    7 December 2015 in reply to Guest_1055
    I would be a third on the small talk. You know those chat things that pop up, I can't use them they are a little too instant and demanding for me. 
  11. BKYTH
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    7 December 2015 in reply to Guest_1055
    I practice Buddhist meditation. That sitting position is called 'the full lotus position'. And while it is in no way a position necessary for effective meditation I decided to do whatever was necessary to be able to sit in it. I did so as an act of self discipline.                                                                                                                                                                 I have never practiced yoga. But I find in sitting in this way during long sessions of meditation that my spine and shoulders do not ache as they used to do in other positions due to slouching forward. In this position I feel like a tree stump. My spine remains straight and firm and my shoulders are not compelled to struggle against gravity and therefore are relaxed which I find beneficial                                       Philip.
  12. Guest_1055
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    7 December 2015 in reply to Missing user
    Do you find you are better at writing then say verbally speaking? I think I am. Yeah I am married too, but also a loner.
  13. BKYTH
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    7 December 2015 in reply to Guest_1055
    To Shelley anne and Sherie I would add that we make a fine trio.                 Philip.
  14. Gruffudd
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    7 December 2015 in reply to Guest_1055
    Shelley anne and Sherie have you come across each other elsewhere on these forums? 
  15. Guest_1055
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    7 December 2015
    Hey Rob, Philip and Sherie, I do actually find it funny in a way that we all don't go for the small talk. What are we supposed to do then?
  16. BKYTH
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    7 December 2015 in reply to Guest_1055
    I love to write. I appreciate the possibilities in language. It is not superior but for me I am as authentic as I can be in that medium. Verbal exchanges are compromised by the ego of the other. Their beliefs and attitudes and the ingrain defenses that they have established in support of them reduce me to muteness.  Equally I have no capacity for small talk nor the desire to establish such a capacity.                                                                                                      Philip.
  17. Missing user
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    7 December 2015 in reply to Guest_1055

    Mmmm, been trying to respond but system keeps crashing.  Hope we dont suddenly have 4 responses from me!

    In answer to your ealier question Shelley Anne, yes I am much more comfortable in my written expression.  And at least I know it will come out as I mean it to.  Cant say the same for verbal communication however.  I think there is a disconnect between my brain and my tongue.

    Yes Gruffudd I think I have been on other threads where I have 'met' Shelley Anne before.

    Anyway thanks for the opportunity to at least attempt small talk.  ha ha.  

    Nite all 

  18. Guest_1055
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    7 December 2015

    Rob I don't think I like the pop ups either. I don't think Sherie and I have meet on other threads, but I have read some of her comments or posts though. I am not sure if she is still here. I actually feel a bit dumb now, because I started this session wanting a chat, and I don't even know what I am doing.

     

     

     

     

  19. BKYTH
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    7 December 2015 in reply to Guest_1055
    Nothing. Examine yourself and find your own voice. Small talk is an essential ingredient in life. Much that is rich and meaningful arises from it. I have come to understand, and more importantly accept, that silence will be a constant companion in my life. That silence can speak as loudly as the most socially adept voice can. The less of an opportunity I have to speak the more I can reflect on that which I would say if the situation were to arise where it was possible.                                               Philip.
  20. Guest_1055
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    7 December 2015 in reply to BKYTH
    Are you a professional writer Philip? I have read some of your posts in other forums. Did you mentioned that you were almost homeless? I do have a heart for the homeless, because I hear about them from my husband's work on the trains
  21. Gruffudd
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    7 December 2015 in reply to Guest_1055
    I wouldn't feel bad Shelley anne, I think you are rather good at connecting with others through writing. I think my issue with chat is the pressure to respond right away. My sense of time seems to be all together slower then those around me at times.
  22. Guest_1055
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    7 December 2015 in reply to Guest_1055
    OK this was my very first attempt at social like chat Bit scary for me.......
  23. BKYTH
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    7 December 2015 in reply to Guest_1055
    No but I am accomplished at it and have won some awards that give some credence to that claim. I write to be heard not to awarded or published. I have been homeless and probably will be again in a few days.                             I accept whatever circumstances I find myself in as resistance is futile and serves no useful purpose.                        Philip.
  24. BKYTH
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    7 December 2015 in reply to Guest_1055
    I've responded to your post but it seems to have disappeared.             Philip.
  25. BKYTH
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    7 December 2015 in reply to Guest_1055
    I will attempt to respond to your post again. No but I seem to have some capacity in the area and have won some awards that give credence to that claim. I have been homeless before and will be again shortly. Philip
  26. BKYTH
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    7 December 2015 in reply to BKYTH
    I will probably not be able to make many more posts on this site as the street awaits me. But what saddens me in my experience on BB is peoples ability to simply disappear in the midst of conversations. The commitment that you invest in expressing your situation and in attempting to recognize theirs evaporates into instant dead ends. The experience is cruel in its self indulgence and devoid of the very things that draw us to this place.                         Philip.
  27. HelenM
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    8 December 2015
    • Hi Bkyth and Shelley Anne and any others. Firstly I ynotice it's December 8 over your bit (Scottish term). Here it 's a dreich  (meaning rainy and miserable) Monday afternoon. 
    • Bkyth.  I know sometimes if I post I come straight off as I feel too stressed to continue. In a chat I think it's polite to say goodbye. Having said that there's a time lapse for the post to be checked. 
    • I think, Bkyth and Sh An, chatting on here is great. Good idea Sh an. I hope you don't mind me shortening your name. 
    • My problem is I am terrible at using computers. These blue spots came on their own but they look quite good so I will leave them. Which is good because I wouldn't know how to get rid of them. 
    • I used to be on a support group where people started a chat thread. It was very good but ended up getting clique y. As long as everyone is included it seems really good. 
    • These blue spots make my post look very official. I'm actually a very disorganised person. 
    • I'm going to the pictures with my son soonish. It's Sunset Song and we've both read the book. I'm not keen but I know I'm capable. 
    • Helen x
  28. HelenM
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    8 December 2015 in reply to BKYTH
    Off I go to the pictures now   x
  29. Guest_1055
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    8 December 2015 in reply to BKYTH

    I am so sorry Philip you were saddened by my disappearance. Truly. It makes me sad. I do appreciate you reaching out and replying to my invitation to chat. I hope you will forgive me.

    Xxx

  30. Guest_1055
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    8 December 2015 in reply to Gruffudd

    Thanks Rob, for your encouragement. But I feel sad, because I fear that Philip may feel rejected by me, And I can not stand the thought of that....

     

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