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Topic: I feel very lonely. No one to talk to.

  1. jtjt_4862
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    21 July 2021 in reply to Slippers

    Heya Slippers,

    It's great to hear that you've had your first online session with your psychiatrist. Keep up the sessions! May I also commend your courage for seeking out help too, from both the forums and your psychiatrist. You're doing really well for yourself, and it shows how capable you are with taking care of yourself one small step at a time. Hope you're able to give yourself some love for making it this far by yourself, and I believe things will turn out better for you in the future.

    Thank you for the update on your end as well. Hopefully your nights are much warmer with your new sleeping bag. Sorry to hear that your home needs more renovation to it as well, and how you feel your sisters are mistreating you... How did your weekend went? Did you manage to find a cheaper property to purchase?

    Always here to listen to you Slippers. Will be rooting for you!

    Jt

  2. Here2Talk
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    22 July 2021 in reply to Slippers

    Hi slippers,

    You’ve already taken steps to help yourself eg seeing a psychiatrist, so you deserve credit for that act of kindness to yourself. Posting here too, having social connection with other people on this platform.

    You have some legitimate concerns regarding your family, finance and your housing situation. Hopefully in time you will be able to resolve those things...

    You’re living in a caravan at your mother’s property at the moment hey?

  3. Slippers
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    25 July 2021 in reply to Here2Talk
    Yes my sisters campervan. I am grateful that I can use it.
    I have since heard that both of the bathrooms and showers are going to be ripped out and replaced. This has made me feel like I am dirt, who know how long I would be without facilities. After hearing that I have lost my self respect and wonder what the point of life is, i don't see a rosy future. I have another meeting with my psychiatrist this week and I am going to bring it up.
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  4. jtjt_4862
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    26 July 2021 in reply to Slippers

    Heya Slippers,

    Do you have access to facilities at other locations? Sorry to hear that you feel this way about yourself... Hopefully your next meeting with your psychiatrist will help you feel better about yourself. We're all wonderful souls to this world, with our unique characteristics/traits/personality. It may take some time and fumbling around for us to seek out ourselves and accept ourselves for who we are. But I can assure you when you find yourself, everything will be better from there on. Stay strong Slippers!

    Jt

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  5. Here2Talk
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    27 July 2021 in reply to Slippers
    That’s no good slippers.. I think you said money was very tight, but is there any chance you could rent somewhere and at least get some rent assistance or something?
  6. Slippers
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    16 September 2021
    Hello everyone. I hope you are all doing okay. An update on myself, I have been having good and bad days. I have my two cats at home and they are good company particularly at night when I am not working. I have been working from home since late July. The family home is on the market, I have been looking for a 2-bedroom unit and so far, I have been gazumped twice (someone else offered a higher price on a unit I put an offer in for) and that does not help me, I am looking at another unit this weekend. I am back in the house after the renovations have been completed. So its happened that the family home is being sold, realistically I cannot live here the rest of my life but the whole thing scares me. If I don’t find a unit I have a friend that will help me find something I can rent and I can bring my cat with me. I have been told that it is common during any transition to have anxiety. I also feel sad and fear from having to move out of an comfortable environment to an unknown. And moving out of home, my biggest scare is I hope I have enough money to make ends meet and still be able to save money for a rainy day.
     
  7. jtjt_4862
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    19 September 2021 in reply to Slippers

    Hi Slippers,

    It's great to hear from you again, and thank you for your wishes. I'm doing well down in Victoria, and to be honest getting a little sick of lockdown 6.0. But I feel we're almost there and we're almost out of this hole, so until then, just gotta keep going forward until things get better.

    It sounds like things have improved slightly for you since your last update, and although there are good days and bad days, you're doing well and staying strong still. Keep it up Slippers!

    If you were to take up your friend's offer to help you find some place to rent, do you feel you would be in a better financial situation than purchasing a unit? You could set aside a small amount of your income to save for emergency uses such as the rainy day that you described. Even if it's just a small amount of savings (can be $20 a month or more depending on how much you want to contribute), it will still benefit you when you have to use it for rainy day situations. Account that into your finance planning and check to see whether you're still able to purchase a unit.

    If you don't mind me asking, why do you feel sad and fear from having to move out of your comfortable environment? I'm curious to know more about your thoughts.

    Happy to chat with you more Slipper!

    Jt

  8. Slippers
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    16 May 2022
    An update- I am doing better

    Hi all, it’s been a while since I last posted a message on this board.
    I am a lot more settled than before, now that I have a place to live I am less fearful
    I have bought a unit in south western Sydney. It’s nice and I have spent money in renovating it. I remember before moving that I would have a lot to do on weekends, now I find my weekends slow and I need to force myself out of the unit to go and do something fun.

    I worry about the bills and whilst I pay my mortgage on time the money is tight.
    I haven’t spoken to my sisters since my birthday, I know they have their own lives. Their attitude is that I should call them all the time, wouldn’t it be nice for them to call me once in a while

    I met someone a girl at work that I like. I told her that I enjoy her company, we have been talking back and forwards over a month now. The problem is that I work in the same company as her. I don’t want to hurt her feelings and make my work position untenable. I told her that I enjoy her company, she brightens my day. I hope there will be more than friendship, i will take one day at a time.

    I hope to get a response or two with advice; however I will not mind if I don’t. I just wanted to thank for the forum for their advice on the last year and a bit and that I am doing better than I was

    Slippers
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  9. jtjt_4862
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    23 May 2022 in reply to Slippers

    Hi Slippers,

    Welcome back to the forums! It's great to hear from you again, and that you're doing well. How is your cat doing? Are they also adjusting well to the new place that you bought? When I find myself having a slow weekend at home, I like to think of ways I can decorate the place a bit more, and look into DIY challenges like getting a free bookshelf from the Marketplace online, and converting it into something else while aiming to have minimal to zero wastage. I could spend hours looking for tools and parts online just to get one DIY project down heh heh. Hope you're able to find something fun for yourself to do during your free time.

    It's understandable that you don't want to mix in relationships within a professional environment, as it can cause things to be awkward if things don't turn out well. Though I've heard of stories where people have met their significant others thru working in the same company. So I'd say to go with whatever feels right for yourself, and be in the moment to experience it. Like you said, take one day at a time :) .

    Keep it up, and keep loving yourself Slippers. Hope to hear from you again soon!

    Jt

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