dear PMMASE, did you say incompetent, there is never anybody with depression, anxiety etc. that can tag themselves as such.
Although people may feel as though they are we find it hard to accept, because depression, anxiety or what ever has control over you and making you feel this way, we understand this, because we have been there ourselves.
I don't understand the Asian culture, but from what I have seen on TV the parents can be rather strict, correct me if I'm wrong.
Once we start comparing ourselves to our friends this can be a big down fall when we are in depression, it only deepens our illness, who cares if little Johnnie has a new car and I have a bomb, does that make him/her a better person, no way, sure I would like to have a new car, but that can't happen yet.
He or she can go around being Fonz (Happy Days TV show ) with his leather coat on and all the girls want him, or being a famous female with all the males wanting to date her, but not yet I have depression which I have to address first.
Your time will come, and when it does you will become a stronger person, not that you believe so now, but trust us, it does happen.
I'm obviously a male, but girls do have PMS, ouch, but there are other problems that need attention, but we aren't sure of your age, as J*** says you maybe at high school, which would then have your parents wanting to take control of what you do.
Hope that you can reply back to us. Geoff. x